Soul Healing Love

Does your relationship have "communication problems?" Do you often feel like your spouse is talking "at" you instead of "with" you? In this episode of the Soul Healing Love Podcast we explore with Amanda and guest speakers, Drs. Bev and Tom Rodgers, that communication problems are typically more than they appear on the surface. Most communication problems are not the inability to talk to each othe...

So you've been listening to each episode of our ADHD Side Quest  (or you've been watching various reels on Insta or Tik Tok) and you think you may have ADHD. So now what?   Join host Amanda Cumbo as she is joined again by Rachel Cunningham as they talk through what to look for in a Clinical Assessment. They highly recommend someone who runs a battery of tests and has a lot of experience...

It can feel overwhelming and scary when you find out your kiddos are diagnosed with ADHD...so join Amanda and Rachel as we help you learn the keys to parenting for your neurodivergent kids!    One key is getting ADHD informed! The more you know about how your child's ADHD brain works so that you can enter into their way of thinking to move more in flow with them than think...

Listen in on part 4 of the ADHD side quest as Amanda and Rachel talk about what it's like to date, mate and relate when one or both partners have ADHD. A huge difference is the way the love cocktail-yes the Love Cocktail-affects the ADHD brain differently and for a different period of time than it affects people with a more neurotypical brain. Because the chemicals in the love cockt...

This is part 3 of of 6 on our Neurodivergent side quest, how ADHD affects boys and men. While women get "lost in the diagnostic shuffle", boys tend to get diagnosed early on because with testosterone they tend to be more likely to have the hallmark Hyperactivity and Impulsivity. They're more likely to be the kids that just can't sit still in class and blurt out answers, but while they're more easi...

Amanda is joined by Rachel Cunningham-two women with ADHD talking about how ADHD affects women specifically. It's not uncommon for girls and women to be misdiagnosed as ADHD presents differently for girls than boys, so many women find out later in life they their lifelong struggles are actually ADHD related. Amanda and Rachel share some of their own life experiences with time blindness, co-occurri...

Join Amanda as she embarks on a neurodivergent side quest with her neurodivergent bestie and fellow RCCA counselor Rachel Cunningham. Neurodivergence is a term that typically refers to people who have ADHD and/or autism and have a neurodivergent rather than neurotypical brain.  This particular neurodivergent side quest focuses on ADHD-and mirrors an ADHDers hyper focus special interest topic,...

Happy Holidays from us at Soul Healing Love! Amanda is joined by Rachel Cunningham, a fellow therapist at Rodgers Christian Counseling with a helpful list of Do's and Don'ts for the Holiday season. Often times we enter the Holidays with unrealistic expectations and hopes for change that aren't based in reality. What you can expect of Uncle Joe is that he will mostly do what he's always done. Liste...

From the Archive…Listen to Amanda share thoughts on facing Grief. First, the grief that we all have faced in the years since Covid and all we lost living through a global pandemic. And then more recently as a nation we have faced mass shootings and natural disasters. In life, we are constantly faced with hardships and loss.   Amanda walks through the famous stages of grief as defined by the w...

Amanda is joined again by two of the amazing minds behind For Students, an organization dedicated to equipping students with tools for lifelong emotional health and suicide prevention. If you missed the tragic story of how Executive Director Whitney D'Allaird turned her pain into purpose after losing her oldest son Tyler to suicide, please listen to Episode 35. In this episode, Amanda talks again...

TRIGGER WARNING: there is discussion of suicide, suicidal thoughts and other issues around the topic of suicide. Join Amanda as she talks with two amazing guests. She's joined by two great minds behind For Students, an organization dedicated to equipping students with tools for lifelong emotional health and suicide prevention.  Whitney D'Allaird is a wife, mother first and also Executive Dire...

We all have conscious and unconscious stories, reels, automatic reactions that are pasty of a bigger story we tell ourself. Brene brown describes a cu flight she had with her husband and from that fight forward they always say "the story I'm telling myself right now is…" So what stories are you telling yourself? That are actually part of a current neural network that you can change. Dr. Bev recoun...

