Stay Mentally Dope

“He’s a good man Savannah!” Who was Savannah’s mama seeing? Because babyyyy who was he a good man too?? We are starting a four-part series discussing each of the ladies from Waiting to Exhale and we are so excited for you to join in this discussion with us. In this episode, we are talking about Savannah from Waiting to Exhale and parental expectations. Join us, Charmaine and Jasmine, as we discuss...

“Ebony and Ivory go together in perfect harmony” That’s what the song says but in this episode the host of Stay Mentally Dope, Jasmine and Charmaine, are discussing The Fresh Prince episode in which one of the aunt’s marries a white man and the family was unsure of how to handle it (Season 2, Ep 6). Join us as we discuss interracial marriage and how this family adjusted to it. Of course we are add...

We are diving into another feel good black movie classic, The Wood. The Wood is about three best friends navigating adolescence and we are discussing all the things about those teenage years. Join Jasmine and Charmaine as they discuss racism, culture shocks, self-confidence, peer pressure, hormones, and love in adolescent years. How do you normalize your feelings and experiences while trying to st...

We are therapists. We are human first. In this episode, we are taking a little bit of a switch up and talking about some of the aspects of being a therapist; the good, the bad, and the funny. We are sharing things that irritate us, how we act outside of work hours, how we implement boundaries, and some of our embarrassing therapist moments that have taken place in and out of therapy sessions. Join...

Friends! How many of us have them? Or maybe the question should be how many of us could maintain the friendship and the changes that happen within them? We’re responding to a listener's question about friendship.  Friendships change and require navigation and boundaries. That requires vulnerability and communication. UGH we know that is not always easy but what is the alternative? Being petty?...

“You think just because you got some blood in your pants you don’t gotta act civilized?” We have so many questions, comments, and concerns! What is the story behind Eve’s Bayou?  We are back at it and this time we are discussing Eve’s Bayou. This movie is LAYERED to say the least. The family dynamics are layered and confusing, there is some parentification, sibling rivalry, and what happens when c...

“Well, Bud they got you painted up like a $2 whore!” Kingdom Come is a comedy staple with an all-star cast. In this episode, Jasmine and Charmaine, two black licensed therapists talk about and share their reactions to this classic movie and all the mental health aspects of it. This movie is relatable. Join us as we discuss black families in grief, coping, over functioning, and difficult familial r...

00:00 intro 01:30 Why friendship is different for Black folks 04:10 The origin of why Black folks are skeptical of friends 07:36 How what our parents taught us impacts our attachment 12:05 Were our parents hypocrites? 18:20 Normalizing Black friendships and self-fulfilling prophecies 20:43 How does this show up in your friendships? In this episode, join Charmaine and Jasmine, two black licensed th...

00:00 intro 02:28 What happens to the family system when parents die? (Eva) 05:15 Is Eva an angry black woman or a survivor? 07:50 Codependency can be a response to tragedy 11:40 How to know if your family was enmeshed? 17:50 How money can equal attachment after people pass away 19:00 When Ray met Eva 25:10 The family wouldn’t have gotten better if Eva didn’t leave 27:40 Building a bridge over pai...

00:00 intro 02:15 Overview of the song (trigger warning S** Abuse) 04:37 When parents are overprotective because of their abuse 06:15 Generational fear and generational coping 07:45 coping with sex, alcohol, exercise, work, etc. 11:05 Why sobriety isn’t about being drug/alcohol free 14:30 Why everyone can relate to sobriety In this episode, Charmaine and Jasmine, two licensed therapists, are discu...

Episode 18 In this episode, Charmaine and Jasmine, two licensed therapists,  are discussing Kendrick Lamar’s song Father Time from his album Mr. Morale and the Big Steppers. We are discussing the context of the song and how it relates to so many of our lives. Join us as we discuss things we learn from our parents, our relationship dynamics with our parents, how we learn attachment and how it shows...

Join Charmaine and Jasmine, two licensed Black therapists, start with the Jaime Foxx show but expand into so many other topics. We talk about trauma, the stigma around therapies, how families struggle when trying to get help for a family member, avoidance, what a therapist should NOT do, and so much more. Time stamps: 00:00 intro 00:30 Defining our relationship 02:10 episode overview 04:00 the sti...

