Sex With Emily

If you build a sex room, they will come. That’s the idea behind the Netflix show “How to Build a Sex Room,” and on today’s episode I’ve got designer Melanie Rose here with me to discuss her real-life erotic renovations. From a rock n’ roll dungeon to a high-end sex spa, Melanie has all kinds of decor ideas you can steal: spanking benches, wall-mounted handcuffs, soundproofing wall art. All of thes...

Let’s talk solo anal. You may be looking around right now, wondering why anal play is so trendy, and thinking to yourself: “is this actually for me?” But before you jump into the anal deep end with a partner, I’ve got a pro tip: try anal with yourself! Tune in for your solo anal play primer, and keep listening to hear me answer all your booty Q’s. In this episode, you’ll learn: Discover the positi...

Have you ever used FaceTime for sex? Maybe you’re traveling and want to stay connected to your partner. Maybe you’re dating and want to test the waters with someone virtually before having sex IRL. Or maybe the idea just turns you on! No matter the case, today’s episode is all about FaceTime sex and how to pull it off. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to get in the mood for FaceTime sex and tips...

Trust: it’s the glue of relationships, even the more casual ones. Can I trust that this person is safe? That they aren’t going to hurt me? Can I trust myself, that I’ll know how to navigate this situation? These are the questions we all ask ourselves, even if it’s subconscious. Our bodies and brains regularly scan for danger, but when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, sometimes the red flags ju...

Breakups. They can be a painful experience. Trust me, I know. After spending time considering your partner to be such an important aspect of your life, losing them can be like a mini-death. If you have decided your relationship is over and are struggling to know what to do next, this episode is for you. I give my top tips for how to cope and answer all your questions. In this episode you’ll learn:...

Tune into this conversation with the incredible Dr. Josh Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist fellowship-trained in sexual medicine and specializing in the management of male and female sexual dysfunctions. Dr. Gonzalez has been featured in Vogue and is a medical contributor to Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan, among others. He is a sexual health expert who has built a following on TikTok and Instag...

So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want. In this episode you’ll learn: How to make eye contact...

Did you know that nipple sensations for vulva-owners ignite the same parts of the brain as clitoral stimulation? Today, we’re unlocking all of the overlooked erogenous zones including nipples. ALL genders can potentially have more pleasure and orgasms through nipple play—you just need the proper tips and tricks.   We hear from a masseuse who is exploring the reality of “happy endings” as well as a...

Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and...

On today’s show, everyone’s looking for clarity in the sexual unknown, starting with: how can I tell if they’re into me? Whether it’s an office crush and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back, or you’re about to go on a date and worried you’ll be friend-zoned, I give you tips to put your best foot forward. How about if it’s a new sexual act, and you don’t know how you feel about it — o...

What does it mean exactly, when someone says they’re a voyeur? A sub? A cuckhold or an exhibitionist? Well folks, we are getting a kinky education today! On today’s episode, I’m walking you through your sexual fantasies to see where you land on the kink spectrum. I’m talking submission and domination, exhibitionism and voyeurism, even a little humiliation, if that’s your preferred kink flavor. But...

In today’s throwback episode, I’m taking your Sex With Emily hotline calls and answering your questions. Remember, you can always call and leave a voicemail with your question at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). In this episode you’ll learn:  What to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man) How to determine if birth control is tanking your sex driv...

Have you found yourself fascinated with what's masculine or feminine, especially in the bedroom? On today's episode, volleyball star, Gabby Reece, redefines the modern day versions of these roles and explains why it matters in her marriage. In this episode you’ll learn:  Gabby's definition of masculine & feminine in her marriage Why younger generations may not be having as much sex Which sex toys...

Ever dated a mind reader who just gets you? …Chances are, probably not. Unfortunately for us, deep connections need deep communication skills. I mean, how can your partner know your needs if you don’t tell them? I know it’s not easy, though, and that’s why today’s throwback is all about articulating what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics and hotter s...

Volleyball legend and podcast host Gabby Reece takes the hot seat and reveals all her secrets to being a successful athlete, wife, parent and business owner with her famous surfer husband, Laird Hamilton. In this episode you’ll learn:  Sex rules to keep your man happy How to play farmer and flower to have a long lasting relationship Gabby Reece's biggest turn on, it's not what you think it might b...

Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure that your sex life follows suit. In this throwback episode, I’m sharing my steamiest ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. If you’re ready for a Hot Girl Summer,...

Ever wondered how culture has molded your sexuality? My guest, Dr. Shefali Tsabury, dives deep into this topic on today’s throwback ep, revealing how societal norms have conditioned us to suppress our true desires, cheat ourselves, and live inauthentically. But here's the twist: radically authentic love and desire are within reach! All it takes is confronting the myths we've been fed and making a...

QUESTION: If you’re a parent or caregiver, should you talk to your child about masturbation? I say absolutely! Even if it feels like you’re navigating a minefield, and even if your own parents left you in the dark (because let’s face it, they probably did), I get it – finding the right words can be trickier than solving a Rubik’s Cube. That’s why today’s episode is your ultimate guide, packed with...

Have you ever been so in love that you lost your mind? I totally get it, and so does today's guest, sex therapist, author, and host of the podcast Diagnonsense, Todd Baratz, who joined me to chat about all things relationship and why dating can be such a struggle today. In this episode you’ll learn:  How oral sex can make or break your relationship What to do when you date men who don't know how t...

Did you know that the lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety and depression? How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Ever since the pandemic, many of us have been touch-starved, but now it’s time to feast. On today’s throwback show I’ll share how to satisfy your skin hunger and bring more touch and intimacy back into your life. In this episode you’ll learn: What questions to ask yoursel...

Why is it that vulva owners are the ones tasked with preventing pregnancy? That’s the burning question we’ve all been thinking about since 2017.  On today’s throwback show, we’re diving into this hot topic with Gabrielle Stanley Blair, the mastermind behind a viral thread and the book, Ejaculate Responsibly. Joining us is my dear friend, anthropologist, and author, Dr. Wednesday Martin, to help un...

Let's face it: sex isn't just a switch you can flip on and off. It's more like a whole playlist of tension, arousal, body exploration, playful antics, and steamy teamwork — there’s a lot more than just the main event. So, what do you do when you're ready to get it on, but your body keeps hitting snooze? In today’s show, I’ll show you my favorite tips and tricks and address even the most perplexing...

Imagine: You've got that special someone who makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The trust is there, the connection is solid. But sometimes the fire just fizzles out when it comes to sex. I get it. When the routine starts feeling a bit too...routine, it's time to switch things up and rediscover what really gets your engine revving (and sometimes, it’s not your partner!). On today’s throwback...

In today’s throwback show, I talk to the one and only Shaun T, host of the podcast “Trust and Believe,” a world renowned fitness trainer, and a professional dancer. Not to mention a wonderfully sex positive man, but, as you’ll learn in the episode it took a journey – I repeat, a JOURNEY – to get there. But hey, if he can do it, you can too. Trust me: if you’ve been looking for inspo to feel yourse...

Let’s face it: casual sex often gets a bad rap. It’s thought of as just another swipe, a fleeting moment, a reflection of society’s current hookup culture, or something disposable. But hold up! It doesn't have to be that way. When you bring a little intention and mindfulness into the mix, casual sex can be the spark that reignites your erotic energy. In my opinion, the secret sauce is all about kn...