Sex With Emily

Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’ Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men during quarantine, how to make the post-pandemic “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation....

Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms. Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn has evolved over time. Ana shares...

In today’s episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We get into how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime a...

In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the #1, most-common fantasy: threesomes. I explore why threesomes can be hot and lay out some ground rules for making a threesome work. We talk about everything you should discuss with your partner before adding a third into the mix and the importance of aftercare (what happens after your threesome). I also share my personal threesome experiences, both...

Who is ready for a hotter, wetter summer? Today, I’m joined by squirting expert, author, and educator Deborah Sundahl, a pioneer in female ejaculation and G-spot (or g-area) anatomy. Deborah and I discuss the difference between squirting and having an orgasm, a step-by-step guide to tapping into your squirting potential, where the G-spot (aka female prostate) is located and how to find it, and the...

Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure your sex life follows suit. In this episode, I’m sharing ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. I also answer your questions, like how to set boundaries for your...

Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction. I also answer your questions...

In this episode, I’m taking more of your most pressing questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We’re covering what to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man), if your birth control is tanking your sex drive, why bisexual men are often shamed, how to bring back intimacy after a baby, and what to do if your partner won’t share their sexual de...

On today’s show, I am joined by activist, author, and queer commentator Jeffrey Marsh to discuss all things gender. Regardless of how you identify, Jeffrey’s radical self-acceptance will help you to gain a new perspective, have a different understanding of yourself and allow you to stop any negative self-talk. Jeffrey breaks down the difference between confidence self-acceptance, how fearlessly de...

On today’s Best of episode, I am joined by renowned biological anthropologist and author of Anatomy of Love, Dr. Helen Fisher. We discuss whether love at first sight is possible, how our personality traits shape our attraction to others and the way our biology influences who we love. We dive into the parts of your brain responsible for your sex drive, romantic love, and deep attachment. Dr. Fisher...

In this episode, I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it!  Your questions include: what to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time t...

Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives. Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If...

Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex. Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and...

It’s the most wonderful time of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s show, I’m honoring a month of self-love by giving you a brief history of the celebration (no, I didn’t make it up), the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys for bringing you pleasure all year long. Plus, I’m answering your questions like what to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator, why mas...

On this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Nikki Glaser, comedian, and host of The Nikki Glaser Podcast. We discuss how to take oral sex to the next level, why a great orgasm can lead to an intense connection, and the power of tapping into a person’s “energy” on a date. Nikki also shares her go-to sex toys, favorite types of porn, experience with squirting, and personal journey with mental hea...

I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t i...

I’m joined by board-certified urologist Dr. Edward Karpman to talk about virtually every penis topic there is and explore how overcoming your penis challenges can boost your sex life. He even shares some cautionary tales about penis fractures when your partner is on top. We discuss the most common penis challenges (low testosterone, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction) and ways to work thr...

Today I’m joined by the fabulous and entertaining hosts of The LadyGang; Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jac Vanek. We set intentions together and give recipes for feeling sexy after the pandemic, ways to give a killer bj (without it feeling like well, a job), and the different kinds of desire. Plus, I share the best ways to clean your sex toys, my most common listener questions, and what happens...

Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered. I also...

On today’s Best Of roundup, I break down attitudes about oral sex, the oral double standard, the evolutionary significance of oral sex, how to overcome vibrator intimidation, tips for alleviating delayed ejaculation, ways to combat sexual insecurities, and what to do when you’ve given up on having an orgasm (hint: don’t give up). I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship,...

Renowned clinical sex therapist and best-selling author, Ian Kerner Ph. D. joins me today to talk about sex scripts, why fantasies are important for a relationship, the dynamics of kink, porn as “homework” and how to get into a flow state during sex. Dr. Kerner is the author of the legendary book She Comes First, “the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman” and he just released a new book So,...

Happy 4/20! I’m joined by badass medicine woman, spiritual mentor, and rap priestess Lizzy Jeff to break down how cannabis can elevate your bedroom experiences. We discuss how to use THC and CBD for sex, the importance of getting high with intention, the necessity for healing sexual experiences, and why high sex is hot AF. We also share how to find the best strains and doses for users of all exper...

How well do you know the vulva and vagina? In this episode, I’m joined by four guests to break down all things V. We’re talking about how to take care of your vulva, the importance of strengthening your pelvic floor, WTF is up with menopause, and so much more. My first guest is OB/GYN, author of the She-Ology book series, and an expert in all things women’s sexual health, Dr. Sherry Ross. She shar...

The brain is the largest and most important sex organ. So on today’s Best Of, I’m joined by one of the world experts on optimal brain performance, Jim Kwik. We talk about how to sharpen and focus your memory (no more forgetting your anniversary), specific steps to activate a healthy brain, and the best foods to give your brain a boost. You’ll be able to follow along as we walk through very specifi...

Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmis...