Situationsh!t

You might not want to hear this but there are good guys everywhere. In this episode I have 3 tips for getting out of mediocre relationships. Self-worth and happy singledom is the first step to finding a fulfilling relationship and each of my tips were written to help you realize that you truly deserve what you're seeking. Come join me for Single and Happy Holidays at www.dontea.co/holiday If you’r...

Hello my sweet babies! Today we’re talking about the emotional fallout from ending a situationship. You did the right thing - good job respecting yourself! But just because your relationship wasn’t defined doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt. In this episode I share three tips to regain your self-trust after it all ends - letting go of the fear that you will make the same choice, again, with future partn...

Ok, ok. I know the name of the show makes it sound like there’s no such thing as a good situationship. But that’s not necessarily true, boo. It’s still heaux season for a few more days. There’s nothing wrong with something low-commitment so long as everything is above board. Do what you want, have your fun, just be sure to establish the expectations up front. Decide what your needs are and communi...

Why are we expected to endure pain? In platonic and romantic relationships, physically, and even culturally. Today, Janelle is joining us to talk about how to work with that pain and find joy. A racial equity advocate, mom to three cats (if you listen carefully, you can hear them in the background), and one of my favorite people in the world, Janelle truly wants YOU to honor yourself, respect your...

We've had our glow up. We've changed the name from Detox Therapy to Situationsh!t. It's not that the direction of the show has changed so much as I'm learning what my strengths are and what's fun for me to make. This season we're going to have a lot of great conversations with some brilliant people. I also have some exciting news coming that I can't talk about just yet. Keep tuning in for the big...

This episode is so fun! Lily and I are podcast soulmates. We even spontaneously break into song! Do yourself a favor and listen to this one today. There are a lot of different professionals and services that can help you find a happy relationship. Everyone’s needs are different and no program can guarantee you’ll find love. However, if you’re looking for a long-term solution to help you learn the...

Natalie Fewell is a relational therapist who is here with one clear message: we can thrive in the wake of breakup and divorce. There is a lot of societal shame around being single and especially around divorce. But there’s no reason anyone should have to feel that way. The end of a relationship is a learning opportunity, a jumping off point. As a therapist and divorcee, Natalie knows a thing or tw...

Today’s episode is inspired by another listener question! They ask: “ When I think about my past relationships, or even when I am in one, I always think about the good times, and then I get all confused and don’t know if I gave up or am giving up to soon. How will I know? ” Things tend to look better in the rearview. We remember the good times and skip over the bad. However, the relationship ended...

Sometimes when you need a friend the most, it can be the hardest to reach out. There's no reason to suffer alone. Your friends love you and want to give you support and care. Please rate and review if you enjoy the show! / Don’t forget to rate and review! / Please rate, review, and tell your friends! / If you like the show, be a love and leave us an honest review! / If you’re enjoying the show, le...

Why is figuring out who you are so important? Well mainly so others don’t impose their own values and truths on you. When we let others lead us without questioning who we are, what we stand for, or what we do not tolerate, we lose ourselves. Take the time to look inside and find a clear sense of your boundaries, expectations, values and desires. Without all the noise, you might be surprised to fin...

Woo-woo! It’s another guest episode! And you are going to love this one. Anwar White is a certified dating and relationship coach and host of the “Get Your Guy Coaching” podcast.  Believe it or not, he focuses on coaching smart and successful women - which means YOU, dear listener! Anwar has a unique perspective that he brings to his coaching and to the podcast today and I know you’re going t...

Scarlett is back and she has some wisdom for all you listeners out there. As a personal boundaries coach, Scarlett has a lot of wisdom to impart. Boundaries, as we learn in this episode, help to define who you are, to find your power, to build self esteem and confidence. When you value yourself, it becomes easier to and easier to choose what you are and aren’t willing to tolerate. Consistency is k...

