SheWolf Alchemy Podcast

Today's episode is dedicated to those who still haven't 'figured out how to love'. They say love is like a rollercoaster ride, with exhilarating highs and stomach-churning drops. In this episode, we dive headfirst into the fear of falling in love and explore the unexpected perks of taking the plunge.

In this thought-provoking episode of "I Got Needs ! : Loneliness and connection," we dive deep into the often-overlooked topic of loneliness and explore the profound significance of human connection. Prepare yourself for a captivating exploration of the impact of a lack of community, the creation of false narratives, and the powerful journey toward overcoming loneliness.

In this episode of She-Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Ashley discuss the books that have had a profound impact on their lives. They share their love for reading and how it has become a habit for them. Ress even admits to bringing books to events, always wanting to be entertained. Ashley reflects on how her reading habit was affected by grad school but has since made an effort to get back into it. They emp...

In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ashley and Ress discuss the concept of letting yourself be uprooted and following a different path. They reflect on the societal checklist that often dictates our lives and challenge the idea of sticking to a predetermined plan. They explore how sometimes the universe throws us curveballs and how being open to change can lead to unexpected growth and fulfillmen...

In the newest episode of Questions Nobody Asked Us - One mother freaks out about her 16-year-old coming to her about sex and the host touch on the importance of treating kids like people, with their own thoughts and feelings. One guy had sex with a Tinder hookup and is now wondering if he's being scammed as the hookup keeps popping back up asking him for money- Ashley gives an important short...

In this episode of SheWolf Alchemy, Ress and Ashley discuss the topic of "learning not to hate while you wait." They explore the natural feelings of jealousy and envy that can arise when we see others achieving what we desire. Ress shares her personal struggles with feeling entitled to success based on her efforts, and Ashley reflects on a time when she struggled to not be mad when her h...

In this episode, Ashley and Ress discuss the topic of depression, specifically high-functioning depression. They delve into the various symptoms and effects of depression, including feelings of loneliness, loss of interest, and physical manifestations. Ashley and Ress open up about their personal experience with depression, sharing how they initially struggled to admit it and slowly allowing thems...

In this episode of She-Wolf Alchemy, hosts Ress and Ashley discuss the idea that not everyone is meant to be a "hot girl" or a "city girl." They reflect on their recent break from the podcast and the need to go out and experience life in order to gain new perspectives. The conversation was sparked by encounters with women who were tired of the dating game and wanted to embrace a carefree, unattach...

In this episode of Shewolf Alchemy Podcast, we discuss the poem "Autobiography in Five Chapters" by Portia Nelson. Ashley and Ress discuss recognizing patterns and changing from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. Ashley talks about relational patterns and taking accountability for the part she played in it. She describes being in a romantic entanglement and realizing that she was in an...

In this episode of SheWolf Alchemy Podcast, we talk about distress tolerance and what your sexual fantasy can say about your needs. Distress tolerance is the ability to stay calm and maintain a healthy sense of perspective when things aren't going your way. In this episode, we'll talk about building up your distress tolerance and its importance. The ladies also do an exercise that requires...

In todays episode Ashley and Ress discuss traveling! Can traveling change your life? Ress shares about a vacation trip that changed her whole life. Ashley discuss tabling your issues when you are traveling with a group. Are you the couple that ruins the trip for everyone? Lastly the girls explore Astrocartogphy-where Ashley discovers she is meant for the east coast and all signs tell Ress to move...

Ress and Ashley discuss out growing your pot. What happens when you've outgrown the area you've gained comfort in? When the roots are getting cramped and you're only left with the option to grow or wither away. Ress and Ashley discuss the process of leaping without seeing the next step. Sometimes we struggle with the idea of leaving others behind- and other times we simply refuse to ac...

In this weeks episode Ashley and Ress discuss movies and the trope they love and hate. Ashley talks about the beauty in sci-fi movies. Ress discuss trauma porn. The pair explore movies that center around toxic love themes but also movies that show love is possible. Ress details one of her worst in theater experiences and Ashley talks about the fun in watching movies simple for its ratchetness. Com...

Another round of 'Questions that nobody asked us', where Ashley and Ress answer questions from advice forums around the web. Ashley talks about the best time to try to flirt with a woman. In short, avoid all times and circumstances that could be referenced in a thriller movie. Ress gives advice to young black women in their 20s and talks about 'healing fun'- which is when you have...

Ashley and Ress discuss birth control. Millennial women who were put on it in high school are now in their 30's+ and getting off of birth control...and realizing they have to re-learn their bodies. Ashley and Ress discuss how lightly birth control is taken, with many of us not understanding the changes it may be causing. Some are told it is the only way to prevent babies and others are told &#...

In today's episode, we discuss being put on hold. When it feels like someone is trying to put you on pause to diddly daddle, but come back for you later. Ashley discusses the mental gymnastic that can come with trying to make sense of this. Ress talks about doing it unconsciously and having it done to her. If all is fair in love and war, is this act even considered malicious or simply a part o...

In today’s episode, Ashley and Ress discuss music. What are the songs that made you? Which songs defined a whole era for you? Ress discusses having a song trigger her for the first time at a red light while it poured down raining. Ashley discusses a former flame suggesting to her a toxic love song and not taking the universe’s hint. And while we were all popping it to David Banner’s ‘ Like a pimp’...

In today's episode, we talk about Fate and Destiny. Is there some invisible hand interfering on our behalf? And does that give you the liberty to just give up and assume 'Fate' will do its job without you putting in the work?  Ashley discusses the importance of being able to tell when you're on the wrong path and there always being windows of opportunities to get back to the right road.  Ress talk...

In today's episode, Ress and Ashley ask: Who are you outside of your trauma? In today's episode, we're going to be taking a deep dive into the often-complicated subject of trauma and how it affects us both personally and socially. We explore, what happens when you wear your trauma like a mask and use the survival skills you learned to cope as a default personality. And while we are at it, what kin...

In today's episode, Ashley and Ress talk about motivation. It's that time again after winter blues comes spring, are you feeling the need to start making moves again? Does your partner have the motivation to make the same moves? Can you be with an unmotivated partner? And how much harder is it to be motivated without support? Come take a listen, and be motivated (or not).

In this week's episode, Ashley and Ress discuss seeing people out of 'uniform'. The importance of seeing someone in more than one context. Ashley wonders if that one horrible co-worker is an amazing partner and parent at home, or are they just overall terrible in all places. Ress talks about dating someone and seeing a completely different side of them when you put them in different environments....

On this week's episode of SheWolf Alchemy Podcast Ress and Ashley talk about haters. And why, you probably don't have as many as you think. Ashley discusses the huge 'Hi Hater' wave of the early 2000s and the moment she realized she was being a hater in one particular situation. Ress discusses how sometimes, you are just the problem - and there's nothing wrong with doing reflection. Professional t...

In this week's episode, Ashley and Ress discuss astrology. Do you remember when being too into astrology was something you kept secret? Now seeing someone's big three on their tinder profile is almost a norm. Ashley discusses the resurgence of astrology and Ress describes her thoughts on using it in your life for self-reflection.

Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to forgive someone for something they did or said, but weren’t quite sure how to go about it? In today’s episode of the Ress & Ashley Show, we discuss the topic of forgiveness. We explore if wishing someone the best is really necessary to heal and move forward, or if there’s more to it than that. Ress talks about the “gray area” of forgiveness – w...

In this week's episodes, Ress and Ashley talk about the conversations you should be having before seriously committing yourself to a partnership. How do you know if your partner is a fully functioning adult? Are they ready for life together? And what about money? Do you talk about money before saying "I do"?