Stay Mentally Dope

We love the show ‘This Is Us’ and in this episode we are discussing communication and being intentional in relationships. 00:00 intro 04:10 overview 07:44 is negativity in relationships contagious? 14:30 Relationship fatigue (perhaps why Miguel and his wife got divorced) 17:36 R&B (Randall and Beth) I call marriage 23:08 Kevin and Sophie (attunement in relationships) 27:55 Toby and Kate (When...

The viewpoint of mental health has come a long way….or has it? In this episode of Living Single, Khadijah is going to see a therapist for the first time. We get to witness her apprehensions, how the people around her react to it, and what she gains from it. We are talking all about myths in therapy, myths and narratives around mental health, the stigmas around mental health and therapy, and narrat...

What kind of pressure has your family put on you about how your life should look? Do you live with cultural expectations? Whether your parents are immigrants, rich, or just come from a humble background, we all have expectations put on us from our parents. In this episode, we are talking about the iconic movie Coming to America. We are discussing cultural and family expectations that can affect us...

The enneagram is…. We decided that we wanted to learn more about the enneagram and of course find something within the culture to relate it to, so why not the characteristics of the cast of Girlfriends. We invited the amazing hosts from the podcast Enneagram for the Culture  @EnneagramFortheCulture  to join us in this conversation and explore what enneagrams are, how they do and don’t define us, a...

Have you watched the show on Hulu called How To Die Alone? If not, you definitely should. How To Die Alone follows a woman who is trying to make major changes in her life after having a near death experience. The show covers vulnerabilities, anxiety, friendship, family, and relationship dynamics, boundaries, and conquering fears. It does all of this with a lot of humor and of course we are talking...

It is the holiday season fam. As always we are talking about mental health and the black culture, because that is what we do. The holidays are no different. So, we are discussing a Christmas episode of Everybody Hates Chris. During this episode we will discuss mental illness, how it is viewed, family struggles around commercialism and flexing during the holidays, and how we navigate all of the abo...

How do you deal with your mental health when you don’t have any money? We have a whole episode to discuss some ways to address your mental health when you can not afford or access mental health therapy. Join us as we talk about daily rituals and practices that we can implement to assist with our mental health. Time stamps:  00:00 intro  01:10 Ways to find reduced therapy 05:18 Focus on the body 12...

“That’s family business”. Kanye West’s Family business talks about everything from catching up with family, family who makes fun of you but supports you when you succeed, supporting family even when they are wrong, grieving family through the holidays, to reminiscing on funny and not so funny family memories. Join your two favorite black therapy ladies in this episode of Stay Mentally Dope as we t...

People really out here calling each other emotionally immature and emotionally mature, but we really want to know what that means. So, we are talking about. Join Jasmine and Charmaine, your two favorite black therapists, as we discuss emotional maturity and how it can look in different situations.  Time stamps:  00:00 intro 01:20 What does it mean to be emotionally mature? 09:28 The signs of an em...

We are talking about self-sabotage, self-defeating behaviors, self-limiting beliefs and all that . Join your two favorite black therapists and hosts, Jasmine and Charmaine for this discussion. People mention self-sabotaging behaviors all of the time but we are breaking down what it is and what some of the signs and symptoms are and what it looks like in some of our behaviors. We not only want to d...

Do you have a flosse posse? Do you have a friend group that is part of your support and accountability system? Do you need one? Or think you don’t need one? In this episode, we are talking all things about friendship, accountability, healing and vulnerability as we discuss the movie Girls Trip.  If you have not watched this movie, you definitely should. Join us on this journey as we discuss adult...

“Do revolutionaries still get fried chicken?” Jasmine and special guest, Isis Pettway, two therapists, talk about School Daze. We sort through everything like colorism, respectability politics, caste system in Black culture, texturism, and everything in between.  Time stamps:  00:00 intro 03:15 overview 13:37 the Black caste system 20:24 Light skinnedness (the Gamma Rays & Good Hair, Black Hai...

