Sex with Anja and Amelie

Is it ever just sex? Anja and Amelie don't think so. This week they dive into one of the most electrifying — and terrifying — experiences in sexual life: when feelings start to develop. What does that opening actually feel like? When do you act on it? And how do you know if you're about to deepen something beautiful or accidentally blow up something that was already working? They get into: How fee...

What do you do when you're not feeling sexy, but you still want sex? This week, Anja and Amelie tackle one of the most universal — and least talked about — sex problems: how to bridge the gap between "not in the mood" and actually showing up for intimacy. Spoiler: it's not about forcing it. It's about getting curious about what's actually in the way. They get into: Why sex belongs higher on the pr...

What does it really mean to become a content creator in the attention economy? In this episode, Amalie and Anja dive into the complicated, exciting, and sometimes terrifying process of creating content online. What starts as a conversation about OnlyFans quickly expands into a discussion about authenticity, visibility, creativity, algorithms, AI-generated porn, personal branding, and the ethics of...

What does it really mean to become a content creator in today's attention economy? In this episode, Amalie and Anja dive deep into the realities of creating content online—from podcasts and social media to OnlyFans, livestreaming, and adult content. They explore the emotional, ethical, and creative challenges of becoming a public figure, building an audience, and staying authentic while navigating...

In this episode of Sex with Anja and Amelie , we dive into one of the most personal, political, and surprisingly playful topics we've tackled yet: gender identity. Anja shares their experience using they/them pronouns, what changing pronouns unlocked for them, and how gender expression can become an act of liberation. Along the way, Amelie brings curiosity, questions, and a perspective shaped by f...

What if pleasure has nothing to do with gender? In this episode of Sex With Anja and Amalie , we explore how gender expectations shape our sexual experiences—and what happens when we start questioning those assumptions. From dominance and submission to pegging, anal play, nipple sensitivity, and the vulnerability of surrender, we examine how cultural narratives influence who gets to give pleasure,...

This week on Sex with Anya & Amalie , we explore the messy, intimate relationship between pain, pleasure, stress, healing, and desire . After a week shaped by family crisis, hospital visits, emotional overwhelm, and exhaustion, we ask: What happens to sexuality during difficult times? Why do some people shut down sexually under stress while others crave intimacy, comfort, intensity, or release? In...

Age gaps, ethics, younger lovers, power dynamics, and attraction across generations. In this episode, Anja and Amelie dive into one of the most debated topics in dating and sexuality: large age-gap relationships . What happens when attraction, connection, and chemistry don’t follow society’s rules? They explore questions like: Is dating someone 15–20 years younger inherently unethical? When does a...

Fantasy. Desire. Power. Reality. In this episode, Anja and Amelie go deep into the wild, complicated world of sexual fantasy—what it is, how it works, and why it turns some people on… and completely confuses others. They explore: The difference between fantasy, thought, and reality Role play dynamics (mommy, teacher, power, submission) Why some people need fantasy to access pleasure—and others don...

What happens when desire collides with commitment? In this episode, Anja and Amelie step into one of the most uncomfortable—and honest—conversations: the ethics of sleeping with someone who’s already in a relationship. This isn’t a simple yes-or-no debate. It’s a deep dive into truth, responsibility, and the messy reality of human desire. The real question: where does your responsibility end and s...

What is desire, really? Not the Instagram version. Not the porn version. The raw, body-level, what-am-I-actually-reaching-for version. Amelie and Anya dive deep into the philosophy, the body, and the beautiful mess of human wanting — and land somewhere surprisingly profound. In this episode: Is desire a feeling, a movement, or a hunger? (Yes, like actual hunger — and why that makes total sense) Wh...

Threesomes sound hot in theory—but in reality, they can swing wildly between electric connection and absolute chaos. In this episode, Anja and Amelie break down what actually makes a threesome work… and what quietly kills the vibe. This isn’t about fantasy. It’s about presence, communication, and the subtle emotional dynamics that decide whether the experience feels expansive or deeply uncomfortab...

Welcome to the chaos, the curiosity, and the connection. In this episode, we finally tell the origin story: how we met on the apps, why we chose each other, and what made us keep coming back for more. What started as a dating app match turned into something much harder to define—and way more interesting. We dive into: The reality of modern dating apps (and why some just don’t hit) Attraction, curi...

In Part 3 of their polyamory series, Anya and Amelie zoom out from personal relationship dynamics and explore a bigger question: how does polyamory exist within the wider world? This episode looks at how non-monogamous relationships interact with family, parenting, community, and culture. The hosts begin by discussing how love already exists in many forms long before romantic relationships enter t...

In Part 2 of their polyamory series, Anya and Amelie talk about how they actually practice polyamory in real life . Instead of theory or definitions, this episode dives into their personal experiences—what has worked, what hasn’t, and the messy lessons they’ve learned along the way. Both hosts reflect on how their relationships evolved over the last decade. They discuss discovering the concept of...

In this episode, Anya and Amelie explore one of the most misunderstood topics in modern relationships: polyamory . Rather than getting lost in complicated definitions and labels, this conversation focuses on their personal journeys—how they discovered ethical non-monogamy and what it has meant in their lives. Polyamory literally means “multiple loves.” It sits within the broader umbrella of ethica...

In this episode of Sex with Anja and Amelie , we dive into a candid and unfiltered conversation about sexual health, STI testing, hygiene, and personal responsibility in modern dating . Many adults assume that when they visit a doctor for a routine check-up they are automatically screened for sexually transmitted infections. In reality, that is often not the case. In this episode we talk about why...

Welcome to our very first episode of Pleasure & Pain: Sex, Life & Liberation ! Hosts Anya Soul and Amalie dive deep into what brought them here — from leaving Mormonism to embracing sexuality as a creative, political, and spiritual force. In this debut, they explore why talking about sex honestly matters, why pleasure and pain both shape our lives, and how liberation is at the heart of the...

S01E01 - Compartmentalizing Desire, Finding the Thread, and Designing Your Own Sex Life In this episode, Anja and Amelie explore what it actually means to increase your access to pleasure — not just in theory, but in real life. We dive into the idea of compartmentalizing relationship dynamics and how stepping off the “relationship escalator” can create more freedom, more clarity, and yes — more se...