SelfKind: Conversations in self-care, kindness and compassion for highly sensitive people

Hello! Welcome to this episode of SelfKind with me, Erica Webb, and my guest, Erin Todd. Erin - an Integrative Health Coach - has a background in Psychology and over 17 years working with people in the helping profession. Today, she's sharing with us her wisdom around habits, change and the role of a modality called 'Brainspotting' in supporting change. In this episode you'll h...

Guilt! It can creep up on us when we least expect it, and sometimes over the most seemingly-benign things. Stewing on it and beating yourself up doesn't lead anywhere useful, so what can we do instead? And how can we use the mind-body connection to support moving through it? Join me on this episode of SelfKind for a few tips, ideas and suggestions. On this episode you'll hear: A powerful...

If you've been around here for a while, you'll know I love a good metaphor and am rather tickled by an analogy, and that is exactly what today's episode dives into! Books ... what can the act of reading teach us about self-care and movement? I'm not talking about what's inside the books, but rather the process itself.  Ready? Let's dive in. In this episode you'll...

So the Google-able definition of 'barometer' is: 1) an instrument measuring atmospheric pressure, used especially in forecasting the weather and determining altitude; 2) something which reflects changes in circumstances or opinions. I think that's a rather fitting way to think about the way our body can respond to internal and external 'atmospheric pressure' changes, and c...

Hey friends, and welcome to episode 181 of SelfKind!  Today I'm talking about the difference between approaching your body and mind through the lens of 'it needs to be fixed' versus the lens of 'I choose to support myself'. When we think we need fixing, well, that overlays a belief that we are broken ... And when we approach ourselves that way, it's easy to get stuck...

Rest. What's your relationship with it, my friend? When I think about rest I immediately think about naps. And, honestly, I've never been a fan of taking naps. Lori is here today to share with us how incredibly broad the notion of resting is and can be and I'm so thrilled to share this conversation with you. In this episode you'll hear: - what rest is - the lengthy (and non-exh...

Hey friends, and welcome to episode 179 of SelfKind with me, Erica Webb. Today I'm talking to you about a really pivotal moment in my life: the moment a therapist asked me "are you ready to be free of anxiety?" My answer shocked me (though, given the title to this episode, it might not be so shocking for you!). In any case, several years on, I no longer experience daily anxiety, and...

Hey friends! Today on SelfKind I'm sharing a personal story about my trip to Los Angeles for a conference. But the lessons I'm sharing have ZERO to do with the conference and 100% to do with embracing our own and others' humanity. In this episode you'll hear: > how my excitement mutated into fear and how I practiced discernment in what bodily feelings to listen to and how &g...

Hey friends! We're diving into part 4 of our 4 part series all about Somatic Exercise. If you haven't yet tuned into parts 1 through 3 (episodes 173, 174 and 176) I highly recommend you start there. Today I'm chatting about how Somatic Exercise and self-kindness relate. You'll hear: > how self-trust, curiosity and self-compassion are influenced by somatic exercise > why d...

Today we're diving into part 3 of our 4 part series specifically about Somatic Exercise. We're laying the foundations of what this practice is and how it can support us. If you haven't already, be sure to tune in to episodes 173 and 174 first! In this episode you'll hear: > Why we have a shared language but not necessarily a shared understanding around pain and discomfort &g...

Hello and welcome to this episode of SelfKind with me, Erica Webb! In this episode I have the pleasure of chatting with Kylie Marks - an aged care physiotherapist who has turned her skills to supporting our canine companions with mobility and strength as they age (or deal with illness and injury). In this episode you will hear: > How kindness to our pets can inform and support kindness toward o...

Hello friends, and welcome to episode 174 of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). In this episode we're continuing with our 4-part series all about Somatic Exercise: what is it and how and what does it help? Missed last week's episode? Head there first (episode 173: Connecting with your Soma)! In this second episode we're diving deep into the idea of Sensory Motor Amnesia or...

