Somebody You Love

Darian Rye is a male escort for women and couples, based in Canberra, Australia. He entered the adult industry in 2016, and since then has grown a successful business in keeping women company. We talk about what female clients are looking for, maintaining boundaries, and Darian hides in a closet. Literally.  1:27 Main Segment: Darian's origin story, what women want, misconceptions 31:56 Patro...

TW: Sex trafficking, Eating disorders Today we are looking at an absurd document released earlier this year by AUSTRAC. For Shit People Say, Jenna and Holly both go on rants about supposed “compliments”, our Misconception is that sex work is easy, and the Question of the Week is a doozy (TW: ED for the Question)  1:49 Main Segment: AUSTRAC’s Guide to Detecting and Stopping Forced Sexual Servitude...

Isabella Martin is a proud “fatgirl” and the creator of the the BBW Badgirl Podcast. She is a Mexican/Irish super-size BBW sexworker based out of Los Angeles, CA. Over the last 10+ years she has worked multiple facets of sexwork: in person as an escort and dominatrix, as well as, pre-pandemic virtual work including phone sex, cam girl and most recently content creating on platforms like Onlyfans. ...

Happy International Sex Worker Rights Day! Why do many sex workers hide or blur their faces? Spoiler alert: It’s not because they are ugly. We’re talking today about all of the negative consequences faced by those of us who show our faces in our advertising. And Jenna shares an in-person Shit People Say experience.  Main Segment: 2:40    Why the USA won’t let us in Shit People Say: 43:56 "No,...

It’s time to tell the rest of the embarrassing work stories our peers submitted anonymously - so might not be the best time to eat your lunch if you’re squeamish! In awesome news, Susan Sarandon posted about being pro-sex work. In bad news, that brought the SWERFs out to play. In okay news, that meant we had some content for Shit People Say this week.  Main Segment: 1:39 Anonymous story time Shit...

Today on the show we have a very special episode focusing on the most recent developments in the sex work decrim space. On Thursday 10th February, the Sex Work Decriminalisation Bill 2021 was passed in Victorian parliament and, while we have all been celebrating the extraordinary work of everyone who contributed to this historic milestone, it has been somewhat bittersweet. Dylan O’Hara, the Acting...

We put a call out to the hooker brains trust and asked them to submit their most embarrassing work stories… anonymously. So this episode we’re pretty much just reading out tales of blood, poop, and vomit. Soz about that. Plus Holly gets a bingo score card of a Shit People Say enquiry.  Main Segment: 8:35 Anonymous story time Shit People Say: 41:24 “twice a fortnight”  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): h...

This week we are taking a break from our main episodes and instead giving you a clip from January's Boners Episode - which is available to all $10+ Patrons (and as a video for $20+ Patrons)! patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Support the show MERCH:  https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoup...

We’re rubbing it in this week! Sharing all of the best parts of our jobs and why we absolutely love what we do. Plus we share some words from one of our Patrons about clients with disabilities.  Main Segment: 1:30 The perks of sex work Question of the Week: 50:22 Clients with disabilities Touching Base: https://www.touchingbase.org/ Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod...

We’re chatting about mishaps and accidents during (or immediately before) bookings! There are injuries involving blood and broken bones, and somehow we end up talking about poop again. So if those things make you squeamish, be warned! In Shit People Say Jenna realises she has been sassing someone who might not actually be a troll and the Question of the Week is about regular female clients.  2:47...

CW: discussions of racism We’re joined by Despo Debby, a Blak non-binary queer whore and member of performance & art collective Debby Doesn’t Do It For Free. They have worked in porn, stripping, peepshows, camming, and full service sex work in parlours, privately, and on the streets AND are also an accomplished performer, rapper, and artist. We talk about art as activism, what people get wrong...

We’re talking pseudonyms this week. What the deal is with having a fake name, why clients are so obsessed with finding out our “real” name, what you should do if you discover someone’s private information, and some yuck experiences with people invading our privacy. Our misconception of the week is that everything sex workers say is a lie to make money, and our question of the week is about things...

Would you be okay with YOUR daughter being a prostitute? People always want to know what our parents think of our work, because apparently that has an impact on the validity of it for some reason. Holly & Jenna share the highly personal stories of coming out to their families, how the people in their lives reacted, and what those relationships are like now. For Shit People Say Jenna tells the...

