Sex, Here & Now

What does it really mean when someone says, “I feel sexually neglected”? In this episode of Sex, Here & Now, I explore a topic that comes up often in my therapy office and in many long term relationships. Sexual neglect is rarely just about sex. More often, it is about feeling unwanted, unseen, or no longer chosen by the person you love. We unpack why feelings of neglect show up in relationshi...

Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat! Today, I am roasting the idea of soulmates and making it more open to our growth as humans.  New full-length episo...

In this episode, I break down what squirting actually is, what it is not, and why so many people have been taught to misunderstand it. We talk about the biggest myths around squirting, including the belief that it equals orgasm or is the ultimate measure of pleasure. Spoiler alert: it is not. I explain the physiology behind squirting in an accessible way, why some people experience it and many nev...

Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat! Today, I am talking about the inevitability that your sexual self and your relationship with intimacy change over...

On this episode of Sex, Here & Now, I sit down with Tiffany Chin for a conversation that feels honest, thoughtful, and very needed right now. Tiffany is officially my first interview on Sex, Here & Now, and I could not have asked for a better person to kick this off with. We talk about how we met, how our work overlaps, and why helping clients navigate dating as singles and solos has becom...

Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat! Today, we are talking about how awkward sex can be. Sex is awkward! And in fact, we want it to be.  New full-lengt...

Dating today can feel exhausting, confusing, and honestly… like you’re doing everything wrong. In this episode, I break down what it actually means to date for you instead of dating to be liked, chosen, or approved of. We talk about mindful dating, knowing your why, cultivating confidence, using dating apps intentionally, and how the media you consume quietly shapes your dating experience. I also...

Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat! Today, we are going to be exploring how desire is not a personality trait and why we need to stop treating it like...

Why would I choose polyamory when monogamy is the default, the norm, and often the expectation? In this episode of Sex, Here and Now, I share why I chose to be poly and what that choice actually came from. This is not an argument for polyamory and it is not a how to guide. It is a personal reflection on curiosity, honesty, attachment, fear, growth, and the unlearning that comes with questioning re...

Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about romance, connection, and great sex. So why does it leave so many people feeling pressured, disappointed, or disconnected? In this episode, I unpack why Valentine’s Day wrecks so many sex lives. From unrealistic expectations and comparison culture to obligation sex and performative intimacy, we explore how a holiday meant to celebrate love often ends up doing...

Well, this is my first expert on expert podcast episode. Who's excited? Today, I am chatting with Julie Labanz , an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, owner of BeKnown Therapy in Cincinnati, Ohio, and a close personal friend. Julie and I talk about all things relating to Porn, masturbation, and why dating younger feels so icky for us. Before we get started, a quick disclaimer. This chat was recorded...

Welcome to my series of mini-episodes that I call Matt’s Musings. These episodes will be short, focused, and center on tips and tricks relating to human sexuality that I think are important for all of us to know and understand. And hey, you now get to hear me more often? What a treat! Today, we are going to be exploring why you need to stop waiting to talk about sex and just do it!  New full-lengt...

In this episode, we get real about why so many people aren’t having sex and why that doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or your relationship. I break down five common reasons intimacy fades, including lack of communication, avoiding vulnerability, unspoken resentment, waiting to feel “in the mood,” and simply not prioritizing connection. This episode is honest, validating, and grounded in wha...

We are back! We are motivated! We are talking about Heated Rivalry! In this episode: - I will talk about my obsession with Heated Rivalry. - Explore why representation matters for athletes and queer folx. - Explore the sex, duh! - Explain why this kind of content resonates with women.  New episodes drop weekly!   Sign up for my online class here You can now watch the full video podcast on YouTube!...

I wanted to talk a little bit about polyamory today specifically, why you don’t have to be afraid of it. We poly folx are not here to get you and turn your partners into poly monsters who crave multiple partners. Lol. Today I wanted to focus on a few reasons why people don't need to fear this perfectly health relationship style.  Website and Socials below: Website:  www.clevelandsextherapy.com Ins...

Emily Nagoski created an amazing analogy to describe how we learn our sexuality.    Website and Socials below: Website:  www.clevelandsextherapy.com Instagram: @clevelandsextherapy YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@clevelandsextherapy Patreon:  https://www.patreon.com/clevelandsextherapy     Make sure you like, subscribe, and rate my podcast!

Today I wanted to talk about some of my favorite quotes from prolific sex therapists, educators, and researchers. So let’s dive in!    You are not promised time you are promised change  - Emily Nagoski    Emotional intimacy kills passion - Chris Donaghue   Consent changes from moment to moment. - Matt Lachman   Sexual creativity is blocked by social conditioning. - Melissa Walker   Vulnerability i...

It is really exciting to be back and providing the sex positive content that we all need. I am going to be doing things a little bit differently this time. These first few episodes will be coming straight from my Patreon. They are early access videos for my patrons turned into podcast episodes. After the first three or so, which I have already recorded, the episodes will be slightly more raw and u...

And here we go again... I am so happy to be back and providing sex-positive content for all of you wonderful listeners. In this return episode, I thought I would demystify some popular myths regarding intimacy and sexuality. Enjoy! Don't forget to follow me on Instagram  @ClevelandSexTherapy and check out my website, www. ClevelandSexTherapy.com for more content and information! Make sure you like...

Hello Everything! I thought with all the talk of COVID-19, I would dedicate an episode to it! In this episode, I spend some time talking about what to do and not do when it comes to physical intimacy and sexuality, as well as general self-care strategies we can all incorporate! Don't forget to follow me on Instagram  @Sex_HereAndNowPod  and look at my website,  www. ClevelandSexTherapy.com  for mo...

And we are back! This episode I talk about one of my favorite topics in the field of sex and relationship research, Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM). I explore the use of terms like "traditional" and "non-traditional" when we describe relationships, different forms of CNM, and finally barriers to the practice!  Also, stay tuned, as I will have my first interview coming in the next few weeks!  Don't f...

Sex, Here & Now is back! This season you can expect more "sexy" information, new interviews, and as always, more sex positivity!  Don't forget to follow me on Instagram  @Sex_HereAndNowPod  and look at my website,  www. ClevelandSexTherapy.com  for more information! Make sure you like, subscribe, and rate my podcast! Stay tuned!

Hello Everyone! With this being my last episode of the year, I thought I would touch upon some techniques you can incorporate with your partner to help heat up this winter season!  As always, don't forget to follow me on Instagram  @Sex_HereAndNowPod  and my website,  www.sexherenow.com .  Make sure you like, subscribe, and rate my podcast! Have a great holiday season and see you in 2020!

Greetings Listeners! This episode, I decided to tackle one of my favorite topics of conversation: Kink Play! I provide an explanation of what a kink is (and isn't), how to support someone who has a kink, and also how to open up to your partner if you have a kink. The world of Kink is fascinating and has many layers so do not expect to know everything about it when the episode is complete. But don'...

This episode is all about the issues surrounding the court cases that were heard by The Supreme Court on Tuesday, 10/8/19. I talk about how (of course) it impacts the members of my community, the LGBTQIA+ community, but also heterosexual individuals as well.  Also, I plan on doing a "Mailbag" episode and answering some questions that you all have! Feel free to direct message me on Instagram  @Sex_...