Sex and Sativa with Alex

Even with my microphone breaking down mid record, rain falling expectedly I still decided to put out this episode. Sexual Health Awareness is incredibly important and in this episode I share some personal experiences with STI's. This is quite a vulnerable and not so fun episode so definitely light one up or pour yourself a drink

Sexual fantasies can sometimes feel like a taboo or some sort of cheat code, on this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I tackle sexual fantasies, the guilt and how to deal with that as well as introducing sexual fantasies to your partner. It can get somewhat nerve wracking trying to get your partner to help make your fantasies a reality do I added a little guide to help as well. This episode was re...

It's a wonderful time in existence where we have so much options to explore in term of sexual aids so it's sort of baffling to me when I meet people who are ashamed, embarrassed or angry that they need lube with their partners to enjoy sex. If you enjoyed a previous episode of #SexandSativawithAlex titled "WAP: A DISSERTATION ON A BLACK WOMAN'S SEXUALITY" then think of this episode as an extension...

Debunking myths relating to sex is one of my favorite things to do on this podcast and it was interesting to dive into Biases I previously held regarding oral sex. On this episode I explore the basic, absurd and somewhat thought provoking notions that one might just believe about oral sex. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Welcome to Season 5 and I'm kicking things off by discussing sexual Expectations and how holding on to those expectations leave one having mediocre if not bad sexual experiences, unlearning these expectations also made its way into this episode and I do hope those solutions help. Season 5 is going to be amazing, so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

I promised an erotica themed episode in Season 4 and The Sex Positive Goddess is here to deliver. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode. Please don't hesitate to tell me how much you enjoyed it.

The Boujee Bitch and I continue our discussion on romance episode and in this concluding episode we disect most of the popular tropes that are heavily used and repeated in romance novels. We also delved deeper to discuss how the lack of representation skewers our idea on what romance should look like. This was such a fun episode and I really do hope you enjoy it. So light one up or pour yourself a...

On this episode I am joined by my favorite person (The Boujee Bitch) and we discuss Romance novels, do we love them, hate them or hate that we love them. In the first part of this 2 part episode, Boujee and I delve into our shared history with romance novels, how we both used romance novels as a great way to escape from the woes of growing up in a Nigerian household. We also discussed the various...

The term "Hoe Phase" always rubs me the wrong way and with this episode, I'm able to finally put words to why I feel like it's a term used to mock women for choosing to explore their sexuality. It's a new year, let's not be eager to pigeon hole ourselves into situations that might not favor one sexually. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

Can a relationship work with more than 2 people involved? On this episode I discuss Polygamy, Polyamory, Open Relationships and Reverse harems. I'm challenging my notion of what healthy relationships look like rather than the optics of said relationships. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy This episode. Please listen to pt 1 to fully enjoy this episode.

Can a relationship work with more than 2 people involved? On this episode I discuss Polygamy, Polyamory, Open Relationships and Reverse harems. I'm challenging my notion of what healthy relationships look like rather than the optics of said relationships. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy This episode

It's actually frustrating to see how dirty talking(something that can actually help your sexual experiences) is viewed as cheesy, corny or cringe. On this episode of my podcast I give tips on how to make Dirty Talking less awkward and more personalized. Interested in Initiating Dirty talking for the first time? it's all in this fun episode, so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this e...

On this episode I delved into Aftercare and how our complete disregard of the inclusion of Aftercare impacts the enjoyment of our sex lives. This episode highlights the Importance of Aftercare in our regular sexual relationships as well as how best we can include aftercare in our sexual practices. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

I had so much fun Tackling the most ridiculous and Misleading Myths surrounding the Female Orgasm, here is the continuation of the Previous episode. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

The Elusive O, for so long there has been a ton of confusion regarding the Female Orgasm and why it cannot be achieved and honestly I was surprised by the fact that some people still hold on to these untrue beliefs. On this episode I have fun tackling a lot of Myths Surrounding the Female Orgasm as well as my experiences unlearning some of them I held as Facts. So light one up or pour yourself a d...

On this episode, I talk about the fun benefits of consuming ethical porn and the differences between Mainstream Porn easily available on the internet and Ethical porn. I also talk a little bit about my contribution so far to ethical porn. For more insight, check out Porn Culture in season 1 of my podcast. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

With a lot of stigma and unfair Stereotypes attached to BDSM it is important to note that Abuse has no correlation while practicing the lifestyle. Healthy BDSM relationships revolve around Consensual Play, infact enthusiastic consent is encouraged in BDSM. In this episode I talk about the responsibility that practitioners of the lifestyle owe each other as well as a few mistakes that I've seen be...

Welcome back to #SexandSativawithAlex. Kicking things off this season by talking about sexual pleasure and how the lack of visibility regarding sexual pleasure has the sexual experience feeling incomplete. In this episode I talk about how the lack of comprehensive sex education plays a huge role in how we view the importance/need for sexually pleasurable relationships. I also note how most times w...

Thank you so much for joining me on this awesome podcast but this season has to come to an end in order to make way for a better season. On this episode I recap all the fun conversations I discussed this season and true to form, my opinions about certain stuff has changed and I give an update on the future of the podcast. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

If you enjoyed the first episode on sexual responsibility with The Boujee B*tch, then give this episode a listen. We both talk about ways to respect your sexual partner, birth control and sexual responsibility while living with an STI. so pour yourself a drink or light one up and enjoy this episode

Sexual Responsibility is so often ignored and this episode seeks to shed light on the term "Sexual Responsibility". My guest(The Boujee B*tch) and I tackle ways we can be more sexually responsible and why sexual responsibility prepares one to fully understand and respect your own sexual choices. So light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode.

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I am joined by the present Mr Globe Nigeria(Dr Uzo) and we discuss the unwillingness of some men in using sex toys with their partners as well as themselves. We also discussed the running joke of Igbo men being bad at sex, Butt plugs, Nymphomaniacs and BDSM. This was such a great episode so light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

If you can prep for sex why can't you prep to Masturbate? I love the idea of getting ready to pleasure yourself because honestly masturbating is a form of self care. On this episode I talk about how I get ready to enjoy my orgasms and how preparing for solo play reaffirms that I have the right to enjoy my pleasure. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode

On this episode of #SexandSativawithAlex I discuss Labiaplasty, Designer Vagina trend and why some women would pay to have the perfect looking vulva. No two Vulva is the same, let's learn to appreciate the vulva we have. Light one up or pour yourself a drink and enjoy this episode, it's quite informative

On this episode I tackle harmful, funny and straight up confusing myths surrounding women Masturbation. It's Masturbation May Ladies and you deserve your Orgasms. Maybe after listening to this episode you'd go into the world to close that Orgasm Gap