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This week I’m sharing an episode of the Codependummy podcast. Marissa invited me onto the show to chat about what codependence means and how it’s affected me personally. If you’re looking for another uplifting podcast that centers on self worth, check out more of her episodes, “ya dummy!” ---- Welcome to Episode 143! In this episode, we are graced with the presence of Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter who i...

A few episodes back I was talking about the changing of the seasons, falling leaves, and death. So I have a very special treat for you today. This episode our guest is Allison Ramsey, a licensed psychotherapist and Fertility survivor with degrees in environmental education. Her calling is to help women realign with the rhythms of nature to reclaim their peace. Today she’s going to show us all how...

Ready to explore the cosmic secrets to your ideal match? Join me and my guest, Tamerri, as we dive into the mystical world of astrology and relationship compatibility! Tamerri is an astrology expert and founder of Gift of the Nile. Discover your hidden astrological insights, get inspired to embrace your unique traits, and find out how your birth chart can influence love and partnership. Tune in no...

Aah fall, the season for Ugg boots, sherpa sweaters, and spiked apple cider. It's time to slow down, pay attention, and embrace new beginnings. When you see the leaves fall, let it remind you to let go of what no longer serves you. Take this time of year to say thank you to difficult experiences and find beauty in the transformation. Now get in loser, we're going apple picking. – Please rate, revi...

I’m so in love with fall. Let’s FALL in love with ourselves this autumn (I know that was so corny). This episode, I want us to talk about embracing ourselves so we can escape the people pleasing trap. Those of us with people pleaser personalities may forgo our own wants and needs in order to accomodate others. We’re looking for validation, for acceptance, for that stamp of approval. But when you l...

Hey babes! Ever been in that “What are we?” situation? (or are you in that situation right now?) If you’re having trouble figuring out if it’s a situationship or a relationship, I’ve got four signs to look out for. Listen to the episode to hear what they are. – Please rate, review, and share the show with your friends! Follow the show on Instagram @SituationshitPod Follow me @SoireesInTherapy If y...

Welcome back, lovely listeners! Today we’re diving into the complexities of knowing when to stay and when to leave a relationship. Ever found yourself in a situation where you love someone's company but can't ignore those nagging doubts? Discover the "Hostage Girl" phenomenon and learn how to reclaim your own happiness. Tune in now and embrace the freedom of embracing your joy! – Please rate, revi...

Have you heard the term “playing house”? It essentially means that you’re doing all of the relationship things but you’re not actually in a relationship. Or what I like to call, being the faux girlfriend. It’s almost like an audition. You’re doing your best at playing the part of their girlfriend to show how great it would be if they actually dated you. Don’t waste your energy! You’ll find somebod...

Hey friends! Welcome back. Today, as you can tell from the title, I’ve got one question for you: Are you the comfort seeker? It’s not a bad thing! Don’t worry. It’s just something to be aware of. When you’re feeling low, what do you reach for? Is it a favorite snack, rewatching that same tv show, or maybe some good old fashioned S-E-X? Whatever it is, remember that it’s not the activity that’s nec...

It’s hot girl summer, y’all! That means embracing your true, confident self. Nobody else can be YOU. Bring a care-free authenticity to your relationships this summer and see what happens! – Please rate, review, and share the show with your friends! Follow the show on Instagram @SituationshitPod Follow me @SoireesInTherapy If you want to work with me, visit SoireesInTherapy.com/Book-Now to book a f...

This one might make you feel a little called out - and maybe it should! Do you ever find yourself passing up friends or partners who want your attention but pining for people who are unavailable? That's ok! It's really common. Let’s talk about where this behavior comes from and and how we can work on it. – Please rate, review, and share the show with your friends! Follow the show on Instagram @Sit...

Sometimes when we think of “relationships” we only think of the romantic kind. Remember that everything you’re learning on this podcast and along your self-worth journey can be applied to all other kinds of relationships. Bullying in friendships can be hard to see. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that to be somebody’s bestie you have to back them up at every turn. Supporting somebody y...

