SheWolf Alchemy Podcast

In today's episode, Ashley and Ress wish everyone a happy new year and discuss what they hope 2023 brings in. A discussion is had on the pressures of expectations regarding New year resolutions and a mindful conversation is had on having a word or theme to describe your 2023 instead of exact goals. Ashley talks about her 2023 word, 'Doing'. She explains her goals of wanting to do more and explore...

In today's episode we talk about Daddy issues, and mommy issues too. Ashley talks about recognizing how much impact someone who wasn't even in your life can have on you. Ress discusses how the impact can be felt by those who still had their father in their life daily. A question is brought up, why aren't mother issues talked about as widely? Men with Madonna /Whore complexes and those with psychol...

In today's episode, Ress and Ashley talk about gift-giving. How do you gift to those who have everything? Are you required to match energy? And the importance of not getting caught up in capitalism and digging yourself into a hole trying to make sure things go according to 'plan'. Ashley gives details about a valentines day that went horribly wrong. Ress talks about gifting based on the person you...

In today’s episode Ashley and Ress discuss romance. Ashley talks about feeling free in wanting and expecting more out of romance. Why talk yourself into thinking small? Ress discuss soulmates, passion, and intensity. Ashley tells Ress to simmer down. Is romance a game of show and tell , for Instagram viewers? Or is privacy and tailored gestures where the real intimacy is at? Ress is team ‘destined...

In today’s episode Ashley and Ress discuss breakups. The daunting task of actually leaving , but also the reason’s people linger around while being emotionally absent. While one person is putting in their all , the other may be making emotional deposits in whole new situations. What does that emotional push and pull do to both parties involved? The duo discusses the temporary discomfort in leaving...

In todays episode Nique and Ress  talk about the ways in which the definition of ‘strength” has changed and morphed over time for them. From looking at strength as ‘ how much I can put up with’ to understanding strength as look at how free I am.  Is your definition of strength actually keeping you attached to your weaknesses ?

In todays episode we are talking about cannon balling (or simply tipping your toes back) into the dating pool. Nique and Ress discuss dating after a break, dry spell or  long term relationship.  How do you know when you're ready? Has the dating game changed? Can you still be out here doing what you use to? Nique and Ress also take a detour to discuss what a psychic told them about their future spo...

Escapism is diverting your attention from something you simply don’t like or don’t want to deal with . Some people run from their thoughts or feelings through over-working, preoccupation with people or procrastinating with daydreams. We use escapism to run away from  unpleasant thoughts and  feelings but reality is always there waiting for us and we cant escape that. In todays episode Nique and Re...

Today we are talking about that feeling of sorrow, of dread of waiting and wanting something more. Sometimes while we are in a season of waiting and wanting a sort of pessimism grows and in that space sadness turns to anxiousness then to resentment into anger and that anger turns to us stepping out of alignment. Today we are talking about how to hit that pause button before deciding we’re tired of...

Today we talk about changing up the price to access you. In the words of fat joe, ‘Yesterdays price is not todays prices!’ .  And just because someone USE to have access to you , doesn’t mean you have to continue to extend that offer. We talk about making that change up , and why its NOT SELFISH to require more out those wanting some of your energy.

In todays episode Nique and Ress discuss breakups and why are they so hard . Nique and Ress share their adventures of both good and bad breakups. The breakups where both parties agreed, this whole relationship was a bad idea. But on the flip side , we discuss the breakups that turned us into “THAT” friend for a couple months after walking away . The stages of breaking up ( similar to the stages of...

In todays episodes we get real about boundaries and why its important to walk that talk when it comes to implementing them. Nique and Ress break down what boundaries are and how to implement them in different areas of your life. Nosey parents that won't respect your privacy? PUT UP A BOUNDARY. Romantic partner that constantly leaves you feeling anxious and confused? PUT UP A BOUNDARY! Home girl th...

