Softly Unfiltered Podcast

As Black women, we’re often praised for being strong, capable, and independent ,but at what cost? In this episode, we unpack the difference between healthy independence and emotional self-protection, and how constantly being “the one who’s got it” can quietly turn into isolation, burnout, and emotional guarding. We talk about: How independence is instilled in Black women from a young age Why being...

As we close out the year, we’re taking a moment to reflect honestly. In this episode, we look back on 2025: the wins we’re proud of, the lessons that humbled us, and the growth that didn’t always come the way we expected. We talk about adjusting to constant change, navigating burnout, learning when to pivot, and what it really means to keep showing up for yourself even when life feels heavy. We ge...

What if the way you want to be loved isn’t the same anymore — and that’s actually a sign of growth? In this episode, we’re talking about love languages through the lens of healing. How what you needed years ago isn’t necessarily what you need now. How acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, and even physical touch can feel completely different depending on the season of life you’re in...

No one tells you that adulthood is mostly improvisation. In this episode of Suburban Black Girl, we get real about the adult problems nobody warned us about — from realizing corporate America isn’t glamorous, to navigating money stress, loneliness, career misalignment, and the emotional labor of being “the empathetic one.” We talk about: Why adulting feels like one long group project nobody prepar...

In this episode, we’re keeping it lighthearted and real as we ask the question everyone jokes about but rarely unpacks: what actually gets your Black card “revoked”? From classic Black movies we still haven’t seen, foods we don’t love, games we don’t know how to play, and music we pretend to know the lyrics to — we laugh through the moments that supposedly make us “less Black.” But beneath the jok...

This week, we’re diving into the viral Vogue article asking a very unserious — yet oddly triggering — question: Is having a boyfriend embarrassing? While the headline is messy on purpose, the conversation underneath it reveals something deeper about modern dating, social media culture, and the way women — especially Black women — are perceived when they choose to love out loud. We unpack the rise...

The internet will tell you that “becoming that girl” takes matcha, Pilates, a 10-step routine, and a perfectly curated life. But in this episode, we get honest about what it really takes—and why social media has the whole idea backwards. We talk about the unseen labor behind self-growth: the perfectionism, the comparison, the pressure to show up flawlessly, and the loneliness that comes with doing...

This week, we’re stepping firmly into our petty era — because the icks were icking and the irritations were real. From people coughing without covering their mouth, to morning loud-talkers, to men with center-of-attention energy, to chaotic birthday dinners and group chats that should’ve been an email… nothing was off-limits. We get into friendship pet peeves, dating red flags, coworker chaos, clu...

In this week’s episode, we unpack what success really looks like for Black women and how often it comes with invisible pressure, perfectionism, and the constant need to overachieve. From corporate America to childhood expectations, we reflect on the moments that shaped our hustle, the burnout that followed, and the healing work it took to redefine success on our own terms. We also talk about compa...

In part two of our one-year anniversary celebration, we sit down with our best friends for an open and emotional conversation about identity, belonging, and what it really means to feel “Black enough.” From being adopted by two white moms in a small Pennsylvania town to growing up as the youngest of eleven in Houston, our friends share their stories of family, culture, and self-discovery. We talk...

We’re celebrating sisterhood, growth, and a full year of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast with the women who know us best our best friends. From college memories and fake IDs to growing into healed, confident women, this episode is equal parts laughter, love, and reflection. We talk about what it really takes to maintain adult friendships, how we’ve supported each other through every version of our...

This week on The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re unpacking what it really means to “do it all.” From the generational roots of the Superwoman complex to the pressure of having to be strong, successful, and soft all at once, we explore the emotional reality behind the phrase “Black women make it look easy.” We talk about masking emotions, redefining strength, and unlearning the idea that rest an...

This week on The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re joined by the incomparable La’Torria Lemon — publicist, entrepreneur, and star of Heart & Hustle on OWN Network. As the founder of Lemon Limelight Media, La’Torria has built an empire rooted in authenticity, hard work, and heart. She opens up about navigating grief, faith, and purpose while breaking barriers in entertainment PR. From working...

