Sex for Saints

In this episode, I want to talk about something a lot of women quietly wonder but rarely say out loud: what if sex isn't bad, but it's also not very good? In this episode, I unpack why so many women experience sex as "meh," even in loving marriages where both partners are trying. We look at how expectations, anatomy, mental patterns, and our relationship with pleasure all shape how sex actually fe...

In this episode, I'm inviting you to look at a pattern that might be quietly shaping your sex life without you realizing it. We're talking about what happens when sex becomes a way to soothe anxiety, seek reassurance, or calm uncomfortable emotions instead of a place of desire and connection. I share real examples of how this shows up in marriages, why it feels helpful in the moment, and why it of...

Have you ever noticed how sex can feel like something you "check off," followed by days or weeks of not thinking about it at all? In this episode, I'm inviting you to consider a different way of relating to your sexuality that doesn't require pressure, performance, or forcing yourself to feel desire. The idea is called "simmering" and I will explain how staying gently connected to your sexual self...

In this episode, I'm talking about the lies your brain tells you about sex and how those thoughts quietly sabotage connection in your marriage. I explain why your brain is wired to see sexual vulnerability as a threat, how past experiences and conditioning shape the stories you believe, and why those stories feel so true even when they aren't. We look at the specific lies that tend to show up for...

This episode marks my 400th conversation about sex, marriage, and building a relationship that actually feels good to live inside, and I'm incredibly grateful you're here for it. To celebrate, I dive into why flirting can either create connection and desire or quietly turn into pressure that pushes your spouse away. I explain how flirting is meant to be playful and connective, not a disguised requ...

In this episode, I'm talking about what it really looks like to infuse sexual energy throughout your marriage, not just during planned intimacy, but in the everyday moments that make you feel desired, connected, and alive together. I share stories, examples, and real quotes from couples who've learned how to build a playful, pressure-free erotic undercurrent that carries through their whole day. Y...

In this episode, I will walk you through a question I've heard from so many women over the years: How do I know if I'm actually having an orgasm? I'll explain what weak orgasms, subtle climaxes, and full-body releases really feel like and why it's so common to be unsure. I'll share the most frequent reasons orgasms feel muted and teach you practical techniques—like the plateau method, pelvic floor...

In this episode, I'm breaking down the practical side of sexual hygiene and why it matters so much for intimacy, confidence, and overall sexual health. I walk through the basics of caring for your body, hands, nails, toys, and the environment you're having sex in, and I explain the common mistakes couples make that lead to infections and discomfort. I share real examples from clients to show how s...

I get asked all the time how to keep sex and intimacy alive after having a baby, so in this episode I'm breaking down what really happens during this huge transition. Last week we talked about sex during pregnancy, and today we're looking at what comes next, because bringing home a baby reshapes your relationship in ways you can't always prepare for. Whether you're expecting your first or remember...

Pregnancy brings so many changes, and your intimate life is one of them, but it doesn't have to disappear for nine months. In this episode, I'm answering real listener questions about sex during pregnancy, including what's safe, what feels comfortable, and how to stay emotionally and physically connected through every trimester. We'll talk about shifting desire, body image, and practical ways to c...

In this episode, I'm sitting down with Justin and Natalie Weeks, the founders of Evree Intimate Massage Oil and Lubricant, to talk about how one thoughtful idea completely transformed their intimacy and could change yours too. We dive into the surprising benefits of using a truly natural, skin-loving intimate product, why lube is essential (not optional!), and how communication and playfulness can...

In this episode, I dive into one of the most damaging beliefs I see in relationships: the idea that sex equals love. I'll share why this thinking creates unnecessary pain, pressure, and misunderstandings between partners, and how it often masks the many other ways love is expressed. You'll learn how to recognize love outside of sexual intimacy, why separating sex from love can actually strengthen...

Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences in marriage, but is your spouse really rejecting you or just rejecting sex? In this episode, I break down the two types of rejection, how to tell the difference, and why understanding this can change everything in your relationship. We'll talk about what rejection looks like when it's personal, what it looks like when it's not, and how to sto...

So many men tell me, "I meet all her needs, why can't she meet mine?" Almost always that "need" is sex. I understand the frustration behind that question, but here's the truth- it's not helping your sex life, it's hurting it. In this episode, I talk about why framing sex as a "need" actually shuts down desire, and what to do instead if you want real intimacy and connection. If you've ever felt stu...

Have you ever wondered why you can feel like a totally different person during sex than afterward? In this episode, I break down what's actually happening in your brain before, during, and after intimacy, and why it matters for your sex life. I'll show you how your neurobiology impacts desire, openness, and connection, and how you can use that knowledge to feel more present, communicate better, an...

In this episode, I'm diving into a pattern I see so often in marriages: good men with the best intentions who unintentionally invalidate their wives' feelings. I'll share real stories of couples who get stuck in this cycle and explain why it happens, especially when a husband's identity is tied so closely to being "the good guy." You'll hear how this dynamic leaves wives feeling unseen and husband...

Sexual grief is something many experience but few talk about. In this episode, we explore what it means to grieve the sex life you thought you'd have, and why making grief your companion instead of your enemy can lead to deeper healing, connection, and hope. You'll hear how sexual grief shows up in different ways, from unmet expectations to struggles with desire or intimacy, and why acknowledging...

In this episode, I'm tackling one of the most common questions I hear in my coaching practice: why do so many women say no to sex? The truth is, it's often not about low libido, it's about the kind of sex they're having. When intimacy feels like an obligation, when body image fears take over, or when pleasure and freedom are missing, it's no wonder women start turning away. I'll walk you through t...

In this episode, I welcome back Katie Runyon of Faithful Fling to explore how playfulness, novelty, and emotional intimacy can transform long-term marriages. Katie shares how role play dates help couples break free from routine, rediscover curiosity, and keep monogamy passionate. Together, we discuss why emotional connection and sexual novelty aren't opposites but actually fuel each other, creatin...

In this episode, we explore why sexual certainty, which is the belief that you already know exactly how intimacy should look, might actually be blocking passion and connection in your relationship. You'll learn the difference between confidence and certainty, how curiosity creates space for growth, and why faith and openness are key to deeper intimacy. Through personal stories, brain science, and...

In this episode, we're unpacking a powerful insight that could completely transform the way you experience intimacy in your marriage. It's all about the surprising difference between safety and security in your sexual relationship and why understanding it might be the missing piece to reigniting the passion you've been longing for. Most people think they're the same thing, but once you see the dis...

In this dynamic episode, Amanda sits down with Hope Orr, the owner of Elevated Boudoir, Utah's premier boudoir photography studio. Hope shares her personal journey from body insecurity and diet culture to self-acceptance and how one DIY boudoir session completely shifted her mindset. Now, she helps other women (and couples) experience that same transformation through photography that's more about...

In this episode, we're diving into a powerful idea I recently heard on the Sex Therapy 101 podcast - a conversation between Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers and my friend Dr. Cami Hurst. Dr. Sellers shared a thought-provoking insight about the difference between sex drive and sexual desire. It's something we've touched on before, but today I want to give it the attention it deserves. This is one of the m...

Is the marriage advice you've heard actually helping or quietly hurting your relationship? In this episode, Amanda interviews marriage coach and author Monica Tanner about her new book Bad Marriage Advice. They dive into common myths like "never go to bed angry" and "happy wife, happy life," and explain why these well-meaning tips can lead to disconnection over time. You'll hear real stories, mode...

What if the key to deeper intimacy was learning how to handle disappointment? In this episode, we're talking about the one feeling most of us spend our lives avoiding, disappointment, and how that avoidance quietly chips away at connection in our relationships. Whether it's a quiet letdown at the end of a long day or a pattern of unspoken hopes, we often sidestep the pain instead of sitting with i...