Sholom Bayis and important life topics

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 7. 3rd Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: forgetting that love is the glue of marriage  (Part #2) rescuing your marriage from your children; greatest gift to your children is allowing your marriage to thrive; date nights; vacation just the 2 of you; scheduling intimate...

watch for your disowned parts of yourself (that your spouse points out to you!!); acknowledging this diffuses tensions and promotes real love and acceptance between husband and wife; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

(Zelig Pliskin) self confidence to as questions; taking control of your thoughts; choosing self compassion; BEER MAYIM CHAIM: Hashem gave YOU the Torah, He treasures you specifically; http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BEER_MAYIM_CHAYIM.pdf   Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 6. 3rd Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: forgetting that love is the glue of marriage (Part #1) taking responsibility and not blaming Hashem for your "lousy" marriage; date nights to connect; Amazon -  https://www.amazon.com/Really-Dumb-Mistakes-Smart-Couples/dp/168025...

activating your Adult self;   Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

check your mode - Adult or Child, this is a CRUCIAL key to develop a healthy beautiful marriage;   Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 5. 3 Pillars to successful marriage: committment; love, which is the glue of marriage; doing everything you can to foster that love; Amazon -  https://www.amazon.com/Really-Dumb-Mistakes-Smart-Couples/dp/1680251767   Email address for feedback, questions, and insigh...

skill of stretching yourself to hold multiple truths; incorporating your spouse's world into your own; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

(Zelig Pliskin) develop your personal story about your self confidence; differentiating Thoughts from Feelings; using healthy coping statements; plant seeds of kindness wherever you go; TZAV VZIRUZ; on how focusing on your inherently pure soul prevents you from hurting yourself spiritually; http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/TZAV_VZIRUZ.pdf Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is s...

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 4. 2nd Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage - Thinking I could have done better; Amazon -  https://www.amazon.com/Really-Dumb-Mistakes-Smart-Couples/dp/1680251767   Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 3. 1st Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage - Mistaking Infatuation for Love; Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/Really-Dumb-Mistakes-Smart-Couples/dp/1680251767   Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 2. 3 Pillars to successful marriage; Hashem wants and gives Koach for marriages go work despite the vast differences between men and women; Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/Really-Dumb-Mistakes-Smart-Couples/dp/1680251767   Email address for feedback, questions, and...

introducing Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier's great book 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage'; Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/Really-Dumb-Mistakes-Smart-Couples/dp/1680251767   Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

be yourself and embrace differences; having patience; honoring your journey together; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

(Zelig Pliskin) making the self confident decision; breaking the unhealthy "should" distortion; learning and growing from setbacks; believe in yourself; the SHEM MISHMUEL on developing "courage" and daven to Hashem for it; http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/SHEM_MISHMUEL_(1).pdf Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

without blame or shame; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

pooling your gifts together; Hashem gave each of you unique strengths and talents to contribute to your marriage; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

your spouse is a peer, not your parent or child; to strive in marriage to have a healthy and mature "adult" relationship with each other; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

your spouse is not a puzzle piece in your world; appreciating your spouse as a unique special individual person that is NOT you, paradoxically creates the strongest Sholom Bayis; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

no comparison - how Kinah can kill marriage and doing the opposite can heal and transform your marriage; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

(Zelig Pliskin) healthy versus unhealthy hesitation; recognizing and challenging negative cognitive distortions; letting go of grudges; self care; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

surrendering the "l" to the "we", by bringing Hashem in your lives; how respecting and loving your spouse's different nature creates the greatest "Oneness"; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

coping with "aloneness" in marriage; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

coping with insecurity; how working on insecurity can heal and enhance the husband/wife relationship; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com

marriage cannot survive on "chemistry" alone; not to be fearful of "bumps" in marriage; prayer and self work transforms a marriage into a beautiful and strong one; Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com