Sit Down And Heal Podcast

Why do some men struggle to express emotions, ask for help, or be vulnerable in relationships? The answer may have nothing to do with adulthood and everything to do with childhood. In this episode of the Sit Down & Heal Podcast, Coach Derrick explores how childhood shame impacts boys and follows them into adulthood. Many men learn early that their feelings are unacceptable, their vulnerability...

Are you tired of repeating the same painful patterns in your relationships despite being a successful adult? It might be because your inner child is actually the one in the driver's seat of your dating life. In this episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast, Coach Derek explores the concept of dating like a baby and how childhood wounds dictate our romantic choices. Coach Derek explains that ma...

In Episode 4 of our Mental Health series, we continue the conversation around emotional wellness, mental health challenges, and the importance of seeking support when life feels overwhelming. This episode encourages open dialogue, reduces stigma, and reminds viewers that they are not alone. Whether you are navigating stress, anxiety, depression, or supporting someone you care about, taking the fir...

Sometimes the way we love, respond, shut down, chase, overthink, or pull away is not coming from our heart — it is coming from unhealed pain. In this episode of Mental Health & Love, Coach Derrick breaks down how unresolved trauma can influence the way you show up in dating and relationships. You may think you are protecting yourself, but sometimes your trauma is making decisions before your h...

Do you find yourself overanalyzing every text message or waiting for the other shoe to drop in your relationship? You are not alone, but that anxiety might be a smoke signal that attracts the wrong people. In this episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast, Coach Derek explores the deep connection between mental health and your love life during Mental Health Awareness Month. We often think anxiety i...

Ever wonder why the same conflicts keep following you from one relationship to the next? It is time to look under the hood and realize that your mental health is playing a much bigger role in your love life than you might think. In this episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast, Coach Derek kicks off Mental Health Awareness Month by exploring how our internal state shapes our external connections....

Ghosting. Detachment. Low effort. Entertaining people you don’t even like… These aren’t random behaviors—they’re survival mode patterns . In this episode, we break down how burnout is shaping your dating habits and why you’re showing up in ways that don’t reflect what you actually want. ⚠️ You don’t have a dating problem… you have a capacity problem.

You keep saying you’re “protecting your peace”… but what if you’re just tired? In this episode of Love in Survival Mode, we break down the difference between healthy boundaries and emotional burnout—and how exhaustion is quietly sabotaging your dating life. If dating feels draining, conversations feel like work, and you’ve lost the energy to connect… this episode is for you.💡 You’re not broken. Y...

Spring Cleaning Your Love Life | Episode 5: You’re Dating Without Intention In the final episode of the Spring Cleaning Your Love Life: Detox Your Dating Habits series, Coach Derrick breaks down a pattern that keeps people stuck in confusion, situationships, and misalignment — dating without intention . Many people say they want a relationship, but their actions don’t reflect clarity, standards, o...

Spring Cleaning Your Love Life | Episode 4: You’re Dating From Fear In Episode 4 of the Spring Cleaning Your Love Life: Detox Your Dating Habits series, Coach Derrick breaks down how fear silently drives unhealthy dating decisions. Many people aren’t choosing partners from confidence, clarity, or alignment — they’re choosing from fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of starting over. Fear of not being...

Spring Cleaning Your Love Life | Episode 3: You’re Over-Giving to Be Chosen In Episode 3 of the Spring Cleaning Your Love Life: Detox Your Dating Habits series, Coach Derrick breaks down a pattern that keeps many people stuck in one-sided relationships — over-giving to be chosen . If you’ve ever found yourself doing the most, giving more, showing up more, and trying harder just to keep someone int...

Spring Cleaning Your Love Life | Episode 2: You’re Ignoring the Check Engine Light In Episode 2 of the Spring Cleaning Your Love Life: Detox Your Dating Habits series, Coach Derrick dives into one of the biggest dating mistakes people make — ignoring the red flags you already see. You felt it. You noticed it. But you talked yourself out of it. Whether it’s inconsistency, lack of effort, emotional...