We’re closing out The Dilemma of a Woman in Her 30s series with the topic everyone’s been waiting for — love. From emotional maturity to self-awareness and everything in between, we’re unpacking how dating shifts once you truly know yourself. We talk about avoiding situationships, spinning the block, and recognizing that peace will always compete with love and often win. From the hard lessons of o...

In part three of The Dilemma of a Woman in Her 30s series, we’re stepping into our “Becoming Her” era the version of you that’s grounded, healed, and unapologetically evolving. This episode dives into what it really means to grow into yourself: defining your identity beyond your career or relationship, embracing softness and strength, and learning to love who you’re becoming flaws and all. We talk...

In part two of our Dilemma of a Woman in Her 30s series, we’re diving into the messy, motivating, and sometimes maddening world of careers. From chasing promotions and navigating corporate politics to battling burnout and questioning hustle culture, we unpack what it really feels like to be a Black woman at this stage of life. We share our own stories of advocating for raises, dealing with overwor...

In Part 1 of our new series The Dilemma of a Woman in Her 30s, we’re diving into the conversation so many women quietly carry: the ticking clock. From love and marriage to motherhood and timelines, society often tells us where we “should” be by now but what if your path looks different? We talk candidly about biological clocks, shifting desires, the stigma of being single in your 30s, and the real...

This week on Suburban Black Girl, we’re reclaiming what healing really means. Too often, people assume our growth is about becoming “more dateable” or recovering from a toxic ex — but healing isn’t about proving your worth to anyone else. It’s about choosing yourself, protecting your peace, and becoming the woman you’re proud of. We open up about therapy, spirituality, and finding mentors, plus th...

Friendships are supposed to feel safe, supportive, and genuine but what happens when subtle red flags start to show? In this episode, we get real about the signs we’ve ignored in the past and how they show up in adulthood. From “playful shade” that cuts too deep, to one-sided emotional dumping, to friends who compete instead of clap we’re naming the patterns that quietly drain our peace. We also u...

What does it really mean to be called “high maintenance”? In this episode of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast , we unpack the stereotypes, backhanded compliments, and insecurities tied to the label. From beauty routines to dating expectations, we ask: is it about being demanding or simply knowing what you like and being intentional about how you want to be treated? We get into: The difference betwe...

Why is it that when Black women are quiet, reserved, or simply minding our business, the world rushes to call us “stuck up,” “bougie,” or “mean”? In this episode of The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we unpack the stereotypes and labels that follow Black women who set standards, protect their energy, and refuse to perform for other people’s comfort. We get into: The difference between arrogance and...

In the final part of our First of Her Kind series, we’re talking about what it really means to outgrow old versions of yourself — and not shrink back down just to make others comfortable. From friendships that can’t handle your growth, to family members who only recognize the old you, this conversation is all about protecting your peace, honoring your healed self, and choosing connections that don...

This week on The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re joined by the incredibly talented Hailey Kilgore Tony and Grammy-nominated actress, singer, and all-around powerhouse. From making her Broadway debut at 17 to starring in Power Book III: Raising Kanan and Respect, Hailey opens up about growing up as a suburban Black girl, navigating predominantly white spaces, and learning when to stop code-switc...

This is part 3 of our 4 part series "The First of Her Kind" This episode is for the women who dared to want more and didn’t stay quiet about it. We explore the discomfort your ambition brings to others, the envy that success can spark, and how society still polices powerful, attractive, educated Black women who won’t shrink to fit anyone’s idea of “humble.” “Society has always made room for the st...

This week on The Suburban Black Girl Podcast, we’re continuing our “First of Her Kind” series with a conversation about what it really means to choose yourself. From ditching people-pleasing habits to setting unapologetic boundaries, we’re unpacking how putting yourself first as a Black woman is revolutionary — especially when the world expects you to shrink. We get into: The guilt of prioritizing...