Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys

You know that feeling when a conversation ends and somewhere on the drive home you think, I should have said that. For my guest today, that kind of staying quiet went on for seventeen years. She built a career, a marriage, a family. She thought she was good at reading people. Then her husband asked for a divorce and she realized the one person she had stopped listening to was herself. If you'v...

My guest, Emma Ferris, had all the tools. She was literally a nervous system coach. And she still handed over six figures to a man she loved who turned out to be a convicted con artist. Her body was sending signals the whole time, but her brain had very convincing reasons to keep going anyway. If you've ever looked back at a relationship and thought "I felt it and I still didn't stop,...

Your intuition hasn't abandoned you. It hasn't gone quiet. Something specific is drowning it out, and until you name it, you'll keep second-guessing yourself right out of your own best decisions. This episode is for any woman over 40 who's wondering why she can't trust herself in dating anymore. You used to know things. You used to have good instincts. And somehow, somewhere along the way, all tha...

You already know you keep choosing unavailable men. What you might not know yet is why. My guest this week, Pi Venus Winslow, spent years chasing connections that left her with a broken heart and no real answers. What she eventually figured out stopped her cold: the problem wasn't the men. It was a pattern of self-abandonment so deeply wired in that it felt completely normal. Familiar, even. I...

You've Googled it. You've journaled about it. You've asked your therapist. And you still can't tell if what you're feeling is your intuition or just that old anxiety doing its thing again. In Episode 62 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, I'm giving you a clear, body-based way to tell them apart, in real time, before you send the text, before you book the second d...

You can know something 150% and still talk yourself out of it. This override is the central reason you keep ending up in the same place, with the same guy, in a different sweater. In this Season 6 premiere of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, I'm talking about what's really going on when you're dating after 40, doing all the work, and still finding yourself here again. I share...

You've been doing the work. The journaling, the reflecting, the quiet moments where something clicked that you can't quite explain yet. This episode is your chance to feel how far you've actually come. In Episode 60 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we're closing out Season Five with a full-circle look at the identity shift that's been building all season. The shift...

You're not hiding behind healing anymore. You're not stuck in the waiting room. You're actually at the door. And somehow... you're still not walking through it. Here's a clue that something has quietly shifted. The guys who once had you glued to your phone, analysing every text, every pause, every "seen at 9pm but no reply until Tuesday"  they're starting to feel...

If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve done the healing work, raised your standards, and promised yourself “never again” but now find yourself feeling guarded, cautious, and a little closed off,  this episode is for you. In Episode 58 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about the subtle shift from having standards to building emotional walls that quietly block the connection...

If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve done all the things : therapy, journaling, inner child work, energy clearing, and you still feel like, “I’m just not quite ready yet”… this episode is for you. In Episode 57 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about a pattern that looks like growth, but feels like you’re stuck in a waiting room with no one calling your name. Because at s...

If you’re dating after 40 and you’ve built a strong, independent life… but still find yourself attracting emotionally unavailable men or feeling completely drained by dating, this episode is for you. In Episode 56 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast , we’re talking about a shift that sounds simple, but can feel wildly uncomfortable in real life: how to stay open to love without abandoning...

If you’re dating after 40 and the only connections that feel exciting are the ones that leave you anxious, overthinking everything, and wondering where you stand, this episode will change the way you understand attraction. In Episode 55 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast , we’re redefining chemistry and exploring why the “spark” you’ve been chasing might actually be your nervous system r...

Have you ever gone on a date with a genuinely good guy… and then felt a sudden urge to pull away? Not because he did anything weird or said something offensive. Just a strong internal reaction that says: Nope.  If you’re dating after 40 and trying to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men, this moment can be incredibly confusing. Because now you’re wondering: Is this my intuition warning me?...

Last week we talked about anxiety when you like him. This week, we go deeper. Because once you understand your nervous system… the real question becomes: Can you tell the difference between fear and intuition while you’re sitting across from your date? Not later. Not after a three-hour debrief with your friends. In real time. In this episode, we move from managing fear that tries to take over to r...

If you’re dating after 40 and you finally meet someone you genuinely like… and instead of feeling calm and excited, your body goes into panic mode, this episode is for you. Anxiety means something matters. When you’ve spent years loving emotionally unavailable men, your nervous system learns that connection equals risk. So when a kind, emotionally present man shows up, your body can interpret that...

If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself trying to secure your place in someone’s life, by explaining yourself, being endlessly understanding and waiting for him to be ready, this episode is for you. In Episode 51 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast, we’re talking about one of the most subtle but powerful patterns in dating: the auditioning identity. This is the pattern where y...

If you’re dating after 40 and keep finding yourself in the role of emotional caretaker, always understanding, always giving the benefit of the doubt, always staying longer than feels good, this episode is for you. In Episode 50 of the Stop Chasing Unavailable Guys Podcast , we’re talking about one of the biggest hidden blocks to healthy love: the emotional caretaker identity . This is the pattern...

If you’re dating after 40 and keep feeling drawn to emotionally unavailable guys even though what you want is calm, secure love, this episode will help you understand why. In the first episode of Season 5, we’re talking about something many women experience but rarely question: why healthy love can feel flat or even uncomfortable when your nervous system has been shaped by intensity, uncertainty,...

If you’re a single woman over 40 who’s tired of choosing emotionally unavailable guys, doubting yourself, or wondering why dating feels so exhausting, this episode gives you the roadmap you’ve been missing. In this season finale, you’ll learn the 3-step method designed to help you emotionally reset, trust yourself again, and finally attract the kind of healthy, deeply connected love you’ve been lo...

If you’re dating after 40 and you feel like you are the thing getting in your own way, this episode is going to help you finally move forward. Today we’re unpacking the one pattern that kept me single for years and delayed meeting my husband until I was 44: self-doubt. In this episode, I’ll walk you through: Why self-doubt is not a personality flaw, it’s a learned pattern The surprising connection...

If you’ve been dating after 40 and you’re starting to lose hope, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing the truth: feeling stuck isn’t a sign that love is passing you by, it’s actually the doorway to reconnecting to yourself, rebuilding confidence, and finding the kind of healthy love you truly want. I’m sharing a personal story from one of the l...

How to Stop Believing It’s Too Late for Love: A Guide for Women Over 40 If you’ve ever had that sinking fear that love has passed you by… you’re not alone. Dating after 40 can feel like a dizzying merri-go-round, with no way to jump off! One minute you’re hopeful, and the next you’re convincing yourself you should just buy the tiny house, adopt five cats, and call it a day. But here’s the real tru...

Dating in your 40s can feel like a cosmic rollercoaster. One minute you’re certain today’s the day you meet Mr. Right. The next, you’re on the couch, wine in hand, convinced love ghosted you for good.  In this episode, we’re talking about: 💔 The “I’m so close!” optimism high followed by the crash into hopelessness 🛟 How to emotionally support yourself while dating 🌊 The “cosmic surfboard” strat...

If you’ve ever looked at your dating life and wondered, “Is it even possible for me to find real love at my age?,” this episode will remind you that it absolutely is. In this heartfelt conversation, Truly Eleanor, Intuitive Dating Coach, opens up about the moment she turned 40 and thought her chance at love was over. She shares how deep-rooted beliefs around age, worthiness, and scarcity nearly co...

If you’ve ever left a date feeling confused wondering if you liked him, if he liked you, or if you accidentally ignored your intuition again, this episode is for you. As an intuitive dating coach who found love in her 40s, I’m breaking down the exact post-date reflection process that helped me stop chasing unavailable guys and finally attract my husband. You’ll learn how to check in with your body...