Hello friends, and welcome to episode 173 of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). In this episode we're kicking off a 4-part series all about Somatic Exercise: what is it and how and what does it help? In this first episode we're diving deep into uncovering what the 'Soma' in Somatic refers to. It's not the dictionary definition, so give Google a miss on this one! W...

Today on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!), I'm sharing about the moment when I lost trust in my body. I remember the moment vividly. I was probably 15 or 16 and, in a moment, trust was lost and shame was plentiful. While this particular story is mine, I believe it's not unique.  So why does it matter and what do we do with those experiences and stories if we want a kinder, more...

Urgency. It's not a nice feeling, is it? It's like, I want this outcome and I want it yesterday, please and thank you. Yet we find ourselves here over and over again - wishing that the pain and tension we feel was gone already or that the goals we have for our movement and self-care practices were bearing more fruit. So, how do we shift out of intensity? And what's the alternative?...

Pain. We all experience it in some way, shape or form. And our default way of thinking about pain and discomfort can be very much a quest for a 'cure'. But, does this set us up to be in a me vs it relationship with our body and mind? This is the question I'm pondering today on SelfKind. Tune in to hear: > why I felt weird about disclosing my own experience of pain with clients &g...

Stress. Ain't no shortage of the stuff. And while we may be told that 'reducing our stress' is the goal, there's also another place we can look to make a difference. What is it? Finding the drain on your metaphorical water tank. In this episode you'll hear: > the water tank metaphor for understanding our capacity to manage stress > the importance of completing the st...

Oh that inner voice can be mean, can't it? I know mine sure can. But there's another voice in there too ... one that is kind, compassionate and honest. In this episode of SelfKind I'm talking about: > how to differentiate between these voices > the qualities of the kind and compassionate voice > how that kind voice will lead you in the direction of what supports you > wh...

Know that feeling? The one where progress feels like a dance of two steps forward, one back? Or maybe even one forward, eight back? Yep, I hear ya. Today I'm talking about this through the lens of a new camera I bought for the SelfKind Hub ... what can the frustration teach us about our movement, self-care and self-kindness practices? Lots! What you’ll hear in this episode: > why instant r...

Exercise. Love it? Loathe it? Either way, there's no denying that the cultural narrative around what exercise is and represents can have a big impact on how we think about ALL movement. But here's the thing: movement is more than exercise. It can be adjacent to and even overlapping with exercise, and it can be quite distinct from it too. In this episode of SelfKind I'm chatting abou...

Sometimes we straight-up ignore the messages our body is giving us. We feel tired but insist on staying up to finish that project, or we're tight and sore but decide what we're working on at the computer is priority #1. To be fair, we've been taught to ignore them and, sometimes, ignoring them is necessary in the moment. But what if you're wanting to heal your relationship with...

I used to bargain with myself: if I could just be perfect enough, good enough, worthy enough, then I wouldn't beat up on myself so bad. Um ... I couldn't see it at the time, but this literally makes no sense. Self-kindness and self-compassion are necessary because of the very nature of being human. It's not always neat and perfect and comfortable. Maybe you've noticed. Today&ap...

Welcome to this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb! Today, I'm thrilled to be chatting with Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, Iman Iskander. Iman has over 20 years of experience helping people build better connections, marriages, and relationships. Her work helps enhance the human bonds between people and helps resolve conflicts. After many years working in mental health in the corporate...

Hello there friends! Welcome to today's episode of SelfKind. Today, I'm flying solo and chatting about the culturally-accepted role of guilt in motivating us into action (or, alternatively, causing us to 'quit') and how we can consciously choose a different way. I also talk about how the pursuit of joy intersects with this and how a rollerblading class really brought this messa...

Welcome to this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb. I'm thrilled to be talking with Amanda MacLean today. Amanda has a business that works with CEOs in large corporations, preparing high potential women for a successful promotion. The women she works with have wonderful potential, but experience something holding themselves back. That thing is Gravitas. Amanda explains this essence that is G...