I don’t even need to tell you this. You know that feeling. You know when your intuition is telling you something. Don't ignore it! I can tell you, from personal experience, that it’s better to trust yourself right away than let things get worse.   A like and a follow sure helps us out!   Follow us on Instagram @SoireesInTherapy   If you want to work with me and you live in the state...

This episode is all about “incongruence.” You know that thing that happens when information, reality and behaviors just aren’t lining up? That’s incongruence. When this happens, it leaves the body in a state of confusion, anxiety, and even depression. It can be difficult to ask for clarity when you find yourself in an incongruent situation. Oftentimes, trying to have an honest conversation to get...

Welcome to the new year and to season 2 of the podcast! A lot of you have asked how to find a therapist, so I decided to dedicate an entire episode to answering this question. There are so many factors to consider that it can be overwhelming. Along with the information in this episode, I’ve created a downloadable PDF that details how to find yourself a therapist.  If you’re enjoying the show,...

I can't believe the end of season 1 is already here! Big thank you to so many people. I'll see you in 2022! If you’re enjoying the show, please leave us an honest review. It really helps the show! Follow us on Instagram @SoireesInTherapy If you want to work with me and you live in the state of Washington, Georgia, or DC visit SoireesInTherapy.com/book-now to book a free 15 minute consultation.

Last week we talked about emotionally unavailable men. This week we’re talking about plain old unavailable men. Men who are married, who are married to their jobs, who put everything else before you. If you want to be somebody’s number one you deserve to be somebody’s number one.  Tell your friends! It really helps the show! Follow us on Instagram @SoireesInTherapy If you want to work with me...

Today’s listener letter is a good one: “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men?” I can definitely relate to this question. If you can too, listen up! In this episode you’ll learn what it means to be “emotionally unavailable” and why you keep coming back to the same kinds of people. If you’re enjoying the show, please give us an honest review! Follow us on Instagram @SoireesInTherapy...

Get ready! This is a great episode! Today Dontea’ invites her friend Leisa on the podcast to talk about healing friendships. Friends since high school, these two have seen their fair share of ups and downs. They haven’t been besties since they met but there’s a reason they’re still close, today.  The secret to their success is genuinely caring about each others’ feelings and communicating eff...

We have another listener letter today - and it’s a good one! What is the definition of a red flag? And why is it so common to overlook them? Surprise, surprise this all begins in childhood. We are drawn towards what’s familiar. It’s ok to repeat these patterns - it’s only natural. But if you want to stop feeling the pain of unhealthy relationships, identify the difference between something that fe...

Exciting news today, loves! We have our first listener letter! This listener asks “Do you think people who need family therapy go on to have sh*tty relationships with people they aren’t related to?” Quick Answer: YES!! This episode discusses the correlation between the way you were raised and the kind of relationships you have in adulthood. It’s important to note that “relationships” doesn’t just...

This is our first time having a guest on the podcast! Please welcome Scarlett E! Scarlett is a licensed marriage and family therapist with expertise in holistic healing and certifications in many specialties. She joins us today to share her personal stories and expert insights about the ups and downs of family affairs dealing with dysfunctional family members   In this episode you will learn:...

Welcome back, loves! This week we’re talking about what it means to “eat the crumbs”. This episode builds on the “situationship” theme from last week and introduces you to next week’s topic of “boundaries”. If you like the show please rate and review - it really helps the podcast!   – Please rate, review, and share the show with your friends! Follow me on Instagram at  @SoireesInTherapy...

Hello loves! On todays episode of the podcast we're going to be talking about intimacy and sex. In this episode you will learn: -how intimacy equals sex but how sex does not equal intimacy -what a "situationship" is and how to tell if you are in one -four schemes that will tell you you're in a failed relationship I hope you learn a lot from this episode. If you like the show please rate and r...

In today's episode, we discuss how and why women often make themselves small, silencing their voices, and not asking for their needs to be met. At the end of the episode, I explain why we should continue to take up space and how not doing so will greatly impact our mental health. See you in the episode. Don't forget to rate and review! We appreciate it so much!  Follow us on Instagram @Soiree...