Shrink Me? I am just waking up

It started with a flat tire. A neighbor’s wife offered help, her husband wrestled with the jack, and soon five of us were bracing a car that threatened to roll back. But the one person who never moved? The car’s owner. What looks like apathy is often something else—avoidance, helplessness, even shame. In this episode, Dr. Lia Roth breaks down how silence can be louder than action, why defense mech...

Projection feels like safety... but it’s really just fear in disguise. Fear of the unknown, fear of judgment, and other shame concerns. In this episode, Dr. Lia Roth—psychoanalyst, bestselling author, and creator of Binary Relationship Theory—unpacks the subtle ways we hide behind suspicion, rules, and endless demands. From lawyers’ letters to bank appointments, from TSA lines to dating apps, we’v...

You don’t start grieving when someone dies. You start grieving the first time you hesitate over their name in your phone… and don’t hit send. Even if they’re still alive. Maybe you’ve drifted apart. Maybe illness is stealing them slowly. Maybe they’re here, but the relationship isn’t. That’s grief too. This episode is for the kind of loss no one prepares you for—the slow kind. The silent kind. The...

Ever been halfway in, halfway out? Stuck in that invisible space where nothing moves forward and everything feels heavier? That’s the freakin’ middle. In this episode, I take you inside one of the most legendary comebacks in sports history — and what it has to teach us about shame, burnout, and getting your full self back in the game. You’ll meet Mr. X, hear what Freud and Lacan have to say about...

Your Body Keeps the Score. So What Age Does It Say You Are? Your Body Keeps the Score. So What Age Does It Say You Are? A raw reflection on body image, emotional age, and what it really means to feel alive in your own skin. How old do you feel, really? Not your birthday. Not what the mirror says. But what your  body  tells you in quiet moments. Emotional age is what tells you: “You’ve go...

If you’ve ever asked, “How did I not see this coming?” ...This one’s for you. In this raw and unfiltered episode, Dr. Lia Roth explores the psychology of  self-betrayal, the hidden warning sign we ignore long before betrayal, abuse, or emotional burnout show up. We talk about: Cognitive dissonance  and why your body knew before your mind did Fear of loss  and how we get stuck in rel...

What if love didn’t fail? What if you were just following the wrong script? You were told to find “the one,” build a forever, and keep the dream alive. But here’s the truth: less than 18% of U.S. families fit the old definition of a couple with children. Most of us are already living in a post-nuclear reality... Yet emotionally, we’re still clinging to a fantasy from the 1950s. In t...

Have you ever pushed someone away, even when all they offered was love ? Have you ever offered kindness… and got backlash instead of gratitude? You’re not crazy. And you’re not alone. In this raw and eye-opening episode, Dr. Lia Roth breaks down why some of us feel unsafe in safe relationships, why kindness can trigger defense, and how we end up sabotaging the connection we  say  we want...

135,000 feet above Earth, Alan Eustace let go. No rocket. No capsule. Just a suit and a cord. He cut it. And fell. Four and a half minutes. Faster than sound. Alone. Until he landed. Changed. This episode is about  that  kind of fall. Not into Earth, but into  you . Into truth, ... and into autonomy. I'm Dr. Lia Roth, psychoanalyst and author of  Get In or Get Out But Don’t Sta...

Ever wonder why you spill your guts on the couch but freeze up with your lawyer? In this episode, I break down how memory  actually  works, why emotion is the glue that holds it together, and how healing starts when no one’s trying to fix you. We talk representation, transference, silence, survival strategies. And when you get all this?... well, you also realize how to spark real change...

Hi. You’re listening to  Shrink Me? I’m Just Waking Up. I’m Dr. Lia Roth. If your life looks good on paper, but something still feels off inside, this is for you. Because some of us are tired of feeling confused. We’re done performing for applause. We’re thirsty for something real. Today, we’re going into one of my favorite topics: shame. Not the cute kind you see on social media. Not “Oops,...

We’ve made life faster, easier, and more optimized than ever. But here’s the question: Are we actually evolving—or just getting better at distracting ourselves? In this episode, I explore how modern life keeps us trapped in autopilot living —reacting, repeating, and sleepwalking through our days. Drawing from Russian philosopher P.D. Ouspensky, Freud, and Mark Solms, modern day psychoanalyst and n...

Ever get in a fight about something tiny - but it spirals, fast? The trash. The text that went unanswered. The tone in their voice. And suddenly it’s not about the thing - it’s about you. Your worth. Your story. Your unseen wounds. This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt misunderstood, overexposed, or like they’re arguing for their life over something that shouldn’t matter this much. I dive dee...

This episode was born from a simple, smart question someone asked me: “Dr. Lia, what’s the one thing I can do to feel confident?” Here’s the truth I’ve lived, seen, and helped others claim: Confidence doesn’t come from being the loudest in the room. It doesn’t come from being perfect or polished or liked. Real confidence comes from alignment and that is when who you are matches how you show up. Mo...

Ever felt invisible while doing everything right? This episode of  FFreud — Shrink Me? I Am Just Waking Up  breaks down the hidden cost of overfunctioning, the shame behind self-erasure, and how we lose our voice trying to be accepted. I unpack the emotional alchemy of composting shame—transforming the parts of yourself you’ve been told to hide, silence, or shrink in order to be accepted...

I went fishing with friends last weekend—kids, zero fish, full meltdown. Why? Their lines weren’t even in the water. Sound familiar? We do this too. We believe we’re not enough, not attractive, not worthy—and then move through life with our line already out of the water, calling it rejection. But it’s not rejection. It’s a belief system running the show. In this episode, we unpack how early experi...

Let’s get one thing straight— anger isn’t a problem . The way we’ve been taught to handle it? That’s the real issue. In this episode, I’m cutting through the noise around the most misunderstood emotion we have: anger . I’m not here to sugarcoat it. I’m here to help you see it for what it actually is—a sign, a messenger, and most of all, a damn powerful force . We’ve been conditioned to fear anger,...

Think you're living your life? Think again. This episode exposes the quiet little rulebook your family handed you without a word — the one that decides who gets love, who stays invisible, and why you keep playing roles that don’t even fit. It’s not just “how we are.” It’s a survival script. But guess what? You can rewrite it. In this first drop of  FFreud, Shrink Me! , I’m Just Waking Up, we’...

Let’s get something straight: forgiveness isn’t about making peace with them, it’s about making peace with  yourself . In this episode of  FFreud, Shrink Me! I Am Just Waking Up, we strip forgiveness down to what it really is: the act of taking your energy back. Not because they apologized. Not because it all makes sense now. But because you’re done carrying that heavy weight. You don’t...

This podcast isn’t a takedown. It’s a wake-up call. In this opening episode of  FFreud, Shrink Me! I Am Just Waking Up , we talk about the danger of not seeing what’s right in front of us — the idealizations, the compromises, the tiny self-betrayals we call “coping.” We adapt, we shrink, and then wonder why we’re hurting. But waking up doesn’t mean turning against what shaped us. It means&nbs...

Welcome to F#ck Freud , the podcast that cuts through the mental health noise and hands you the real, no-fluff tools for emotional healing, self-awareness, and mindset mastery. Hosted by Dr. Lia Roth —psychoanalyst, best-selling author, Skandalaris award winner and a human lie detector—this show dismantles toxic self-help, outdated psychology, and the emotional traps keeping you small. Each week,...