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EP 120: Sex Clubs, Micro-Cheating, & Porn Hub WTF is a micro-cheater? You cheated or you didn't, right? Wrong! Imagine this... you specifically dress up every time you know you're going to run into a specific person . It's technically harmless because it doesn't directly hurt anybody, but it plants the seed of wanting someone else's attention, who isn't your significant other. Do you consider this...

"No one could ever understand what I'm going through!" Is this a thought that you've had before? With everything that's been going on in the world, it's easy to feel… alone.  I've been trying to identify the difference between loneliness and depression . In the state of loneliness it's easy to confuse distress and isolation as depression . As heavy as these topics feel and sound, this conversation...

WOW 118 Episodes! This week Carla is solo talking to you about what she has learned throughout her podcast and entrepreneur journey. Lessons she has learned and hopes you can learn from as well. During Unsolicited Advice we have two letters 1. A younger sister is battling with comparing herself to her sister and feeling like maybe she shouldn't exist anymore. 2. A girlfriend is having a tough time...

Myspace, Technology, & Our Post-Quarantine Future   Damn, Do you remember trying to customize your myspace page? It was super hard to learn how to hide your comments & change your backgrounds! I may have even paid a friend of two to help me out!   In this episode join @HeyAssante from The Friend Zone Podcast , and I as we discuss online dating, how technology affects creativity, corporations & the...

We have this idea of what kind of friend we are to people, but do our friends agree?    This week I am joined by my long-term friend Wendy as we talk about the raw & funny truth about each other! It's crazy to hear how the closest people to you actually view you! You won't want to miss this hilarious episode as we discuss confronting a cheating husband, sucking thumbs, and creating boundaries arou...

Have you ever had a  HATER  disguised as a  FRIEND ? Is that friend you?   This week I am joined by Lex P from Pour Minds Podcast & Kiki from Cocktales Podcast and we discuss evolving friendships, fake pregnancies, & people who take their jobs just a tad bit  TOO  seriously. You won't want to miss Kiki's hilarious reply to a passive-aggressive email at work, Lex's surprise vocals, & you know I alw...

Have you found yourself dating the same person over and over again? Well, have you taken a moment to think about the way you attach to people?     Relationship Attachment Style Test   Take a second to take the attachment style test and see if you learn something new about yourself or the people you have dated.  (Attachment types: Secure, Anxious, Dismissive-Avoidant, Dismissive-fearful)  _________...

FINDING YOUR PURPOSE   Have you ever gotten fired from a job? So have Charlamagne Tha God and Carla Wilmaris!   Tune in as they discuss how being fired doesn't stop you from reaching your potential. In fact, oftentimes it pushes you towards your purpose! Join Carla & Charlamagne as the talk about purpose, parenting, mental health, and of course... "Karens". You won't want to miss this!    Ladies,...

Today we are joined by Medinah Monroe from Cocktales podcast and we catch up on our new quarantine hobbies and the difference of dating vs being single while isolated. We get into the drama of the reunion of Temptation Island and how her dating life is going to go moving forward. UNSOLICITED ADVICE During this quarantine the landlord is scheduling visits with potential buyers of the property and t...

This week we are joined by the amazing Hey Fran Hey to discuss Celibacy and why Fran has decided to be celibate for the last 4 years. The importance of therapy in our lives and how we have healed from emotional trauma.  ________________________________________ Connect with us on social media: @carlawilmaris @heyfranhey @shitim30podcast ___________________________________________ Thank you to our s...

TRIGGER WARNING! Jamie joins us this week to speak out for the first time about being sexually assaulted while taking a ride from a ride sharing app. As hard as it was for her to tell her full story she is hoping to help anyone that may have similar trauma speak out and start their healing process as well.   SHIT YOU SHOULD KNOW Uber Says 3,045 Sexual Assaults Were Reported in U.S. Rides Last Year...

This Week I am joined by the ladies of Good Moms Bad Choices Podcast and we discuss how we talk to our kids about marijuana and how comfortable we are with them knowing that we use it recreationally. The ladies talk to us about how the podcast could possibly be affecting their dating life and how Mila thought that Erica was engaged to an African Prince when she met her! (she was close...kinda..ok...

