Soul Healing Love

This week's episode highlights some of the common hardships and losses many of us have faced during the pandemic and the overwhelming grief that has come upon us. Listen to the full episode to hear more about how to be kind to yourself and accept and process the grief that many of us are feeling today.

This is 1 of 2 podcasts recorded during quarantine. Dr. Bev and Amanda share their own struggles with fears and frustrations of being away from family, friends, and work, along with ways that they work to find peace in the uncertainty of a global pandemic. They share insights into building resilience and finding new perspectives in the midst of great unknowns.

Understand how your brain and body are affected by Trauma, learn skills to build empathy and Mindsight from Dr. Dan Siegel and our favorite-the Re-Mind Exercise created by Dr. Bev. Part of Rewiring our Brain is through Repetition of the newer, healthier ways of thinking. Dr. Bev has created an excellent resource to identify your current negative thoughts and behaviors AND establish new, healthy wa...

Our brains are amazing, resilient organs! And years ago most scientists and doctors thought it was pretty set after age 7. Thank goodness for new neuroscience research with MRI's, SPECT scans and other research that has been done that shows how our brains can adapt and change: Neuroplasticity. While trauma "sticks with us" and does move our brain toward depression, anxiety and PTSD, the wonderful...

Gratitude and Thanksgiving are for more than one day a year. In fact, the practice of gratitude will increase serotonin and dopamine in your brain, neurotransmitters that boost your mood and energy. It can also change the shape of your brain and decrease your likelihood to struggle with depression. Please join host Amanda Rodgers Cumbo with Dr. Beverly Rodgers to learn more of the benefits of grat...

Our last episode walked you through the Forgiving Experience, a tool not to be used lightly. It is a heavy work to forgive and a merciful gift to be forgiven. But what then? Once I've asked for forgiveness and you've granted it, what do we do next? If I still get sad or mad or triggered, does that mean I haven't forgiven you? And how long should we process through the triggers, how do we handle th...

What is Forgiveness? How do I Forgive? What do I do once I think and feel that I have Forgiven but I still hurt or react when I think about the offenses? These are just a few of the questions we hope to answer in this episode where Drs. Tom and Bev unpack Forgiveness and teach us the Soul Healing Love tool, The Forgiving Experience. We talk about what forgiveness IS and what it IS NOT. We pull in...

This is our Final Episode in the Personal Perspective series, one in which counselors from our practice Rodgers Christian Counseling have discussed how they teach and use various exercises from the Soul Healing Love Method. In this episode Erin Sweitzer, MA, LMFT, joins us to talk through the GIFT Exercise to help dig down into the primary emotion around your anger. Erin helps us understand that s...

We continue our Personal Perspective series as we are joined again by Steven Land, MA, LPCA, one of the counselors at our practice in the greater Charlotte area of NC. Steven joins Amanda and Dr. Bev Rodgers in a discussion about the Soul Healogram. He has a great saying: Part One of the Soul Healogram and the Genogram is like the really messy, gnarled Family Tree, and Part Two is the narrative or...

We are continuing our Personal Perspective series as we are joined by another counselor at Rodgers Christian Counseling, Rachel Cunningham, MA, LPCA. Rachel earned her MA from Liberty University in Counseling in 2017 and her Bachelor's degree in Human Services from Anderson University in 2014. Rachel is passionate about connecting with clients on a deeper level and believes that building trust and...

We embark on a New Series with each of our staff members at Rodgers Christian Counseling where they will walk through one of their favorite tools from the Soul Healing Love Model and how they use it Personally and Professionally! Our first guest is counselor Steven Land who has earned an MA in Professional Counseling as well as an MA in Human Services & Executive Leadership from Liberty Univer...

Back By Request! This episode is the first of 2 that are based on a listener request to get a deeper look at understanding our Basic Fear. A Soul Wound is a basic need in childhood that impacts us on a soul level. We then internalize it-through inferiority or inadequacy-and that wound creates a Basic Fear that we then adapt to. We want to look more closely at the basic fears: Abandonment, Rejectio...

Sometimes we can't tell someone how to help us or even figure out how to help ourselves when we don't even know What We Really Need. The Digging Deeper exercise (more info in Episode 6) in Soul Healing Love ends with the question, "What do you Really Need?" so that you can work from Reacting to a situation and move into healing the deeper, basic need that is impacted. But if you don't know what yo...

All of the insight in the world--while very helpful in learning about ourselves and our motivations--will only lead you so far. We borrow Dr. Richard Stewart's famous phrase "If nothing changes, nothing changes." Stewart pioneered Behavioral Marital Therapy, and we share details about how to move from learning about your Soul Wounds and basic needs for things like security, safety, love, and accep...

This week we recap the GIFT exercise to help you understand the root of your anger and move into more depth with the Digging Deeper exercise. With 5 questions, we move from the reaction of anger into the depth of the Soul Wound that causes the large anger reaction. Typically, the bigger the anger, the more likely it is tied to a past occurrence where you have felt similarly to the event that is ca...

Are you a Rage-A-Holic? Or are you constantly Frustrated? Do Your loved ones tell you that you have an Anger Problem? Today we discuss the GIFT Exercise, it is our GIFT to you to help you understand what you are really feeling. Anger is a secondary emotion; it's an outward reaction to a deeper, more primary feeling. Until we can learn for ourselves what is at the root of our anger, we will consist...

There are so many factors that can be contributing factors to what shapes our soul and what inflicts Soul Wounds. In this episode we explore how society, gender, cultural messages of shame, and certainly our family of origin--the family we grew up in--can leave us with Soul Wounds. With today's episode we want to help you identify both sources of these soul wounds and how they are impacting you to...

We all have basic fears that we carry with us, and these fears create a narrative that we tell ourself: messages that we tell us about us. But fears are not innate. They are learned fears, and since they are learned, we can UNLEARN these fears and combat these messages so that we can live in healing and freedom.

Today we dive into the Neuroscience behind trauma and how your brain processes trauma to understand why you react to past hurts or Soul Wounds as we call them in Soul Healing Love. Learn more about how your primitive, lizard brain takes over when you are triggered and how the Fight, Flight, or Freeze system activates. We talk through anatomy of the brain and how it operates to influence the way we...

Soul Healing Love is a model of counseling that helps you look at yourself--your current ways of thinking and behaving that are keeping you from growth, the way you lived as you grew up in your own family, and how you react to people and your environment--so that you can move into a life of positive change and growth. Today's episode is with the founders of the model, Drs. Beverly and Tom Rodgers,...