Sexy After 50: Improve Sex & Intimacy by Healing Your Nervous System

Send us Fan Mail Your partner wants to go down on you. And instead of thinking "yes please" — you're composing a grocery list, critiquing your own body, and wondering if you've been taking too long. You are not alone. And there is a very specific reason this keeps happening. Receiving pleasure — real, focused, unhurried, all-about-you pleasure — is neurologically one of the har...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Sexy After 50, Dr. Juls breaks down the real reason desire disappears in long-term relationships — and it has nothing to do with how much you love your partner. The answer lives in your nervous system. Drawing on Dr. Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory, Dr. Juls explains how chronic familiarity can push the nervous system into dorsal vagal shutdown — a freeze...

Send us Fan Mail Are you lying next to the man you love… and feeling absolutely nothing? No spark. No heat. No pull. Just static where desire used to live. What if the fastest way to feel turned on again isn’t a new pill, a new position, or a new partner but a completely different ZIP code for your nervous system? In this episode, I show you why midlife numbness isn’t a hormone failure. It’s a ner...

Send us Fan Mail Are you running your marriage like a business partnership instead of a love affair? Somewhere between the mortgage, the carpool, the aging parents, and the endless to-do list… you stopped being lovers. No drama. No crisis. Just a quiet distance. If you’re lying next to a man you’ve known for thirty years and wondering, How did we become roommates? This episode is your wake-up call...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve had all the conversations about sex. You’ve communicated your needs. You’ve processed your feelings. You’ve tried to “do it right.” And your body still feels numb. If you’re a high-achieving woman over 50 who communicates beautifully but secretly feels disconnected from desire, this episode will hit home. Because talking about sex doesn’t heal desire. Novelty does. Communic...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt more turned on watching someone else claim their sexuality than when your own partner touches you? My husband and I went to a strip club in Vegas—and what woke up in my body that night had nothing to do with technique. It had everything to do with my nervous system. If you’ve been blaming hormones, aging, or “low libido” for feeling dull, disconnected, or numb…...

Send us Fan Mail Follow Sexy After 50 so you never miss an episode. And if you’re ready for the full nervous-system roadmap to desire, my book Are We Gonna Have Sex or What? The Midlife Guide to Feeling Sexy in Your Skin, Reigniting Desire, and Living Hotter After 50 releases Spring 2026. Your nervous system isn’t broken. It’s frozen. And a sex toy isn’t about orgasm—it’s about reintroducing your...

Send us Fan Mail What if your libido didn’t disappear? What if your body simply stopped tolerating sex that wasn’t good enough anymore? If you’ve been told you have “low libido” after 50—but the idea of obligation sex, rushed sex, or disconnected sex makes you shut down—this episode flips the entire narrative. Most women over 50 aren’t losing desire.  They’re outgrowing mediocre intimacy. For deca...

Send us Fan Mail You’re not bored with sex. You’re bored with the same sex. And your body knows the difference between repetition and eroticism—even if no one ever taught you how to name it. If intimacy feels predictable, passion feels flat, and sex has quietly turned into choreography instead of craving, this episode will change how you understand desire forever. Bedroom boredom isn’t a relations...

Send us Fan Mail The year you became invisible to men on the street is the year your body became capable of pleasure you couldn’t access at twenty-five. If you’re a woman over 50 who feels dismissed, overlooked, or disconnected from desire, this episode flips the cultural lie about aging and sex—and explains why your nervous system is finally primed for deeper intimacy, stronger orgasms, and real...

Send us Fan Mail You’re confident everywhere else in your life. But when it comes to sex, you go quiet. If you’re a woman over 50 feeling bored, disconnected, or unsatisfied in bed—and terrified to ask for what you want—this episode names exactly why. Your desire didn’t disappear. Your voice shut down. In this episode of Sexy After 50, I explain why so many capable, accomplished women struggle to...

Send us Fan Mail You’re not frigid. And you’re definitely not “just old now.” If you’re a woman over 50 who looks successful on the outside—but inside feels numb, disconnected, or quietly resentful of intimacy—this episode will stop you in your tracks. Because what’s killing your desire has nothing to do with lingerie, hormones alone, or “trying harder.” It’s your nervous system. In this episode o...

Send us Fan Mail If you’ve started flinching when your partner reaches for you—not because you don’t love them, but because sex has started to hurt—this episode may save your intimacy. Painful sex after 50 isn’t rare. And it’s not “just menopause.” But it is something most women were never warned about. In this episode of Sexy After 50, I name the experience so many women silently endure: “sandpap...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling numb below the waist? Your body isn't broken—it's protecting you. After decades of managing everyone else's needs, your nervous system has shut down the "pleasure center" to conserve energy. But here's what no one tells you: You can't think your way back to desire. You have to feel your way back. In this episode, I'm revealing the ex...

Send us Fan Mail When was the last time you felt real desire? Not obligation. Not “I should want this.” But actual, embodied, I want you desire. If you can’t remember, this podcast is for you. For women over 50, low libido isn’t just about hormones. It’s about a nervous system that’s been stuck in survival mode for decades. Chronic stress, caregiving, professional responsibility, emotional labor,...