It’s time for the third and final (or is it?) edition of Just The Tips for clients. In part 1 we talked about things leading up to the booking, in part 2 we talked about the booking itself, and in this episode we talk about what happens after the booking and some other bits and pieces - last minute bookings, not hearing back, contact between bookings, time off the clock, business advice, and safet...

Yes, we’re doing a Christmas episode. It may not seem like the sexiest of topics, and the result is a little bit unruly, but we were determined to make it work! Featuring: our sexy gift giving guide, the worst gifts we’ve received, festive sexcapades, and holiday pornos. Njoy Pure Wand: https://www.lovehoney.com.au/sex-toys/dildos/metal-dildos/p/njoy-pure-wand-stainless-steel-dildo/a9030g9030.html...

This week Jenna Love interviews Georgie Wolf - Melbourne escort, author of The Art of the Hook Up, and brains behind The Satisfaction Project. Georgie shares the top 3 most common mistakes that clients of sex workers make, prepares us for ‘drop’ post-booking, and warns of the ‘relationship escalator’.  1:33 Main Segment: getting the most out of seeing escorts  36:58 Questions: most rewarding momen...

“So what do you do for work?” Whether we are “out” or not, it’s the question we all dread. Holly & Jenna talk about why this question is so loaded for sex workers and share some of the more interesting reactions they’ve had when disclosing their line of work. Our misconception is that sex workers are rich because they charge a high hourly rate, Jenna learns what a “real job” is in Shit People...

We are joined this week by Michelle Hardenbrook. Michelle is a 70 year old sex worker based in New Orleans, who worked as a full service escort for 12 years. When the pandemic hit she had to pivot her business so she started an OnlyFans, had a video go viral on Twitter, and now she's in the top 1% of OnlyFans creators! Vice documentary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2jixgtCV1Jk GoFundMe: ht...

This week we are talking etiquette for clients DURING a booking with a full service sex worker. Topics include: getting there, arriving early, arriving late, payment, hygiene, sexual health, giving pleasure, personal questions, and the end of the booking. In Part 3 we will talk about AFTER the booking and some other bits and pieces.   Vote for us in the Listener’s Choice Awards: australianpodcasta...

This week we are joined by Rubi Valentine to discuss the porn industry, starting sex work at a young age, and STIs. We talk about health checks, safer sex, disclosing a positive test result, and the stigma around STIs. For Shit People Say, Rubi introduces Holly and Jenna to the concept of apology pumpkins.  Rubi’s most recent episode on It’s So Hard: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6OWQY5LVPlwCyl...

Introducing… Just The Tips! A new kind of episode where we focus on giving out pointers to our listeners. So we are starting with tips for clients of sex workers. In part 1, we’re talking about all the stuff BEFORE the booking: screening, making the initial contact, how much you should tell us about yourself, and paying deposits. Next time we will be discussing the booking itself. Patreon (from $3...

CW: age play, CNC, boundary pushing This week we are continuing the discussion about what it’s like being paid to have sex - we’re talking about the little things we like, the things we hate, awkward role plays, and what happens when we give in and do the stuff we’ve made clear we don’t want to do! Jenna explains why she thinks the idea that you can’t orgasm from anal is a misconception, and Holly...

This week Holly & Jenna share all the things they do with their clients that AREN’T sex. We’re talking about cuddles & chats, social bookings & dinner dates, kinks & slaves. Our misconception is that people with kinks must be weirdos, an acquaintance of Holly’s reveals her whorephobia, and we talk about our feelings surrounding younger clients.    Chapters  3:00 Main Segment: Poopi...

Today we are speaking to The Alice Grey. Alice is a full service provider and internet sweetie based in Melbourne, Australia. She is a lover of intricate lingerie and rich red wine, cosy restaurants and couch cuddles. Alice has also brought along her partner, who we will be calling Mr G. They’ve been together for 2.5 years and we thought were the perfect way to follow up last week’s episode on rel...

It’s the relationships episode! It comes as a shock to some but sex workers, like many other human beings, can and do have romantic relationships. We talk about why this is important for people to know, how our work has affected our romantic relationships, and monogamy vs non-monogamy. Our misconception this week is that men are always paying for it somehow, Jenna & Holly have their first disa...