So What Now? with Carla and Dex

I'M BACK! With a new purpose, a new sound, a new pivot. I am finding my purpose as a single mother of 2 and I know I have been gone for a while, but I'm back with a new voice, Paola who you will get to know in this new season of pivot. She is sitting here with me, and I know I met her at just the right time. Recently some things have been circulating on the internet, I asked for privacy but if we...

My life revolves around my kids and my family and now it feels like the woman that I am is in prison. My spirit got me out of bed and told me to vocalize what I am feeling today and in the coming weeks.  Who is Carla today? Is she just a mom? Will she ever be a woman again? Tune in and go on this journey again with me. It is not pretty but it is raw.

She's back! Pivot with Purpose is back and it ain't perfect. If she waited for perfection this episode would have never been released so LET'S TALK ABOUT IT! How do we pivot when life has thrown all these curve balls and we thought we had it all figured out but we dont! This week we will go over new segments of the show like Unconventional Side Hustles & start the documented journey of Carla's bus...

It is time to Pivot. My vision has become so clear in the last 2.5 years and now I want to serve you in the new space that I'm in. Today I will share the new vision and direction that Sh*T I'm 30 is going in and trust me it is NOT for the weak!!!    

This week the devil was working hard on me. When you are taking steps in the right direction he does not like it and he will attack and TRY to use you to tear everything you have built apart. My new show Whatever She Says almost didn't make it to its first episode because we were determined to bring you a WORD! Listen up and be aware of when the devil is trying to use you!

Hey there! If you have been following me on social media then you know my journey through pregnancy has been very unconventional. I've had to go to appointments without the support of my partner, deal with excruciating body changes, and I've had drastic hormonal swings. This week I am joined by the founder of Black Mom Blog and pioneer of black motherhood and self-care Shanica Boswell. You'll hear...

Did you know that people of color spray tan? Yeah I didn't either until I sat down with my friend Jenna, founder and CEO of Catalyst Salon.   When she isn't spray tanning a client, she has her face by someone's vagina.   Oh… get your head out of the gutter, it's because her salon offers waxing services! I sat down with Jenna to gossip about her jarring waxing stories, advice for waxing while pregn...

Have you ever had this overwhelming sense of calm after so much anxiety, stress, and doubt? Yeah, me too... although it may take a while to get there!     This week we have a live and interactive conversation with the virtual family I have built through this podcast platform. We chat about manifestation, doubt, clarity, and intentions.     Personally, this is an episode that I will cherish forever...

Manifestation is a stronger power than most of us recognize. This   weekend was a true testament of the power of manifestation. When you have an idea in mind, and it's meant for you to accomplish it, God provides the people, resources, & dismantles any obstacles in the way of your goal. Join me as I recap the first annual Synergy Women's Wellness retreat with Beavis and Butthead (May & Wendy). I'v...

Preparing for a trip is already a hassle, but have you considered what that preparation looks like for people with different body types than you?   This week, I am going by Jeff Jenkins a full-time travel blogger/influencer and founder of Chubby Diaries. His passion is to make traveling accessible, affordable, and efficient for the 70 million Americans who are technically classified as "obese".  ...

This week I am joined by filmmaker, photographer, mother, and now author Francesa Andre! What doesn't this lovely lady have her hands on?! We talk about her new children's book titled Phenomenal Black Boy, colorism, mental health, being a first-time mom, and so much more!  If you have heard of Rachel Dozer, then you have to hear about Rachel 2.0! Tune in!   Links: Rachel Dolezal 2.0 article: https...

Do you ever hear this little voice in your head that tells you   "damn it, something told me to…."? Have you ever wondered what the heck mercury retrograde is or what full moons represent? This week we dive into concepts like: intuition, stigmas around tarot cards being witchcraft, spiritual alignment, and so much more. Join in as Che Che & I chat about her journey towards yoga, meditation, and  ...

This week I am joined by Jordan Hunter, CEO of Say It Loud Media, Former US Navy search and rescue swimmer, & host of his own podcast "Say It Loud" We chat about the importance of swimming, the legacy he's trying to leave behind, and some types of defense mechanisms that we may use to protect our emotional selves.  The facts he drops about swimming will shock you.    Sh*t You Should Know article:...

In this week's episode, we are joined by my baby daddy and also the love of my life Wax Kyng to give relationship advice to listeners who have written into the show! We also discuss what it was like keeping the pregnancy secret from the world, and our experience expecting during COVID. Tune in to hear our advise for: - A man who's wife asked for a threesome with the girl she found out he's been ch...

In this week's episode I am joined by one of my best friends and apparently the second mother of my new child  Mandii B. I am attempting to channel my inner Oprah, Iyanla, & Jada to make Mandii confess… she's in love!   We also discuss growth in all aspects of our lives from business to health and of course….relationships. We are two women who quit our full-time jobs to pursue a career that didn't...

Why are we so afraid to have the "define the relationship" talk?   Join me as I chat with Savon & Alex from Need To Know Podcast! We talk about being petty on the internet, dating as a millennial during COVID, and so much more!    Stick around until the end to hear Alex's super vulnerable & transparent confession about his father!      Connect with us on social media: @carlawilmaris @Shitim30Podca...

Hey Friends! I have a few announcements for us  WOOOHOOO! Ladies!! The Women's Wellness Retreat has a last minute open spot just for YOU! This retreat sold out in 48 hours before and if you would like for this to be your opportunity complete the application below. It will be open for the next 7 days! APPLY FOR THE RETREAT HERE _______________________________________ TONIGHT JULY 3OTH 8pm EST  Lear...

This week, we take an audio adventure back to some older episodes. I used the word adventure intentionally! You won't want to miss this! EP 39: 35-Year-Old Virgin, & Recovering from Porn Addiction "Life After Freedom" ft Melodia Shekia: We dive into a conversation with Melodia Sheika about her book titled  Life After Freedom . When I first read that title, I initially thought she was "free" from j...

I'm Mexican, I was adopted into a white family, & I have a great relationship with my biological mother. Now, that isn't a sentence you hear often! In this week's episode, I am joined by my dear friend Jeannine. We talk about her story as a Mexican-American woman raised in Florida that was adopted into a White family and her journey towards discovering her identity. Sh*t You Should Know: Tik Tok i...

Before we begin, I want to start by giving my condolences to Wax Kyng & his entire family for the loss of his father.    This week, Wax and I give you 2 hours of content with a live studio Patreon audience! We discuss the death of his father, me cooking in his mother's kitchen the very first time I go to her house, getting cussed out by his auntie, and the cherry on top to a shit week... Wax going...

Shesh ya'll its already July! You know what that means... Do your damn taxes! The deadline is July 15th.  July is also national culinary arts month & I think it's safe to say we all love food! Thank you to all of the chefs, farmers, Mukbangers, bloggers, pretty much...everyone & anyone involved in our food supply chain.  This week, I am joined by the smart & beautiful Steph Styuhls from The Need T...

I am so overwhelmed with emotion. We have received yet another phone call with terrible news and I cannot handle another.  We have people in our lives that we owe it to to take care of our mental health. I have been LOW and I have been HIGH. Recently I have been LOWWWW but I have to do something about it and I cannot be ashamed of that! If you feel the way that I do and soooo many others take adva...