Sex Talks With Emma-Louise Boynton

On this week’s episode of the podcast we wanted to talk about love, specifically how we move away from our societal obsession with romantic love and instead cultivate a more expansive, inclusive notion of love. One that releases us from the pressure to find “the one” and instead encourages us to find the romance in our platonic relationships. According to Pew Research, one in four people will now...

On this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m joined by the wonderful Anna Mather.  She’s a psychotherapist, bestselling author and someone intent upon taking therapy out of the therapy room and into the real world, offering therapeutic insights via her instagram, online courses and in-person events and also through her podcast The Therapy Edit. She joins me today to discuss her brand new book: The U...

Cindy Gallop is the founder of Make Love Not Porn, a platform for people to post real-world sex videos. It’s not porn, she says, it’s social sex. Now, she’s on a mission to raise $1 million in crowd funding in oder to build a sex education academy that will operate alongside her Make Love Not Porn. Set to launch later this year, the Academy will will cover a broad range of topics, including mastur...

*Trigger warning* we discuss issues around sexual violence, rape and assault in this episode, so please take care while listening. As always, I’ve put resources in the show notes for anyone who has been affected by the topics discussed.  In this live recording of the Sex Talks podcast I wanted to address a question that has been on my mind a lot of late: why do men hate women?  It is provocative,...

On this week’s live recording of the podcast, Emma-Louise was joined by journalist, presenter, podcaster and author, Josh Smith to discuss his brand new book: Great Chat. The importance of communication is something we talk about ALL the time at Sex Talks, not least because - as we know - it's the key to great sex and deeper intimacy.  So when Josh published a book all about the art of great conve...

On this week's episode of the podcast, Emma-Louise was joined by OG creator, author and body positivity advocate, Megan Jayne Crabbe. Together they discuss the impact of our restrictive body image ideals, growing up with an eating disorder, how body image issues affect our relationship to sex and pleasure, the power of the body positivity movement and what it means to finally come home to your bod...

On this week’s episode of the podcast Emma-Louise is joined by Nicole Vignola - a neuroscientist and brain performance coach who specialises in making neuroscience tangible for the masses. She is also an author, having recently published her debut book, Rewire, designed to give you the mental toolkit you need to break negative cycles and achieve peak mental wellbeing. Nicole joined Emma-Louise on...

On today’s episode Emma-Louise is joined by a truly incredible woman: Lucia Osborne Crowley.  She’s a Journalist, reporter and the author of three books including ‘The Lasting Harm: Witnessing the trial of Ghislane Maxwell’, which they discuss in length during this episode. It was one of the best books we read this year, FYI. Her prior two books, I Choose Elena (2019) and My Body Keeps Your Secret...

In this episode, Emma-Louise sits down with journalist and author, Olivia Petter, to discuss Petter's debut book of fiction, Gold Rush.  The book covers so many vital and indeed urgent themes surrounding sexual abuse, trauma and the toxicity of celebrity culture, all of which they delve into during what is a totally fascinating interview.  “We give celebrities a power they don’t deserve," Petter w...

In the second solo Sex Talks pod Emma-Louise delves into the topic of last week's newsletter: new research on the orgasm gap, what it reveals about our broken sex culture, and, importantly, how we fix it. Touching on the work of sex educator and author, Emily Nagoski, Emma discusses how we can re-write our sexual script in order to foster a better, individual relationship to sex, and why this is s...

Sofie Hagen is a multi award winning, queer, non-binary comedian, author and podcaster. Their debut book was called Happy Fat: Taking Up Space in a World That Wants to Shrink You and they have just published their second book ‘Will I Ever have Sex Again.’ In it, they examine our broader sexual landscape in an attempt to understand why they haven’t had sex in some 3000 days and counting. Sofie join...

In this solo episode of the Sex Talks podcast, Emma discusses three main topics: her experience watching a play called 'After Sex' and the dating lessons it reminded her of; her brand new mantra 'the grass is greenest where you water it' and how we can apply it to both work and relationships; and, finally, the negative effects of comparison culture, particularly in relation to sex. The final Sex T...

