Skilling It!

Boundaries 101 – Families In this episode we discuss different areas of our lives that need of boundaries. Then we take a deep dive into how our boundaries reflect our upbringing and setting boundaries with family. Be brave! Join us! You can contact me at Iheartresolution@gmail.com www. Iheartresolution.com References Brooten-Brooks, M.  C. (2022, January 24). What is Boundary Setting? Retrie...

Season 3 Episode 2 – Boundaries 101 – The basics In this episode we discuss different levels of boundary, some reasons people don’t respect our boundaries, and how emotions play a role in healthy boundary setting. Be brave! Join us! If you need to listen to episode 1 of Boundaries 101, click here https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/iHYz6EBE9wb Works Cited Brooten-Brooks, M.  C. (2022, Januar...

Season 3 Ep. 1 – Boundaries 101 – The basics In this episode we discuss what boundaries are, what they're intended to do, and provide examples of boundaries. Then we look at the benefits of creating healthy boundaries (WIIFM), Signs we need to set boundaries, intrapersonal traits and characteristics needed to accomplish this task and action steps to begin  building better boundaries. Be brave...

The final installment in The Art of Conflict Resolution series Come to the Table - Collaborative Problem-solving In this episode, we’ll look at coming to the table to do some collaborative problem-solving. This is typically the last step toward resolving conflict. If you’ve gotten this far – Congratulations! If you’re struggling, consider going back to episode 4 The Art of Conflict Resolution for...

In this episode, we’ll look at using assertive communication in when it’s our turn to state our views, needs, feelings, and opinions in conflict. We’ll discuss how Jesus was assertive, what it means to be assertive, and some myths and truths associated with this type of communication. We’ll analyze the payoffs and penalties to each of the 3 main communication styles: Submissive, assertive, aggress...

SHOW NOTES: Link to extended episode notes (hope it works!) - Season 2 Ep. 8: The Gift of Listening In this episode we discuss the role of listening in our lives and how it can transform conflict. Highlights of this episode include: · The benefits of robust listening skills · Definitions of listening and empathy · When it's not a good time to listen · Considering your intentions before listening ·...

In Season 2, Episode 5 we discuss the effects of conflict and stress and suggested 6 steps for resolving conflict. In this episode we discuss the second step in resolving conflict which is to treat the other with respect. James 1:19 provides some guidance including being quick to listen , slow to speak and slow to become angry. In addition, this podcast considers body language, choice of words, an...

In Season 2, Episode 5 we discuss the effects of conflict and stress and suggest 6 steps for resolving conflict. In this episode we discuss the first step in resolving conflict which is to step back, pause, prepare, and pray for your attitude. This podcast addresses each of these components and provides insight and ideas to help prepare you to engage with the other in a way that can build relation...

Conflict is unavoidable so what can one do? This podcast discusses the effects of conflict handled poorly, the impact and signs of stress as a result of conflict, and the benefits of conflict handled well. We also discuss the effects of conflict on children. I share some ideas for conflict mitigation and prevention, common conflict components, and basic ideas to prepare for and resolve conflict.&n...

Everyone faces failure to some degree. It doesn't feel good but is it always a bad thing? Listen and find out more about failure and how to survive and even thrive through failure. 

In this episode we look at the difference between self-confidence and self-worth. We also review a new "self" word - self-regard. We compare yardsticks our culture and the media use to measure people versus what God says about us. Then we'll look at practical ways to begin to form a more pragmatic view of ourselves.  SHOW NOTES: SHOW NOTES: Season 2 Episode 3 Amy Cuddy nonverbals https://www....

Procrastination vs. Carpe Diem Season 2 Episode 2 In this podcast, we'll review some of the research regarding causes of procrastination. We'll look at generalized procrastination and the spiritual aspects of seizing the day through Bartimaeus. We'll hear from guests on their perspective of procrastination and look at some solutions. We've got this! SHOW NOTES: Research: • Procrastination is linke...

Holidays can be tough. How can we skillfully negotiate holiday stress and interactions?  https://documentcloud.adobe.com/link/track?uri=urn:aaid:scds:US:50666fcf-8a4d-4d29-9222-ef20d391ec1f

Welcome to Season 2 of Skilling It!  In this episode we talk about elements of good relationships including trust, being non-judgmental, showing compassion and more. We discuss benefits of good relationships and the difference between active listening and empathic listening. Finally, we review very specific empathic listening skills.  Links: How to Improve Your Empathic Listening Skills:...

This podcast reviews the elements of good relationships, benefits of good relationships, and some ideas for creating better relationships and showing up! 

In this episode we’ll learn signs we’re engaging in impression management and the consequences of this behavior. Next, we’ll explore if Christians are exempt from it. Finally, we’ll discuss some ideas and reasons to change these behaviors and a practice to help impression management awareness. Links: Insecure? Remember Whose You Are a devotion by Rick Warren https://pastorrick.com/insecure-remembe...

Episode 14 – Conflict Triggers In this episode we’ll look at our conflict triggers or hot buttons. We learn what a conflict trigger is and the role our perceptions play in creating our trigger. We’ll talk about the benefits of learning our what our triggers are and possible solutions for dealing with them. Links: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fzn_AKN67oI&t=38s Bible: Love Overlooks Offenses...

In this episode we’ll look at passive-aggressive behavior and communication. Where does it come from? How can we identify passive-aggressiveness? What do we do if we’re passive-aggressive or if we live with or love a passive-aggressive? Links: 8 Keys to Eliminating Passive-Aggressiveness by Andrea Brandt The Honest Truth About Passive-Aggressiveness by Stephen Witmer, July 12, 2016 https://www.des...

In this episode we’ll look at the core elements of self-compassion and how it can benefit me physiologically and emotionally. We’ll look at how self-criticism taps into our threat defense system and how to combat this with self-soothing. Finally, we’ll look at suggestions to practice self-compassion.

Do you tend to be really hard on yourself? Do you feel overwhelmed when you fail? Are you confused about the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, listen to this episode of Skilling It! I’ll discuss what self-compassion is and isn’t. Where it fits in Christianity and look at a biblical perspective. We’ll dispel some myths about it and...

Dealing with difficult people can seem overwhelming but learning how to communicate with them can provide holistic improvements – that means it can change every area of our lives. In this episode we look at what the bible says about dealing with difficult people, facts about difficult people and conflict, what’s in it for me, discerning if I’m a difficult person, and strategies to help us communic...

Acts of cruelty baffle us whereas acts of kindness move us. We can’t control people who are cruel, but we can choose to be kind. In this episode we’ll look at the spiritual, psychological, physiological, and social benefits of kindness and some simple ideas to spread kindness. Kindness Challenge: 10 Acts of Kindness Brett Blumenthal/Sheer Balance https://sheerbalance.com/kindness-challenge-10-acts...

This bonus episode includes 40 simple ideas for practicing gratitude every day.

SHOW NOTES: Episode 8: Safe, Effective, Free Mood Booster - Gratitude Correction: the Pew research article quoted in this episode was written in 2021 In this episode we discuss the multidimensional benefits of gratitude from a biblical perspective and using current research and learn 20 simple ideas for incorporating gratitude in daily life. Bible verse: “In everything give thanks: for this is the...

In this episode we discuss fear-based thoughts and how they can morph into self-sabotage and more ideas on where fear-based thoughts come from. Finally, I’ll propose solutions for overcoming self-sabotaging behaviors. Bible verse: 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” Skill for today: Self-awareness – the gift that keeps on giving F...