Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life For Radical Success

Episode Summary In this episode, Rita breaks down the People Pleaser Identity - a core codependent pattern that keeps you stuck in overgiving, burnout, and lack of self-trust. She explains how people pleasing is not kindness, but a learned survival strategy rooted in emotional management. This episode helps you recognize the behavior, understand its origin, and shift into healthier boundaries and...

If you struggle with perfectionism, overthinking, fear of judgment, or fear of failure, this episode is for you. In this episode, Rita breaks down the Perfectionist Identity - a powerful but limiting pattern many high-achieving women live in without realizing it. What looks like discipline, high standards, and productivity is actually rooted in control, codependency, and emotional over-functioning...

If you’ve ever felt guilty resting or over-delivered, this episode will resonate. Today, Rita breaks down The Achiever Identity - the role so many high-performing women unconsciously step into when they learn their worth comes from productivity, perfection, and emotional over-responsibility. This identity isn’t just about being driven.  It’s about survival patterns formed in childhood , where doin...

Join the 30-Day Meditation Challenge  - We start November 19th, 2025! 15 minutes a day. Live with Rita. Release old patterns and create a new baseline of peace, clarity, and alignment . Sign up here → [30-Day Meditation Challenge] If you’ve ever felt constant money anxiety - even when you’re earning, saving, budgeting, or “doing the work” - this episode explains exactly why. In Part 1 of the Ident...

Episode Summary: In this powerful episode, Rita dives deep into the sneaky ways codependent behaviors infiltrate every area of life - from business and money to relationships and self-worth. She shares her own story of awakening to the drama and chaos that kept her stuck, unpacks how language patterns like “can’t,” “have to,” “always,” and “never” reinforce victim energy, and guides you toward awa...

Episode Summary: After a month-long pause, Rita returns with one of her most powerful episodes yet - centered on the Law of Attraction, Cause vs. Effect, and the power of receiving. She reads a heartfelt prayer for women stepping into new chapters, then dives deep into how beliefs shape reality, why “desire is divine,” and how to shift from waiting for life to change to actively co-creating with i...

Episode Summary: “You’re not lost. You’re not behind. You’re in a sacred space. This is expansion" In this milestone 50th episode, Rita takes you on a deep-dive journey through the messy middle - that liminal space between the old identity you’re shedding and the future self you’re becoming. She shares her personal stories, universal truths, and powerful mindset and somatic tools for navigati...

Episode Summary: In this powerful episode, Rita dives deep into what it really means to be ready for a bigger life. She shares the three signs that you’re ready (even if you’re scared), why fear is boring, and how to let go of limiting beliefs, old patterns, and the identity that no longer fits you. If you’re tired of choosing struggle over unknown joy, this episode is your green light. Top 5 Take...

Your brain isn’t broken—it’s just running old software. This episode will show you how to reprogram it and reclaim your power! Episode Summary: In this fierce and fire-filled solo episode, Rita dives deep into the science and spirituality of thoughts, beliefs, and how our subconscious programming is running the show, whether we like it or not. She unpacks the concept of neuroplasticity, the energe...

👉 Ready to move out of the messy middle and into your next level? Join us inside Wealth & Wisdom dm me for an exclusive invite  💫 Episode Summary: In this powerful episode, Rita unpacks the psychological and spiritual threshold we all face in the “messy middle”  the in-between phase of desiring change but feeling frozen in fear. Drawing from real-life examples, nervous system science, and tr...

You’ve got big goals - don’t waste another month spinning your wheels. Come to the live Q&A on May 7 and see exactly how Wealth & Wisdom can help you ditch burnout and build aligned, abundant results ~    [Click Here to Register] Episode Summary: In this episode, Rita unpacks why you keep circling the same goals but don’t make real progress—and spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy....

Episode 45 – Interview with Jasmyn Jefferson on Around the Block   In this episode, Rita is interviewed on the Around the Block podcast by Jasmine Jefferson, former president of Tacoma Pierce County Association of Realtors. Recorded after Rita's keynote workshop, this candid conversation dives deep into mindset, success in real estate, emotional healing, and showing up authentically—especiall...

Summary: In this powerful episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success , Rita dives deep into the connection between self-abandonment and financial freedom. She challenges listeners to recognize the ways they undervalue themselves, overcommit, and tolerate scarcity—whether in their finances, relationships, or daily lives. Rita shares practical tools to shift from scarcity thi...

Summary: Why do we chase external validation? How does it erode confidence and keep us stuck? In this episode, Rita breaks down the hidden cost of seeking approval and explains how to shift into self-ownership. She shares personal experiences, asks powerful reflection questions, and provides practical tools to stop chasing and start embodying your worth. Reflection Questions: Where in your life ar...

Join us in Wednesday February 26, 2025! Vision II Workshop: Wednesday, February 26, 2025 | 4–6 PM PST  $22 (free for past attendees)  [ Link to register ] DM Rita on Instagram for a coupon code if you need support joining Summary: In this episode, Rita dives into the power of choice—whether you’re feeding your dreams or recycling old stories that keep you stuck. She shares insights about how trigg...

Summary: In this episode, Rita dives into the common mental traps that keep us stuck—fear, scarcity, and limiting stories. She breaks down how childhood experiences shape core beliefs that impact everything from our relationships to our bank accounts. Through the lens of different levels of consciousness, she explores how shifting perception can move you from victimhood to empowerment, and ultimat...

Summary: In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success , Rita dives deep into the concepts of potential vs. kinetic energy and how these ideas can help you move past limiting beliefs into action. You'll discover practical tools for identifying and reframing the stories that keep you stuck, gain insights into how core beliefs are formed, and learn how to create sma...

Summary: In this powerful first New Year episode, Rita guides listeners through a process of identifying and releasing limiting beliefs, negative thought patterns, and codependent behaviors that no longer serve them. She explores how these patterns are often rooted in childhood experiences and societal programming. Rita shares practical tools for forgiveness, self-reflection, and creating empoweri...

Summary In this episode Rita dives deep into the powerful and transformational concept of the Drama Triangle. She explores how unconscious cycles of victimhood, rescuing, and bullying hold us back in relationships, business, and our internal dialogue. Through personal anecdotes, coaching examples, and actionable tools, Rita guides listeners on how to shift from these disempowered roles into the Em...

Episode Summary: In this episode of The Stop Bending Over Podcast , Rita explores the transformative power of self-awareness, integrity, and radical honesty in leadership and personal growth. She shares personal stories about standing in integrity, taking responsibility, and reframing negative meanings assigned to life experiences. The focus is on how shifting perceptions and embracing accountabil...

Episode Summary:   In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into what it really means to feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your dreams. She talks about how patterns of people-pleasing, rescuing, and over-committing keep us from living authentically. Rita outlines three steps—Radical Awareness, Permission to Dream, and Aligned Action—to hel...

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