Somebody You Love

CW: Weight loss, fatphobia Holly & Jenna interview Lex Leigh - a nerdy gamer girl who has worked in the adult industry her entire adult life, including online and in person, and over the last few years has lost a total of 50kgs. She shares with us her reasons for wanting to lose weight, the physical and mental toll it has taken on her, and the reactions of clients/fans and her peers. Instagram...

CW: SW slurs Why don't we like to be called "prostitutes"? When did this start and what are the alternatives? What is the harm in using slurs? What are the common arguments people use to continue saying the p-word? We know we've said we don't like the word on our show, but we've not gone into depth and we've received a few questions about it, so here's a who...

Charlie has many years experience in different areas of the industry, having started initially in Aotearoa (New Zealand) doing online work as well as full service. He is currently the Male Project Worker at SWOP NSW and he joins us today to talk to us about how and where M4M sex work takes place, hookup culture and opportunistic work, resources and access to community, and safer sex practises.  1:...

Sophie is renowned for being the only German trans mistress in Australia and she recently announced her intentions to retire from SW this year, due to the negative experiences she has encountered as a trans person within the industry. We’ve had gender diverse people on the show before, but thus far we haven't delved into the challenges unique to this community, so we invited Sophie on the sho...

Jenna managed to convince her mum to be on the show, and here she is - giving us the full, honest lowdown on what it’s like to have your daughter tell you she’s a sex worker.  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod   For more...

CW: Mentions of sexual assault  This week Holly & Jenna explain what you might expect when going to get STI tests and share some of their own horror stories of going to do so. Jenna shares a Shit People Say interaction with someone who thinks she is running a sting operation, and a listener sends in a thoughtful and nuanced question about how we can best support providers when they are going t...

Mr Love is Jenna’s husband and primary partner of 13 years. He’s also our sound engineer, and probably would’ve preferred to keep it that way, but Jenna & Holly somehow managed to convince him to make a guest appearance on the show, so here he is!  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.co...

Today Holly and Jenna are giving  their uncensored opinions on the Australian Broadcasting Corporation 's (ABC) Compass TV Special 'Nude Next Door', while hoping they don't get sued. Nude Next Door featured our very own Jenna Love, along with Billie Beever,  Coralea Jade,  Billie Peques, and Phoebe Thompson.  Watch the doco here (You'll need a VPN if you're not in Aus...

TW: Trauma (obviously), and sexual trauma Don't worry, we're not about to trauma dump on y'all. We're discussing the narrative of "xx% of sex workers have experienced childhood trauma" which is apparently supposed to be an argument against decriminalisation? Or human rights for sex workers? We're not entirely sure, tbh, but we're tackling it in this episode....

It’s the threesome episode! We talk about both the emotional and physical things you might want to consider before jumping into group sex… including boundaries, safer sex, and voyeurism. And for Shit People Say Jenna shares some insights from clients on the subtleties of her screening process.    Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/...

It’s the jealousy episode! Do we get jealous of each other? Of other providers? Does Mr Love get jealous about Jenna’s clients? We talk about jealousy in the world of non-monogamy, answer a question about naked spooning mechanics, and hear from someone who simply cannot NOT give their uninformed opinion on sex work.  1:11 Main Segment: Jealousy  36:05 Misconception: Polyamorous people don’t experi...

As promised, here is the little bonus clip for this week. which is a short interview with an Asian migrant sex worker based in Queensland Support the show MERCH:  https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupo...

Jenna is joined this week by Janelle and Carly from Decrim QLD, a committee of sex workers who have joined with Respect Inc., to progress the removal of harmful and discriminatory sex work laws and achieve decriminalisation in Queensland. They talk about the current QLRC Review, what needs to change, and what we're afraid may not change. Decrim QLD website: https://respectqld.org.au/decrimina...

Too many messages, obsessions with chairs, filthy tongues & poopy bums: today Holly & Jenna are sharing some of the reasons they have had to “fire” their clients.  TW: Non-consensual sexual activity, boundary pushing  6:14 Main segment: Clients behaving badly Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http:/...

Prompted by a patron question, Holly & Jenna discuss where the line is between sex work and therapy, what’s appropriate to discuss with a sex worker, and how to broach the tough topics. The misconception this week is that oral sex is safe sex and for Shit People Say Jenna shares one of the more amusing (and lucrative?) interactions she’s had in a long time!  The Satisfaction Project episode ‘S...

Unfortunately the audio for this episode is not great, we’re sorry!  Turned On is a series in which Holly & Jenna react to different representations of sex work in media. In this episode, they are reacting to ‘Louis and the Brothel’, Louis Theroux’s 2003 documentary where he visits a Nevada brothel.  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instag...

Jenna is our special guest today! Holly interviews her about how she organises tours around the country. They talk about the misconception that sex workers can’t say no to particular clients and/or services. Holly shares a classic Shit People Say, and they discuss trends over time in sex work requests and services, like choking, golden showers, rimming, pegging, and cuddling!  CHAPTERS 2:27 Main S...

Kaytlin Bailey is a contrarian by nature and a provocateur by trade. She is an internationally touring stand-up comic, sex worker rights advocate and writer. In 2020 she founded Old Pros where she continues her stubborn crusade against whorephobia and today she is talking to Holly & Jenna about why the history of sex work matters, who her favourite old pros are, and some of the complexities of...

Turned On is a new series in which Holly & Jenna react to different representations of sex work in media. For this first episode, they are reacting to Jubilee’s YouTube video ‘6 Sex Workers vs 1 Secret Virgin’ from their Odd One Out series.  Watch the video first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKVGUfbDP2g Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www...

Welcome to season 3! To kick things off, Holly & Jenna are joined by Deaf full service sex worker and owner of Sydney's Sky Sirens, Katia Schwartz, her creative surrogate, Auslan qualified interpreter and sex worker Dahlia Day, and Auslan interpreter Amanda. This special episode is available in both audio and video formats, with the video including Auslan interpretation and captions, and...

This week we are again bringing you an episode of Georgie Wolf’s podcast The Satisfaction Project while Holly, Mr Love, and I enjoy a break between seasons 2 and 3 of Somebody You Love. The Satisfaction Project is your ultimate resource for enjoyable experiences with escorts and other independent, hands-on sex workers. The episode we are sharing with you today is called Everyday Activism with Holl...

While we are taking a much needed break between seasons, we wanted to share with you some episodes from our dear friend Georgie Wolf’s podcast, The Satisfaction Project. The Satisfaction Project is your ultimate resource for enjoyable experiences with escorts and other independent, hands-on sex workers. You may remember Georgie from episode 23 - Somebody You Love is a Satisfaction Expert. Georgie...

It’s the season 2 finale! Join us while we ponder some big questions while trying not to get canceled… why do people cheat? And why do they do it with sex workers? Do we judge our clients who are cheating? Do we take responsibility for helping to facilitate it?  1:53 Question of the week: Why do married men seek out sex workers?  44:43 Misconception: Most of our clients are married men 51:28 Aweso...

We put a shout-out on Patreon to ask if anyone who is a client of the sex industry would like to come on the show, and thus this episode was born! Maria and Steve join us to speak candidly about their reasons for visiting sex workers, how their first experiences went, and the impact it has had on their lives.  2:52: Maria 31:06: Steve Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: htt...

TW: Assault of a SWer  The first episode of our Just The Tips series designed for sex workers! Jenna & Holly break down what they did wrong so you don’t make the same mistakes! Is being an independent escort right for you? What is involved in running your own escorting business? Where can you go for information? How do you pick your name? Do you need to get professional photos? Do you need a s...