For a lot of us, we don’t necessarily learn until later in life that our value doesn’t come from the outside. Especially as women, we’re taught that one of our most desirable skills is people pleasing. I finally stepped away from living for everyone else’s approval and I feel so free. I hope you can relate to this episode and it helps you on your self worth journey. – Please rate, review, and shar...

This episode was inspired by a recent coaching session. For a long time I let others determine my worth. If you’re anything like me (and you probably are) you’re waiting for external validation. Let’s put the SELF in self worth, right? Don’t dim yourself or be smaller or change your values in order to be chosen. Assess what you really want and then start auditioning people to see if they fit in yo...

You all, Grace brings out a different side of me. I was a guest on The Grace Matrix podcast and it's a great episode. Of course we talk about situationships. But we also get into the personal experiences that shaped me and caused me to pursue unhealthy relationships. If you think I've shared it all before, buckle up. I get very honest in this interview and I think you will relate. ---- It's not un...

I’m here to share a story, today. After spending ten, maybe eleven years in situations I’m finally in a place where I can see them coming. That wasn’t time wasted, though. By not getting my needs met I actually learned what my needs were. – Please rate, review, and share the show with your friends! Follow the show on Instagram @SituationshitPod Follow me @SoireesInTherapy If you want to work with...

Go where you’re wanted. It might sound obvious but it’s not. Start noticing how the people in your life make you feel. Are you fighting for attention? Are you silenced? Maybe it’s time to stop worrying about getting affection from people who are withholding and instead choose to spend time with people who value you. – Please rate, review, and share the show with your friends! Follow the show on In...

Back in season two, episode five, our guest was Anwar White. Anwar is a fantastic dating and relationship coach and has his own podcast called Get Your Guy Coaching. This is actually an episode of his show where I was the guest! We both get personal and share tough times in our pasts where we struggled with low self worth. I hope you walk away from this conversation feeling empowered to lean into...

Today I might be coming in a little hot, my loves. Tell me, does this sound like you? You know they’re the ONE but they’re not prioritizing you. They say they’ll call after work but don’t hit you up till 10 p.m.  As much as you want to ignore them… you answer. Why? I’m going to drop some truth on you… are you ready? You’re “always available,” like we talked about in the last episode, because...

If you're really great at figuring out what people need, maybe it's because you HAD to get good at it. A lot of us who come from environments where people didn't directly communicate their feelings grew into adults who prioritize the comfort of others. Don't be afraid to speak up. Your needs are just as important as anyone else's! Please rate and review - it really helps us out! Follow the show on...

In the first official episode of Season 4, we dive into a topic that many of us may be familiar with: being the "always available" woman. Being the always available woman means believing that our needs come last. We cancel plans and drop everything for this person. And when they don't reciprocate, it can leave us feeling hurt. Tune in to this episode and learn about the importance of valuing our o...

Oh Valentine’s Day… It’s a complicated holiday. It’s supposed to be all about love but for a lot of us it brings up anxiety. V-day can make you question whether your relationship is official or not, it can make us insecure about being single, or we can feel pressure to spend a ton of money. In this episode I share some ways that you can make the best of this holiday. Make YOURSELF feel good. Think...

This is a talk I gave as part of my “Worth Everything” program. This eight week program will teach you how to accept yourself and know your worth. Included are video lessons, weekly zoom talks, and an online community to give and receive support from your fellow queens. Visit Dontea.co to learn more and join the waitlist.

It's beyond normal to wonder about your ex and even fantasize about reuniting to try again. There are so many moments after you leave a relationship, whether it be a situationship or not, where you often wonder if you made the right choice. Should you go back or keep it where it's at? Sit tight. I'll help you decide.  In this episode I share four questions to help you determine whether your e...

Today’s guest, Candice Harper, is a Relationship Coach, a Certified/Licensed Hypnotherapist, and a Workshop Facilitator. She teaches singles and couples how to heal from the past and love themselves unconditionally. Join Candice’s free live masterclass to become a “ Healthy Man Magnet ” Listen to Candice’s podcast Love Life Skills for Leaders In January 2023 Candice will be starting a new group -...