Spending almost a week together 24/7 a lot is revealed in our relationship and our day to day and Since we are quarantined together why not get in front of the mic!  This episode Carla and Wax discuss how the relationship has changed after spending so much time together not only together but with Carla's teenage daughter. Would Wax be ok being a stay at home dad? Gender roles are real on this side...

PARENTING A CHILD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS This week Carla speaks with Stephanie and she  shares her story of finding out that her beautiful healthy son has autism. In her early 20's she has to learn how to care for her son without prior knowledge of autism. She shares her experiences with doctors as well as the opinions and harsh words of others because they simply don't understand what a child with sp...

This week Carla is joined by Imani from the Lick the Rapper Podcast. Imani was able to bring her perspective from a 25 year old  relative in the entertainment industry and discuss how getting laid off from her current gig has her HUSTLING.  We discuss relationships that fizzle out because you outgrow them or grow apart and how to trust your significant other in a long distance relationship.  We ha...

This week Carla discusses the ever changing triggers. Did you know that your triggers change over time? With New Levels you deal with New Devils. Let's discuss triggers and realizing that in your 30's you might not completely turn into an introvert because of age, but because of certain fears. UNSOLICITED ADVICE MASTURBATION- How do can we start masturbating and what is it about it that makes it s...

This week we are chatting with Psychiatric-Mental Health Nurse Practitioner Angel Adams and we are discussing all things mental health! My #1 question is  Can't I just talk to my friends? Do I really need therapy? Ha! Let's find out! Also lets dig a little dipper on how psychiatrist prescribe drugs for mental health and if at times they are even really needed? _____________________________________...

This week Carla sits with Ruthie Fonseca host of Unexpected Reality to discuss the importance of girls having their father in their lives. Both ladies have lost their fathers and they tell the stories that impacted them and helped them become the women they are today. SH*T YOU SHOULD KNOW According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 19.7 million children , more than 1 in 4, live without a father in the ho...

Welcome to Mindful Mondays! This week I felt like I failed in my journey. I truly believed that I took 30 steps back but it took for me to make a phone call to realize that it this too is part of my journey. I will share with you how I was reminded that there is no Testimony without a Test. __________________________________________ Join the Mixed Minds Book Club Today   For the month of March we...

Join the FREE Launch Your Podcast in 30 Days Webinar Register Here  Feb 26th & 27th at 8pm   SH*T YOU SHOULD KNOW Relationships: How The Internet Changed Things https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/relationship-advice/healthy-relationships/social-media-and-relationships-2/ Krysta Monet Divorce and how to handle it Communication in dating Being walked out on during a first date How to get over a breakup...

SH*T YOU SHOULD KNOW Forty-four percent of U.S. adults have admitted to being financially unfaithful to their spouse Soooo do you have hidden bank accounts so your spouse can't find them? The Boss From Hell and Navigating Corporate American as a Woman of Color The Full story of the Boss from Hell Did they Hire a pedophile? How to keep your composure when talked down to Understanding how to be resp...

This week join Carla Wilmaris to talk about Doing unto others as you would like done to you....THIS IS NOT EASY!! Sometimes we want to teach a lesson and give others a dose of their own medicine BUT it's not worth it.  ____________ Click HERE to Join the Idea to Launch Academy Waitlist ____________ Join me on Patreon to get updates and dates for the new Mixed Minds Book Club  www.patreon.com/shiti...

100 Episodes!!!!!!  Can you believe we made it to 100? Today we get to hear from our day 1 Besties giving us their most memorable moments of the past 100 episodes.  For those that joined the pod recently Carla will share her journey of how it all started and how we got HERE today! OH and for those of you that have been listening from day let's see how well you really know her! ___________ Get Your...

KNOW YOUR WORTH No one will ever pay you what you're worth, they will only pay you what you think you are worth. This week Carla tells a few stories about her self worth and how she is adjusting to know her worth and telling herself that she is worthy.  Add to the conversation by posting on social media your thoughts don't forget to tag either @carlawilmaris or @shitim30podcast ___________________...

On this week's episode Carla gets to sit down with her long time insta-bestie @shaniciaboswell creator of @blackmomsblog. They catch up on how they organically got to meet each other and discuss Shanicia's journey from being a young mother and feeling lonely in that role to becoming an entrepreneur with a community of women all over the world! SH*T YOU SHOULD KNOW Woman in a Georgia chik-fil-a get...