Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics

Techniques are efficient, strategic ways of getting a job done or wanted outcome achieved. Advanced Techniques bring together many skills at once to create extraordinary results – and that’s what happened when we brought our 20 years experience as somatic sex educators to the quest of creating the most comprehensive, powerful curriculum about oral play […]

Has oral become a chore? Do you offer dutiful or obligatory oral, but struggle to enjoy it? What happens when we go beyond the scripts and shoulds and start getting curious about what else is possible? Grab our FREE Recipe for the Best. Oral. Ever. here! or jump into our brand new course and master […]

Here’s how to wake up your mouth as a site of erotic pleasure, power and expression. In this episode we share the first step of oral eroticization – becoming aware of your mouth as a place of enjoyment, on your own terms, and doubling down on the pleasure you experience from your own mouth. Want […]

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It’s time to stop dick shaming in all of its forms – from small dick jokes to cruel comments to the hypersexualization of some men and emasculation of others, it is time to call an end to a culture that normalizes dick shaming. Thanks to Hims.com/Pleasure for sponsoring this episode. If you want to start […]

After peak life experiences, there is often Drop: a physical and emotional experience of let-down, depletion and weariness. Knowing about Drop we can better plan for it and tend to it – so we can get ready for our next peak experience! Tune into this episode to learn about Drop, how we can prepare for […]

Shame Slayers, Unite! For the all-new 25 minute video teaching on how to effectively slay the shame and reclaim fearless belonging, please join us for free in the Pleasure Pod! Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Shame is a social experience of feeling unworthy, unlovable, not belonging or lesser than. Shame tells […]

Mapping your Peak Erotic Experiences is a powerful practice to mine your personal history for clues to creating a better sex life for your future! The Peak Erotic Experiences Practice comes to us from the late great Dr. Jack Morin, author of The Erotic Mind, who suggests that we use our own Peak Erotic Experiences, […]

Erotic Touch Activation is our Pleasure Mechanics process to awaken your touch, activate your hands as erotic tools and sensitize your sense of touch. Erotic Touch Activation allows us to shift out of “working hands mode” where we use our hands for functional touch and into using our hands as erotic tools of sensing, feeling, […]

The Five As of Erotic First Aid : What To Do When Good Things Go Wrong As Chris recovers from a recent sex injury, we share the five steps of offering Erotic First Aid. From broken bed frames to thrusting gone askew, we share stories of sex injuries and accidents and offer a reliable framework […]

Praise can feel like loving strokes that go right to our soul’s sweet spots, giving us the affirmation, acceptance and encouragement that so many of us crave – but can also cause embarrassment, discomfort or even humiliation! Some people love being praised for their physical appearance, and others find this distracting. In this podcast episode, […]

Emily Nagoski shares the game-changing tool from her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. The Core Emotional Floorplan is a framework that allows all of us to more clearly see and share their own unique emotional experience, and find pathways back home towards Care, Play and Lust. Join […]

In this intimate interview, Emily Nagoski shares her insights from authoring her new book Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. We dive into the common misconceptions about long term erotic relationships, and what really works when it comes to creating a sex life worth wanting. For a bonus interview and […]

When we Touch To Feel, we unlock boundless potential for sensual, emotional and relational pleasures. Touching To Feel is a lifetime practice of waking up our bodies to FEEL more, feeling the true depth and range of our own emotions, expressing ourselves through touch and touching with purpose and intention to create a wide range […]

Tend The Tender is a phrase that invites us all to bring more loving attention to our most tender places, and to allow others to care for us when we are feeling a bit raw. To be tender is to be human, and yet many of us struggle to ask for care when we need […]

What happens after your lover discloses their fetish- or you discover a fetish or kink and need to talk about it? In this episode we discuss how to bring more compassion and curiosity to conversations about newly disclosed kinks and fetishes. Want more guidance into kink? Join us here. This call was inspired by a […]

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Erotic Touch Mastery, Stroke by Stroke. Get started tonight. Our bodies are sensitive, but not delicate. This phrase is something Chris has been teaching for twenty years, since the early days of the Sexological Bodywork training, in response to a pattern they noticed after teaching erotic touch for hundreds of hours. Many people are hesitant […]

Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to explore the power of daily incremental practice in the realms of love, connection and pleasure. In this free podcast episode we explore how we can all practice Love Every Day, while being patient with change, working with even the most reluctant of partners, and respecting the process of incremental […]

Here’s how to create more sensation and arousal with the pleasure of vibrations! In this podcast episode, we explore how you can create exquisite sensations of vibrations for yourself or a lover, and enjoy the wide range of feeling that vibrations can evoke for us – using just your hands and mouth! We also explore […]

Why do we humans enjoy being afraid? Why does it feel so good to be just the right kind of scared? This spook season, we explore the erotics of fear – what it means to want to be afraid, how we all have different appetites and preferences for fear, and how we can choose to […]

Relaxing into pleasurable touch is one of the most nourishing erotic experiences – but how do we stay relaxed while also being present with our partner, communicating our needs and expressing our pleasure to create a positive feedback loop that you’ll both enjoy? This episode was inspired by a recent personal coaching session. If you […]

Vanilla can be so delicious on it’s own, but with permission to enjoy a wide range of toppings, the possibilities for pleasure become boundless. Maybe it is the whipped cream of extra romance, the sprinkles of sensation play or the spicy popcorn of adding in new toys, you can add so many toppings to your […]

Vanilla is absolutely delicious, but only if we choose to savor it. Vanilla sex is not “plain” or boring in any way – vanilla can be luxurious, decadent and indulgent. In this episode we sing the praises of vanilla sex, and share strategies and tools for deepening our enjoyment of the many pleasures of vanilla. […]

How worried do I need to be about STIs? How often should I get tested? What does a complete STI panel mean? Do I need to get tested every time I have a new partner? I have erectile struggles but only sometimes, and especially on new dates, why? Should I try ED medication? What is […]