  “I feel so ordinary except when you’re around me”, “I can't keep no conflict with you boy, can we just rub it out?” If you wonder if I hate you, I don’t. These are just some of the lyrics. She ain’t really hate that man and we are talking about it! Plus, we have questions because there is a lot going on in this song. Join Jasmine and Charmaine as we discuss conflicting feelings in relationsh...

Yup, we are still talking about Stella and her getting her groove back. This time we are talking about her relationships. We are diving into what it is like being the “strong black woman” with all of that trauma that we talked about in the first episode and how that affects attachment styles and relationships. Join Charmaine and Jasmine, two black licensed therapists, as we continue to explore all...

Who is out there trying to get their groove back like Stella? We don’t just mean that you are trying to go to Jamaica and find you a young boo thing. In this episode, we are talking about the overworked and over functioning strong black woman figuring herself out and finding joy. We are aware that it can be so much easier said than done, so join us in this discussion of this concept, what caused i...

My Girllllllllfriends, there through thick and thin. Yup, we are talking about an episode of Girlfriends. The episode we chose is the episode where everything fell apart and Toni and Joan stopped being friends. It was a lot and a lot changed. We are still heart broken. In this We are focusing on the self-care aspect and what happens when we are doing thing in the name of self-care but it is actual...

We are back and we are discussing an episode from one of the greatest shows of all time. No need to debate us, we said what we said. We are talking about Living Single. In this episode, one of the main characters Regine is having a breast reduction and feeling like she is losing her best asset. Regine is learning where she thought her self confidence came from and where it may actually come from....

We are back with another classic black movie and in this episode it is a Thin Line Between Love and Hate. This movie is LOADED and of course we are discussing it through our mental health lens. We are talking about trauma, trauma responses, avoidance, defensiveness, attachment, anxious attachment, and bypassing red flags and signs in relationships. Of course, we also have some questions that need...

Meg THEE Stallion. Whew maybe we are biased but we love some Meg. We also love the song Anxiety and in this episode we are discussing it. Join us as we discuss what anxiety is and how it shows up in black individuals and in this case, black women because yes, it can look different than what people may think. We are discussing Black Girl Anxiety, trauma, and how we deal with these feelings; the goo...

Description info: We are back!!! It’s the final installment of our March Madness Style R&B Challenge. If you missed the second episode click on the playlist below. We partnered with  @BMM_podcast  to talk about all things 90s and early 2000s R&B and debate which songs were the best.  We are counting down to the top song and we know y’all want to know what we picked! Join us on the discussi...

We are back!!! It’s part 3 of our March Madness Style R&B Challenge. If you missed the second episode click on the playlist below. We partnered with  @BMM_podcast  to talk about all things 90s and early 2000s R&B and debate which songs were the best. We are counting down to the top song and we know y’all want to know what we picked! Join us on the discussion and as always: like, subscribe...

What is the top R&B song of the 90s and early 2000s? That is such a loaded question with so many songs coming to mind. We are joined by Justice & Mike of the Black Man Misunderstood Podcast to have this debate challenge. We are doing a March Madness style bracket to break down what we believe are some of the best R&B songs of this era and then to debate which song is ultimately the bes...

“I thought that if I gave him what he needed, he’d give me what I needed” Whew! Of course we had to save Bernie for last in our four part Waiting to Exhale episodes. Bernie found out the hard way what happens when you give your all and lose yourself in other people. Join us, Jasmine and Charmaine, two Black licensed therapists as we discuss Angela Bassett's character, Bernie, from Waiting to E...

Did this lady pray for sex from her ex? We are stepping on some toes today! Yes, she prayed for sex and then she found out he was gay. Let’s not forget that Gloria was trying to raise her teenage son, figure out what parenting could and would look like with her ex, figure out her own self-esteem, be there for her friends, and find love. We are soliciting hugs and prayers for Gloria.  She is the th...

“You raggedy, B*****!” This man showed up drunk in a leather vest and then threw an orange at her. Like come on man! We are back at it again with the Waiting To Exhale Series and this time we are talking about Robin. Join Charmaine and Jasmine, two black licensed mental health therapists, as we discuss all things Robin from Waiting to Exhale and her self discovery and self love journey. We are div...