Single You "The Podcast"

More information on Single You Academy Here. ---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy....

More information on Single You Academy Here. ---- If you haven't listen to Part 1 with Bryan, I suggest you do that first. It would just make more sense sis. Go here.  In this episode with Bryan we pick right up where he was discussing how he should have never gotten revenge on is first wife. Which made his now wife (then girlfriend) question his character and ask a lot of deep ass discerning...

More information on Single You Academy Here. ---- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list to Single You Academy....

More information on Single You Academy Here. ----- You can connect with Bryan here. The conversation I had with Dai here.   Intro. 1:05 There isn't enough Good men talking about their healthy relationships (with their wife). 4:15 How were you thinking about dating and marriage leading up to meeting Dai... at Starbucks 15:11 What was said and/or what was the vibe for you to even think Dai was...

Next week we'll talk to Bryan, my friend Dai's husband. She's been on the show before you can listen here. Bryan will be discussing how he created a safe space for Dai even before she was his wife. :-) ------ More information on Single You Academy Here. Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area,...

More information on Single You Academy Here. In Part 2 of my conversation with Lu'Cretia we talk about ghosting, the times of feeling lonely and how we stay on that path of not fumbling our boundaries.  00:00 How do you handle ghosting? 4:00 Is Russell really corny?  8:25 What did Lu'Cretia do to transform her mind?  10:15 Stop taking advice from people who aren't living how you act...

More information on Single You Academy Here. ---- New to me? I suggest starting here:  57. From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships, to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference) 49. How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)  50. If you were raised t...

Cause the way you (old me) be dishing out love, I can tell you have zero idea what it means! Not in the way Jesus wants us to love and be loved.  ---- Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You...

You will either have a year of excuses or a year of.... I DID THAT!!!!!!  Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area and you know you have nothing else to lose. You're ready to work on you. You need help to get rid of the shame you have in t...

For those of you who are just finding me and you haven't been able to hear my full story yet. Well here it is, I did this speech in 2019 at a conference called; Inspired. It was a woman empowerment event and I asked the audience full of women, who's your mirror? Society? Men? Your kids? Your parents? I challenge you to make YOU your only mirror..  The Reka I was was in 2017 and before: my iss...

If you’re new to me. Here is what you need to know… I’m REALLY good at helping women shift their mindset around being single. I also need you to know that I’m not an expert in God. I just know what I’m experiencing in my relationship with God. So I hope that this conversation I have with my friend Cameo encourages you to lean into your relationship with God. My constant goal is to figure out ways...

Let's talk the tinder-swindler (on Netflix) What I wrote on Facebook....  "I wonder why all the commentary I see on the “Tinder-Swindler” is all about how stupid the girls are/were and NOT about how evil the man was? Rhetorical. Ps. Some of you want your girls to be married so badly but give her ZERO schooling on what love actually is. She’s out here already believing at 12 that when a boy sa...

Listen... we get so bitter and upset about being treated poorly and we don’t realize once we stop fumbling our boundaries being treated poorly significantly minimizes. So really what’s on the other side of doing the work? Knowing exactly who you are Showing up as you in every room Having the audacity to believe you can get what you want. Which equals you being able to walk away from a man who isn’...

I speak to faith based women, especially Black women who grew up in church. So I absolutely suggest that you listen to this episode before or after this episode about abstinence.  In this episode Skyy B. (my friend and Howard sister) speaks on her journey with abstinence.... twice... 7 years... twice and how the first time didn't really change her behaviors with men or stop the frustration or...

The continued discussion on ... do men say "there are no good women out there". What is their frustration with women? 1:40 Men say "she won't let me be the man". 2:20 Explaining what emasculating him looks like. 8:42 Men are sensitive... human... 12:58 What is a husband... what do you want?  14:14 Is there a level of seeing 'where is this going' with him? Or is that wasting time... 19:00 The...

Today in this bonus episode I tackle a question I got via this TikTok video.. "I know the root cause but how do I stop now that I know?" Great question and I answer it today on this episode and the visual from TikTok is here.  Plus I tackle this question I got due to that same video... "How can I help someone who does this (consistently choose men who aren't interested in them)? The visual of...

So I had to bring my Bison sister back to discuss the #1 thing I see/hear women say. Ce Anderson is a Licensed therapist, wellness & trauma recovery expert. You can check her practice out here.  Did we really miss out on a good man? Are they gone... or do we have some growing up and re-evaluating to do?  1:29 Are there really no good men? And why do we say that?  4:08 Who am I a...

Seriously, I guess I 'made it' whatever that means but I have an imposter. Will the "real Reka please stand up" and that's ME! NOT @justmeRekaa (with the double aa) on instagram. please go REPORT that person. I don't do readings, nor do I say things like "grand rising" in real life!! :-)  Plus on this bonus episode...  Why you can say you want to stop being mishandled by men, know why yo...

This episode is Part 2 of last week's episode with Anwar. I recommend listening to that episode first and then come back to this one.  So let's talk... is not being in a relationship a failure? Why do we see a single woman and automatically think... what's wrong with her?  0:00 Love overachieving, Anwar's definition. Is love a game or not? (Listen to his full episode here ) 4:35 Mos...

A discussion with Dating & Relationship coach, Anwar White. 0:00 Introduction of Anwar and how he became a coach.  4:34 Why are we failing in this lane of relationships? #1 reason 7:23 How we judge men and don't accept. Unfortunately it causes us to put 'him' on a pedestal.   14:00 How our parents didn't teach us how to be a woman and emotional available to our 'men'.  17:11 Bei...

Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  In this episode the tables have been turned and I get interviewed. We tackle....  0:00 From her series titled; from timid to confidence. Kasia Brandford (find her here) has asked me to share my story and how/why I become the "single girls life coach". 6:45 How easy or difficult is it to know that you're in an emotionally abusive relationship...

Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  In this episode we tackle... 00:00 Ugh I had covid and intro of Cameo King. Host of the "Good Girl Podcast". 5:00 How do we slow down the dating process. Question... Yeah -one thing I’m like really battling with.. when it comes to dating... is being able to separate my heart from it. Because I be taking men way too deeply sometimes. Any tips when...

Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  In this episode we tackle... How did you feel about Issa ending up with Lawrence? My thoughts...  Review Shout out. I didn’t just let time pass (because it wouldn't have transformed me)... here is what I mean.  I didn’t just use my insight to change (because it wouldn't have transformed me)... here is what I didn't instead.  The Pow...

Just in time for that New Year Resolution; Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  :00 Introducing Keetra 3:58 Did your (pastor) parents have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship?  9:46 Why she stayed in her 15 year marriage.  10:57 How 'church' and 'church folk' didn't help. 14:00 After her divorce the fog cleared and here's why. 18:15 Why Keetra si...

Just in time for that New Year Resolution; Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.  0:00 "We can also ruin good men if we don't hold true to our values and boundaries" - What does Lanaya mean by that?  0:50 If you (women) have the power to help (men) we also have the power to hinder. 3:10 How we ruin me (Lanaya on possibly ruining her boyfriend before he become her husband). 4:00 He...