SelfKind: Conversations in self-care, kindness and compassion for highly sensitive people

Guilt. It's a heavy feeling. But ... if you've ever considered yourself quick to people-please or prone to perfectionist tendencies, it might be a very familiar feeling indeed. You might be using guilt as a way to motivate yourself to do things you think you *should* be doing or finding yourself feeling guilty for prioritising any of your own needs ...  So, let's talk about it.  In...

Hey friend! Welcome to episode 234 of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). Nervous system regulation: why is it important and what does it mean? Self compassion: why is it such an effective nervous system regulation tool? That's what I'm talking about in today's Tuesday Tidbit episode - enjoy! The content I share on this platform is for informational and educational purposes...

Emotion. Trauma. Do they really live in the body? And, if so, what does that actually mean? Are they like little gremlins taking up residence in our tissues?  Today, that's what we're diving into on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). Tune into this episode to hear: - what emotion and trauma 'in the body' actually means - what pain science teaches us about how our body...

We are not robots; we are truly nothing like the phones and computers we use to make our lives more convenient. However ... there's an analogy in this episode that compares our approach to tech glitches with our approach to self-care and I hope it's helpful today! You'll hear: - why thinking you're bad when you 'fall of the wagon' of self-care isn't doing you any...

Feelings. They can be big, hey? And sometimes deeply uncomfortable. And that's before we start piling any judgement on top of the feelings themselves. If you're committed to becoming your own friend, rather than your own biggest critic, how do you honour your feelings when you don't actually like them? That's what we're diving into today. Mentioned in this episode: SOMA:HO...

A little something different for today's Tuesday Tidbit - I'd like to introduce you to my new program: SOMA:HOME.  SOMA:HOME is a 6 week course to uncover what stops you from caring for - and ultimately loving - yourself and your body. You'll learn to listen to your body in a way that centers curiosity and kindness so that self-care becomes a default way of being, not something to c...

Proactive vs reactive ... which is best when it comes to self-care? Well ... spoiler alert: there's room (and necessity) for both. So, what can that look like and how do we actually do it? That's exactly what I'm exploring in this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). Tune in to hear: - the difference between proactive and reactive self-care - the benefits of each,...

Your inner critic is hurting you. I think you know that ... But what I really mean here, is that your inner critic is making your body hurt. Those aches and pains? There's a good chance that your inner critic isn't doing them any favours. In today's tidbit I'm sharing why your body responds to your inner critic with tension and discomfort, as well as 3 simple but powerful tools...

Gah, you've been there, right? When 'yes' comes out of your mouth even though you know you want to say no? Today on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm talking about this and how it relates to that pesky social conditioning we talked about in episode 225. (And yes, I say this is episode 226 in the intro, but we're actually on 227 - ooops!) In this episode you wi...

Hey hey, friends! Trying a little something new here on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). A second episode for the week and I'm calling it a Tuesday Tidbit. This episode is shorter - just one idea to take and ponder. I'd love to know if you want to see more Tuesday Tidbits, so reach out and tell me! Today I'm talking about acceptance. Like, what does acceptance actually lo...

Hey friends! Welcome to episode 225 of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). Today, I'm sharing a concept with you that has come up repeatedly with clients in recent weeks. It's a concept that has the potential to impact each and every one of us and could be one of the things standing like a brick wall between you and the relationship you want with yourself and your body. So, what...

Pain, discomfort, tension - it sucks, really, doesn't it? And so it makes sense that one fo the strategies we use to manage it is to disconnect from the bits of our body that hurt (or that we feel let us down). We disconnect in a number of ways - through language, distraction and blame/shame to name a few. But what happens when these strategies actually amplify the pain and discomfort we&apos...

Hey hey, friends, and welcome to Episode 223 of SelfKind with me, Erica Webb. I'm speaking off-the-cuff today to share some pieces of my own story. My journey through chronic neck pain and periods of deep self-loathing are a huge part of the reason behind why I do the work I do in the world. But I'd already been practising Yoga for a long time before I really found the pieces that, toget...

Oooh, am I excited to share this conversation with you! I'm delighted to introduce the wonderful Steph Le Gros on today's episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!). This conversation is deeply relatable, hugely insightful and hopefully gives you space to contemplate the roles of people-pleasing, self-awareness and self-acceptance in your life. In this episode, Steph is sharin...

Ever catch a glimpse of yourself in a mirror and wonder, 'who is that person staring back at me?!' Or have you uncovered or discovered a part of yourself that feels new and wondered if that was, you know, okay ?  I know I sure have. Navigating the very human experience of change, growth, discovery and shedding can stir up all the feels. So how do we navigate that - changes in appearance,...

Today on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!), I'm responding to a topic request from a listener; one that I think is very relatable.  Self-criticism, self-doubt, unkind and unhelpful thoughts ... why do we, at times, resort to this when we're worried about being criticised by others? Why do we ultimately try to beat them to it; harming ourselves before they can harm us? In this ep...

There's a big ol' list of things we have the potential to gain through consistent self-care, but something that we don't often talk about or consider is the thing we might lose in that process. Join me, Erica Webb, in this episode of SelfKind where I'm posing the question: Can the act of self-care threaten your identity? And could that be the reason it feels so hard to start an...

It's possible to change your relationship with your body and in this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) we're talking about one piece of the how - listening to your body for clues.  This is about engaging in a compassionate dialogue with our bodies, moving away from blame and towards curiosity. By leaning into the power of observation and using our body's signals...

If you've ever found yourself drained from constantly striving to make everyone else happy or if you tend to fall into the all or nothing trap with self-care, then this episode is for you.  In this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm sharing five tips to help you reclaim self-care.  You'll hear: the importance of exploring your values, particularly as they rela...

It turns out there are some profound life lessons to be learned and re-learned on a three-week camping trip! And on this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm sharing four of the lessons I learned while road-tripping to Central Australia. Tune in to hear: -  about the power of movement variability in easing tension and physical discomfort, - why knowing about something is...

I fell hard at roller skating lessons. And in this episode I'm talking about the lessons we can all learn from this! No, you don't have to skate to get value from this episode of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!), you just need to be a human being navigating life! In this episode you will hear: - the ways our tools, practices and support systems help buffer us from life's c...

Do you believe that people are generally doing their best?  Do you believe that you are generally doing your best?  Or ... not? And, what do you do when you feel like your 'best' isn't really enough? How do you move toward new ways, skills and behaviours without berating, belittling or bemoaning yourself in the process? That's precisely what I'm talking about in this episo...

I’m thrilled to introduce today’s guest, joining me on SelfKind. Dr. Rachele Burriesci is a cardio-pulmonary specialist physical therapist, and a delightful human! She joins me today to talk all things cardio-pulm, and to share some ‘user-manual’ information about the heart, lungs and nervous system that we can all deeply benefit from.  Rachele shares: What is the cardio-pulmonary system and how d...

Motivation. It's a fickle fickle thing. But what if we're thinking about it all wrong? What if, instead of a feeling, state or trait, motivation is simply a reason WHY?  Today on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!) I'm sharing an equation that is really helpful when you're walking that fine line between not feeling like doing something but knowing that you WANT what lay...

Hey there! Welcome to episode 211 of SelfKind with Erica Webb (that’s me!). Today we’re talking about people-pleasing - and I really hope you like it (see what I did there?).  People-pleasing. It’s easy - as a kind, caring, empathetic human - to slip into a pattern of pleasing the people around you at the expense of your own needs and desires. And that’s the key distinction here - at the expense o...