Drs. Tom and Bev discuss principles behind Neuroplasticity, which is the ability to change and reshape your brain. Brain formation that  was once thought to be set and unchangeable in childhood - which kept Amanda from any heavy metal head banging - we now know is possible to change well into our lives. Neurogenesis, building new brain connections, is something that happens all the time. They...

Current data trends indicate we as a culture are getting diagnosed more and more with mental health struggles. Be it Depression, Anxiety, ADHD, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Addiction, or anything else—so many more people are struggling today.  In this episode we share what it's like sitting in the therapist's chair helping clients face today's dilemmas. Dr. Tom shares a fascinating question...

Often, the focus in counseling and psychology is on the PROBLEM... but what are the hallmarks of a Healthy Life? Join in on the conversation as Drs. Tom and Bev discuss a list of basic needs that they have created over years of talking to people who have found these commonly missing in wounded living. This list also addresses Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs: when the base needs of Safety and S...

Are you kind and compassionate toward yourself or do you have a harsh inner critic? We can develop a harsh inner critic from people on our lives-parents, pastors, teachers-who expected perfection while forgetting a core principle Jesus taught was how to love well. This episode talks about confronting your harsh inner critic with grace and forgiveness. Amanda is joined by Drs. Tom and Bev as they d...

A wiseman once said, "Those who do not deal with their past are destined to repeat it." There is neurobiological proof that this can happen. In the Soul Healing Love Model we say, "If you don't deal with your past, it will come back to bite you!" People often avoid going back and looking at past hurts honestly because they do not want to live in that painful place again. So, they avoid, blame othe...

Join Amanda and Drs. Bev and Tom to explore what trauma is and does in our lives. Trauma is the lasting emotional response that often results from living through distressing events. There is Simple Trauma like a terrible car accident, which we call a little T, or Complex Trauma which can be emotional, physical or sexual abuse that happens over time which we call the big T. Trauma affects the brain...

There are certain therapies that are considered more specific "parts therapies" like Internal Family System developed by Richard Schwartz, but truly parts are as old as Freud's id, ego and superego. Within Soul Healing Love our parts are those that hold our Soul Wounds and then live out certain adaptations. The hard thing is, often these adaptations that served a great purpose—these parts that hel...

Amanda and Drs. Bev and Tom explore How You Know When You Are Getting Emotionally Healthy. The Examine characteristics of healthy people and cover: 1.Self-Awareness, knowing your personality characheristics as well as the wounds of your past that may affect your behavior 2. Getting rid of Jealousy, and not comparing or competing with others 3. Finding forgiveness of yourself and others 4. Acceptan...

Amanda and Drs. Bev and Tom continue to explore the unconscious Defense Mechanism that inform your thoughts and behaviors. Self-Awareness is the goal as they take a deeper dive into the mind. Soul wounds from the past can create the need for defense mechanisms like the need to repress pain, project onto others things we do not want to see in ourselves, or sabotage our relationships. They&nbsp...

None of us as therapists, counselors, life coaches… anything psychological… works be here today without the pioneering work of Sigmund Freud. Freud was the father of psychology and psychoanalysis and introduced the idea of exploring our unconscious minds, which actually is the vast majority of our brains! Join as Amanda and Drs. Tom and Bev discuss how Freudian concepts led to the development of a...

Do you put others above yourself even to the point of your own harm? Do you say "yes" when you really need to set a healthy boundary with a firm "no"? If you struggle with these things or know others who do, this will speak to you. Listen to Dr. Bev and Amanda unpack what codependency really is and how to move out of it into healthy relationships.

Have you ever looked at life and thought "I'm not sure this is what I signed up for?!" Lisa Brooks is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker that worked for 20 years in child abuse and neglect to find herself with vicarious trauma herself. She took a deep dive into her own personal healing and found a new passion in helping others see that overwork, overwhelm, and survival mode are not the only option...

We are so excited to have our first guest speaker on the SHL podcast, David Johnson, who is the founder and owner of Silent Images. On this week's episode, David and Amanda discuss healthy ways to manage our mental health. Want to know more about Silent Images or Compassion & Light, visit their website: https://silentimages.org