Spiritual PsiKology

The Four Noble Truths of Buddhism are:  1. Suffering is real  2. Suffering has a cause 3. Suffering can end 4. There is a path out of suffering Renee talks about addiction as a trauma response and as an attempt to escape suffering. But addiction actually becomes a source of suffering itself. Ironically, the solutions to our pain, fear and anger are often found withing the suffering itsel...

Surrender is associated with defeat, but the ego deflation of admitting our limitations can open the door to suprising and unexpected solutions. In fact, it is often only through true surrender of our own limited will, that Divine will or the grace of God/Goddess can enter. Humility, openmindedness and willingness to "let go and let God," can be not just a relief, but an actual life saver. --...

We always have three choices in any relationship. We can accept things as they are. We can ask for change. We can remove ourselves. There are many ways that people can be difficult. Two patterns that can be challenging are victims and bullies. Not suprisingly, bullies and victims often interact with each other like a symbiotic pair.  ----- Please follow me on Insight Timer! Rate, Review &...

Our Shadow is all the things that are a source of shame, guilt and fear that we hide from others and even from ourselves. Often our shadow side is denied or even unconscious - we don't acknowledge that it exists. Shadow holds our anger, greed, lust, jealousy, all the secrets of our lower self or the things that we believe will render us unlovable or unacceptable.   The shadow often drive...

Knowing what's important to us can help us make decisions that impact the quality of our lives. Knowing what’s most important to us, can bring a sense of order, direction and clarity that is profound. Renee offers a simple tool for self discovery that may change the way you understand your circumstances and empower you in unexpected ways. FREE - The Most Important Thing In Your Life Worksheet:&nbs...

There is a spiritual principle that "the truth will set us free." The shadow aspect of this principle is that we are as sick as our secrets. Renee talks about her experiences with drug addiction and alcoholism, shop lifting and dating married men, and how learning to tell the truth completely changed the course of her life.  Like walking a spiral staircase, we can revisit our perspectives on...

Living your dreams is not a luxury. In fact, the roots of depression, anxiety, addiction and much of our dysfunction may be found in our unrealized desires, our unexpressed talents and our undiscovered joy. We are each a unique expression of divinity with something to offer into the stream of life. When we don't live our dreams, we suffer. Supporting and nourishing our authentic self in the world...

Perfectionism is a lie that kills creativity and tells us that we are not good enough, unworthy, unacceptable as we are. What makes people happy is progress and seeking perfection stifles our efforts to just show up, do our best and let go of the results. There are perfect moments. There is always room to grow. But there is not such thing as sustained perfection. Perfection is a fallacy. ----- Ple...

Spirit release and spirit attachment are aspects of working with the dead that are foreign to modern Western culture. But, there is more going on in the metaphysical realms than we might be aware. Renee shares some of her experience with working with the dead and how spirit release has helped more than one of her clients.  ----- Please follow me on Insight Timer! Rate, Review & Subscribe...

Knowing when to be open and when to close ourselves in the different areas of our lives is an important skill that can have big implications for our relationships, our work and our general life experience. Many of us were raised in dysfunction and didn't develop healthy systems for opening and closing emotionally, sexually, financially, socially, creatively or professionally. Learning to discern w...

Hope is a wonderful, energizing attitude. There are many things to hope for in life. But when we lay our hopes on others to change or on outside circumstances to make us happy, we can become discouraged, bitter or worse, stuck in patterns of hopeless hope. Renee examines the Serenity Prayer as an instuction guide for healthy hope and where best to put our energies for personal empowerment and posi...

Many of us feel trapped in lives of seeming priviledge that don't fulfill our deeper needs. We think we "should" be happy with the house, the relationship or the job we have, but deep inside we are depressed, unhappy, wanting something more. When we get in touch with our emotional truth, what we find can set us free. The solutions to our suffering may lie in the feelings we have about our problems...