What Do Kevin Hart, Jay Z, and Method Man All Have In Common? Yes, they are all black but they are also healing. Black men glow up. Black boy joy. Black men healing. Black men going to therapy. We don’t care how you identify it but we are here for it! Join Charmaine and Jasmine, two licensed black therapists discuss black men doing their healing and how it is affecting them, their careers, their r...

We’re breaking down the movie Above the Rim and it’s a wild ride. Jasmine and Charmaine, two licensed therapists, discuss trauma, sibling relationships, signs someone is traumatized, the importance of accountability in your life, and 90’s bowl cuts. But what we really want to know is if you knew what a boonk was? Please comment and tell us. Time stamps: 00:00 intro 00:56 Movie overview 02:50 Shep...

Here we go again, ruining your faves. This is part III of Charmaine and Jasmine, two licensed therapists reacting to Soul Food the movie. 00:00 intro 01:55 Defining parentification 04:39- How families parentify kids (things Mama Jo said) 08:24 Is parentification traumatic? Does it change family roles? 10:20 Emotional parentification 14:33 How can you identify a parentified kid or a grown up parent...

We’re doing it again. This is part II of Jasmine and Charmaine, two licensed therapists, reacting or ruining Soul Food the movie. We’re talking about families and how healing in dysfunctional families is really hard. You may have heard of generational trauma but ever heard of intergenerational coping? We break down both in this episode. We have tons of questions that need answers. Let us know what...

Yup, we are talking about the movie Soul Food! We might ruin it for you.  00:00 Intro 02:00 Basics of family dynamics 05:46 Terri 09:25 Mama Jo 20:49 Faith 22:35 Changing your family role 27:17 Dependency/Power Brokering Join us, Jasmine and Charmaine, two licensed therapists, as we dive into all the dysfunction and family dynamics this has to offer. It’s so deep that it will be multiple part...

Let’s talk female friendships. How do you show up in your friendship? What makes someone a good friend? How do you deal with conflict in friendships? In this episode join Jasmine and Charmaine, two therapists, discuss female friendships and how we can maintain them, understand our expectations, and work through conflict. Let us know what questions you have about friendships so we can answer them....

Who affects your relationship? Why did you get married? Do your friendships play a major part in your romantic decisions? Join us in this episode as we are joined by the Black Man Misunderstood Podcast and discuss the movie The Brothers. During this episode we discuss the different characters and how they dealt with their relationships and friendships as well as share some of our personal relation...

Have you ever actually listened to the lyrics to ‘Matrimony’ by Wale? Y’all out here playing this song at your wedding and singing it to your boo? Let's talk. Are you in a struggle love type situation? You know the type of relationship where you guys just can’t seem to let each other go but the situation isn’t really healthy. Are you there? Join Jasmine and Charmaine, two licensed counselors, as t...

How do you define generational trauma? Do you know what it is? Are some things you count as part of your culture or normal as a result of trauma? Join us in this episode as we break down the movie Menace to Society and discuss black culture and trauma within the movie and our society. #MenacetoSociety #TyrinTurner #BlackCulture #LarenzTate #JadaPinkett #southcentral #MentalHealth #MentallyDope #Bl...

Are you scared to be alone? Do you accept things in relationships that you shouldn’t out of fear of abandonment? Do you feel like you are having problems in multiple relationships in your life? In our latest video, we are discussing and defining codependency and attachment issues as we dive into Melanie Fiona’s song ‘It Kills Me’. Join Jasmine and Charmaine, two black licensed counselor as we disc...

Join two licensed therapists as we talk about Trevor Noah's reflection on Kim Kardashian and Kanye West's public interactions. We talk about what post separation abuse is and make this topic apply to everyone. We dissect privilege, desensitization to these issues, and common dynamics in controlling or abusive relationships.

How do you cope with a break up? Join, Charmaine and Jasmine, two black therapist as we discuss Jhene Aiko's song B.S. which is a description of not dealing with well with a relationship ending and how we tend to cope with break ups. We discuss in this episode what coping is and how we tend to cope negatively in situations to protect ourselves. We also discuss what positive coping after a break up...

What are apologies? How do they affect our mental health? How do they shape who we are? Join Charmaine and Jasmine, two licensed counselors, in this episode as they discuss apologies; what they are, what they are not, and what barriers there may be with apologies within the black culture.