We're on a podcast break this week so we're reposting one of our fave old episodes featuring author, Natasha Lunn, discussing her bestselling book 'Conversations on Love'. We hope you enjoy this as much as we did. Our usual Thursday podcasting schedule will resume next week and the final Sex Talks Live podcast recording of the summer will take place on July 30th at The London Edition. You can purc...

In this episode, Emma sits down with multi-award-winning journalist, TikTok creator and author of Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century, Sophia Smith Galer. Together, they delve into the many sex myths Sophia tackles in her book; what Sophia refers to as the ‘sex misinformation crisis’ we’re currently facing; what initially drew her to explore this topic-area within her reporting; the chal...

In this episode of the Sex Talks podcast, Emma is joined be Regena Thomashauer, otherwise known as ‘Mama Gena’. She is a teacher, best-selling author, mother and founder and CEO of the New York-based School of Womanly Arts where she teaches women how to get (re)connected to their bodies and to their sensuality. “For as long as women are disconnected from their pussy they are disconnected from thei...

On this week’s live recording of the podcast Emma’s joined by the founder of The Stack World, Sharmadean Reid, ahead of the publication of her new book, New Methods for Women. True to form, this book is the culmination of everything Sharmadean’s learned from over 10 years of healing and self-development work, laying out her tried and tested approaches to dealing with all of the most important thin...

On this week’s episode we’re talking about men. Specifically, masculinity, male sexuality and the myths surrounding it. To that end, Emma was joined by Men’s Dating, Relationship & Intimacy Coach, David Chambers, and the Director of Facilitation at Beyond Equality, an organisation that is rethinking masculinity and engaging men and boys in the gender equality conversation, Ben Hurst. From the...

On this episode of the podcast, Emma sits down with porn performer, director, editor and producer, Vex Ashley, to find out how she went from cam-girl to running her own independent porn platform, and why she considers sex such an interesting and important topic for us to discuss. After rejecting being demoted to ‘muse’ while at art school and then getting naked online as a cam girl, Vex started up...

So we’ve all heard of attachment styles right?  Attachment theory tells us that the emotional attachments we form with our primary caregivers in infancy can influence our interpersonal relationships later in life. Whether we’re anxious, secure, avoidant or disorganised, our attachment style can have a pretty big impact on how we show up in our romantic relationships.  Since attachment styles have...

In this episode, Emma sits down with writer and author, Elise Loehnen, to discuss her best-selling new book, On Our Best Behaviour: The Price Women Pay to be Good. Together they unpack the web of myths and cultural expectations that prop up patriarchy and keep women chasing an ideal of perfection that is neither achievable nor really desirable. "Women," Loehnen explains, "'have been trained for go...

For this live recording of the podcast, which took place at the London Edition hotel, Emma sits down with broadcaster, writer and campaigner, Anna Whitehouse, otherwise known as Mother Pukka. Anna is the Sunday Times best-selling author of Parenting the Sh*t out of Life, Where’s My Happy Ending? and Underbelly and in 2015 she started the platform Mother Pukka to share the trials and tribulations o...

What does the number of hours women spend doing housework have to do with the orgasm gap?! According to bestselling author and the founder of the Everyday sexism campaign, Laura Bates, a lot. In this episode, Emma sits down with Laura to discuss the systemic ways in which gender inequality remains entrenched in our society - from the social pressure on women to deprioritise their pleasure, to the...

In this episode, Emma sits down with award-winning comedian and best-selling author, Sara Pascoe, to discuss the topic of her recent book, 'Sex, Power, Money'. Together they explore how capitalism shows up in the bedroom, how money shapes modern day relationship dynamics... and why some women still want men to buy them dinner; why there remains so much stigma around those who work in the sex indus...

*TW: This episode discusses eating disorders and sexual assault.* "If your experience of pleasure happens in your body, but you're in a body that you hate.... how are you supposed to access pleasure? You have to pick whether you're going to punish your body forever or if you're going to forgive it." In this episode of the podcast, Emma is joined by her (former) sex therapist, Aleks Trkulija, to ch...

Are you dating with a scarcity mindset? Do you end up chasing people who just aren’t that interested in you? Are you staying in a relationship, whether platonic or romantic, that doesn’t make you happy, just because you don’t believe there is anything, anyone better out there? You can change that. You can cultivate a new mindset - one that will help you find and build the relationships you truly w...