Spring Cleaning Your Love Life | Episode 1: You're Moving Too Fast In this first episode of the Spring Cleaning Your Love Life: Detox Your Dating Habits series, Coach Derrick breaks down one of the most common mistakes people make in dating — moving too fast. When we rush emotional intimacy, overshare too soon, or get attached before truly knowing someone, we often create relationships built o...

Self-Love Is The Final Upgrade | Sit Down And Heal Podcast Many people enter relationships hoping love will fix what they feel is missing inside. But the truth is, the healthiest relationships happen when we learn to love ourselves first . In this episode of the Sit Down And Heal Podcast , Coach Derrick explores why self-love is the final upgrade in your healing journey . When we develop self-resp...

Communication Updates: Say It Without Burning It Down | Sit Down And Heal Podcast Many relationships don’t fail because of a lack of love — they fail because of how we communicate when emotions are high . In this episode of the Sit Down And Heal Podcast , Coach Derrick breaks down how to upgrade the way we communicate in dating and relationships. If you’ve ever said something you regret, shut down...

Why do we keep attracting the same types of relationships? Why do certain behaviors trigger us more than others? The answer often lives in the parts of ourselves we haven’t fully explored. In this episode of the Sit Down And Heal Podcast, Coach Derrick dives into shadow work and how the hidden parts of our emotional world influence the people we choose, the patterns we repeat, and the relationship...

This the first episode of a 4 part series called: REBOOT YOUR LOVE LIFE. What do you do when your love life completely crashes? 💔In this conversation, Coach Derrick breaks down the emotional, psychological, and behavioral patterns that often lead to relationship breakdowns. Instead of blaming the dating pool, this episode encourages you to look inward and explore the healing work that may be nece...

Many adults end up dating people they don’t actually like — not because they’re “picky,” but because old wounds, loneliness, and pressure distort what feels familiar, safe, or available. In this video, we break down the psychology behind dating people who aren’t aligned with your values, energy, or long‑term needs. This is a must‑watch if you’re rebuilding confidence, healing from past relationshi...

In this live session, we explore one of the most overlooked dynamics in modern relationships: the thin line between care and control. Emotional monitoring can show up as “just checking in,” “wanting reassurance,” or “needing transparency” — but when does it cross into surveillance, anxiety-driven policing, or subtle forms of control? This conversation breaks down:• How emotional monitoring develop...

So many adults move through dating and relationships without realizing they’ve been operating from a place of self‑abandonment, emotional survival patterns, and unhealed relational wounds. This video guides you through the process of recognizing where you’ve been disappearing — and how to finally return to yourself with clarity, compassion, and power. Whether you’re rebuilding after heartbreak, re...

Join Coach Derrick, a certified healing journey and relationship coach, as he explores the intricacies of navigating conflict and building trust in relationships. This episode dives deep into understanding inner child dynamics, how childhood wounds influence adult conflicts, and the importance of healing for better relationships. Coach Derrick emphasizes effective communication, emotional safety,...

Join Coach Derrickk in this thought-provoking episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast as he dives deep into the topic of identifying the footprint of childhood trauma in adult relationships. He introduces the concept of 'Echoes of the Past' and discusses how unresolved childhood traumas manifest in our current behaviors and relationships. Drawing analogies from sci-fi, Coach Derrick empha...

In this episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast, Coach Derrick dives into the concept of 'Busy Brain' and its detrimental effects on relationships. He explores how chronic stress and burnout can lead to unintentional neglect in relationships, causing feelings of resentment and loneliness in partners. Derrick discusses the importance of finding balance between work and personal life and pr...

In this episode, Coach Derek, a Certified Healing Journey coach and relationship coach, discusses 'Unmasking the Inner Critic: Survival Tactics.' Dive deep into understanding the inner critic, how it's formed, and its impact on your decision-making and self-perception. Learn about cognitive distortions, emotional reasoning, overgeneralization, labeling, and more. Discover practical way...

Are you caught in the People Pleaser Paradox? In this episode of the "Sit Down and Heal Podcast," Coach Derrick unpacks the delicate balance between helping others and protecting your emotional well-being. Discover how self-awareness, personal growth, and healing can free you from the cycle of over-giving and unmet needs. Explore the six distinct types of people-pleasers, from the Yes Person to th...