Ress and Ashley discuss what its like dating with unhealed trauma. What is trauma and how does it present itself with dating? Ashley deep dives into the conversation of unresolved abandonment issues and how sweeping it under the rug is all gravy until that rug is removed. Ress talks about the importance of calling yourself out on your own bullshit and not just shrugging it off thinking, 'tis' life...

Today we are going to talk about some of the unhealthy ways  we try to solve our need for intimacy without the risk of being truly intimate. And furthermore, why this is a problem. Nique talks about holding on to situationships and letting issues run unchecked. Ress discuss using sex as a means to prevent abandonment  and confusing control with love.

In todays Questions Nobody Asked Us Ress answers Questions with a guest co-host Ashley from @parentsrpeople (IG) /Parentsarepeople.net . In one question a woman in her late 20’s questions her dating options. Ress and Ashley take a jab at a question surrounding fate and predestined paths . Ashley talks about the beauty in genuine friendships. And Ress reads the last questions asking about red flags...

In todays episode Nique and Ress talks about pivoting, making a U-ey, changing course ! Todays episode is all about getting out of your head, and making movement in these streets. What’s holding you back from making that change that’s been in the back of your mind for years now? Nique talks about finally making a change that’s been 10 years in the making for her. She describes how 10 years later-...

In todays episode Nique answers questions about anxiety and choosing your path. Ress tackles the theme questioned of todays episode which is, wth is wrong with your husbands??? A woman ponders on telling her lovers wife about their continued affair and teen wonders if she was in the wrong for telling her father the truth about his girlfriend.

In todays episode we discuss anxiety in young black professionals. Nique and Ress discuss why anxiety seems so common among millennials and the stigmas surrounding it. We discuss the  idea of ' you can't be good , you have to be great", and the cost these type on mantras cause in the long term. Is always being labeled the 'strong one' a compliment ? or is it an eventual detriment ? Millennials are...

In todays "Questions that nobody asked us", Nique talks about it never being to late to start over and Ress discuss the levels of trife when it comes to wedding etiquette. One questioner worries about not having the right size, and questions if the motion of the ocean is good enough for future partners. We discuss boundaries with our parents; if being there for a parent puts your mental health at...

Another round of questions nobody asked us. Nique and Ress take a look at a question about dating apps with the ability to rate your date after, would you be down for this? One user asked if its weird to not care to keep in contact with family members you haven’t seen in over 20 years . A dad struggles with telling his children the truth about his mental health struggles, is it better to hide it f...

Another round of questions nobody asked us. A brief conversation about telepathy... and why we shouldnt count on that as a means of communication . Put on your big boy/girl pants and USE YOUR WORDS - Communnication , out loud in the real world is the theme of todays questions and answers. In this weeks episode Nique and Ress discuss the hard questions that single parents face when dating: When do...

In todays episode we are going to explore our relationship with ourselves. How do you treat you? And how can you build a better relationship with self? Time alone is good to gather our thoughts but too much isolation goes against our nature. Nique and Ress discuss how they’ve been balancing this out and what self care can really look like internally.

In todays "Questions that nobody asked us" episode , Nique and Ress answer a question about a horrible first day on the job fiasco. There is a woman who came into a bit of money whose boyfriend insist she use it on a down-payment for a house without her name on it... oh, and she's currently unemployed but he insist she use all of that money on his house... ( I mean their house....). Nique and Ress...

In todays episode Nique and Ress discuss trauma bonds. We know what a toxic bond looks like when it gets to a certain level of extreme…. But what about covert toxicity ? The yo-yo relationships that feel like an emotional rollercoaster? The on again off again energy that keeps surrounding that one guy/gal you once called the love of your life and then called an asshole just a few moments later….?

Nique and Ress address questions from around the web. The general theme in todays episode seems to be , misplaced guilt. In todays episode we discuss a wife who wants to know how to win back a friend who was texting her husband love gifs and making him uncomfortable . We also hear from a poster who wants to save a violent friend who has a history of hurting others . An annoyed girlfriend wants to...