We can cultivate love like we cultivate a garden. We can grow flowers or fruits with care and attention. We can let the land grow wild, or we can water the weeds. What we focus on expands. Do we focus on the flaws of other and ourselves, or do we focus on what is good and what we want to harvest in our relationships? ----- Check out our free upcoming events and Masterclasses here. Please follow me...

Energy Vampires suck the life force of others. When we feel drained, abused or resentful in our interactions with others, we may be in the presence of an energy vampire. Renee talks about her own destructive patterns both as a victim and as a perpetrator and how becoming honest, emotionally vulnerable and growing in our ability to love is the key to health and wholeness. ----- Check out our free u...

Asking the right questions will get us the answers we seek. It may take some time to answer the biggest questions in life, but if we "live the question," we are more apt to live into the answers. Renee talks about her own winding path through business adventures in Russia, cleaning houses and ultimately finding her life's work in Spiritual Psi-Kology. If we learn to live into our questions, like "...

There's a difference between what we want and what we need, but it's easy to confuse them. Wants tend to be material or superficial, while needs make us healthy and whole. When we spend time and energy chasing what we want we will often end up disappointed because the deeper needs driving us remain unfulfilled. When we can clarify and meet those deeper needs, we will often magically get what we wa...

Inner Demons are our unresolved emotional issues, old wounds, fears and dysfunction. False gods are the people, places and things we chase after thinking they will make us happy or fulfilled. The seven deadly sins could be understood as demons or false gods. Becoming aware of the behaviors and beliefs that cause us suffering or keep us stuck, gives us the power to create positive, constructive cha...

The too good mother is the part of ourselves that wants us to stay safe and comfortable at all costs. The too good mother makes us weak, frightened, limited and often creates the self-hating bad mother and evil step sisters of myth and fairy tale. But there is also a wild mother, the strengthening, challenging aspect of the Life Force that forces us to grow in courage, instinct and intuition. Rene...

When we spend too much time in our heads and not enough in our hearts, our souls and our relationships suffer. We are each individual aspects of the Divine and the human heart is a portal to the infinite. Although being defended and closed might be understandable, the work is to grow in resilience and courage so that we may give and receive the love that is needed and nourishing for all of us. ---...

Everything is consciousness, including us. Informed by Hindu and other deep traditions, Renee describes the greater reality of cosmic unfolding. God experiences Him/Herself through us and through every form in the manifest universe. There is nothing to fear. Everything is perfect. ----- Check out our free upcoming events and Masterclasses here. Please follow me on Insight Timer! Rate, Review &...

Praying for the highest good for everyone involved is a win/win intention. Because we are all connected on the ultimate level, the optimal outcome for us provides the best circumstances for everyone in our life. We can't control much of what happens in the world. However, we do have control over ourselves and our attitudes. Praying humbly and openly for knowledge of the highest good and the power...

We all have inner demons. Our fears, anger, unresolved emotional issues often drive us in negative, destructive ways. But these demons can be resolved, dissolved and even transformed into allies or helpful energies if we approach them with wisdom and compassion. Using an updated version of an ancient Tibetan Buddhist process called "Feeding Your Demons," developed by Llama Tsultrim Allione of Colo...

Sexual anorexia is the avoidance or fear of giving or receiving social, sexual or emotional nourishment. In food anorexia, a person refuses the nourishment of food. Sexual, social and emotional anorexics shut down or refuse to fulfill their needs for intimacy. In the extreme, food anorexics can die of starvation. Sexual and Emotional anorexics are starving their soul and spirit, usually as a way t...

Loneliness is the painful experience of disconnection, longing for love and companionship. Solitude is the nurturing and fulfilling experience of deep time alone and connected with oneself and the larger consciousness system. These are very different perspectives and feelings in the same circumstance of being alone.  Introverts may crave time for themselves, while extroverts crave time with o...

Addiction is about medicating unresolved suffering and hopelessness. Whether it's too much wine, ice cream, Netflix or heroin; facing and healing our underlying issues and being our authentic self is our most important work in this lifetime. There are many ways we distract and dissociate from our own deeper truth and needs.  We all have phoenix energy within us, the ability to die to our old...