Self(ish) Confidence

One iced coffee, a foggy brain, and a brave truth: I’m closing The Selfish Sisterhood. Not because it failed. Not because I’m quitting. Because my intuition is loud enough to ask for space, and I finally stopped gripping something beautiful that no longer fits the season I’m in. We go deep on what a “nine year” feels like—a season of endings that clears the runway for a fresh “one year.” Whether y...

Coffee in hand, PJs on, and a heart full of reflection—Jess opens up about what four years behind the mic have really taught her about confidence, creativity, and identity. The biggest myth she takes down first: growth is not a two‑week sprint. Your body, mind, and soul move on a different timeline than same‑day delivery, and real change needs space to breathe. You’ll walk away with practical enco...

Ever notice how your perfect moment can look ridiculous to someone else? That contrast is the clue that your vision is finally your own. I share a raw, late-night snapshot—baby settled, pets piled on, a rare hush in the house—and the jolt of realizing it’s both my deepest peace and, for others, a total nightmare. From there, we explore how to define a dream that isn’t copy-pasted from the algorith...

Change is inevitable, but navigating transitions with grace requires balancing the bittersweet emotions of growth. When cherished friendships evolve, careers shift, or new roles like parenthood transform our identity, we often find ourselves mourning previous versions of ourselves while simultaneously embracing new possibilities. Many of us fall into the trap of waiting for perfect clarity before...

Life often has us feeling like we're not enough—not doing enough, not achieving enough, not keeping up with everyone else. But what if the problem isn't you at all? What if you're simply in the wrong environment? This revelation hit me while reading a children's book to my eight-month-old son about sea creatures. I learned that turtles swim quickly in water yet move slowly on l...

Do you feel constantly overwhelmed by noise, notifications, and never-ending to-do lists? You're not alone in this overstimulated world. Ever notice how a peanut butter smudge on the table or that plant you've been meaning to hang for weeks becomes all you can see? Our modern environment bombards us with stimuli that make it nearly impossible to enjoy the present moment. We're scrol...

After a six-week break, Jess returns to share her journey with listeners and explains how a health scare prompted her to launch a "Year of Confidence: Postpartum Edition." • Balancing motherhood, business, and self-care in limited weekend time slots • Feeling naive about motherhood getting easier as baby develops and becomes more active • Realizing we're still using 2020 mindsets in...

The world feels chaotic and overwhelming, leaving many of us constantly seeking external validation and guidance. We scroll through social media looking for answers, ask mentors what to do next, and let influencers dictate our choices—gradually disconnecting from the most important voice of all: our own. In this thoughtful exploration of self-trust, we examine how life transitions naturally shake...

The world feels chaotic lately—there's a buzzing energy that's both exhilarating and exhausting. As summer unfolds with packed calendars and endless activities, many of us find ourselves yearning for space while simultaneously craving connection. This tension reveals a profound truth about human existence: we need our village. The concept of "it takes a village" extends far bey...

Could trusting your gut save your life? For me, it literally did.  When my 4-month-old started fussing during a solo road trip, my intuition told me to pull over for a quick stop. Fifteen minutes later, we drove past a horrific accident that had just happened – one that closed the highway for five hours. Had we not made that unplanned stop, the timing would have put us right at that spot when disa...

Ever felt like you're constantly running to catch up with your own life? That pressure building inside when you keep putting yourself on the back burner? You're not alone. Take a deep breath with me as we explore what I'm calling my "soft mama era" – a season of intentional slowness that's revolutionizing how I approach life, business, and motherhood. This conversatio...

Nobody tells you that transformation can happen in the blink of an eye. One year, I was walking away from network marketing into uncertainty; the next, I was speaking on stages and hosting my first retreat. Now, I've just completed my fifth Self(ish) Retreat—my first as a new mom—at the stunning Oceanstone Resort in Nova Scotia. The journey to this retreat was filled with doubt. Could I reall...

Have you ever looked back at a version of yourself from five years ago and barely recognized that person? Welcome to the beautiful evolution of becoming. When I placed the word "experiment" on my vision board before entering motherhood, I had no idea how powerfully it would reshape my approach to life. Rather than clinging to rigid expectations or perfect outcomes, I've discovered t...

Ever feel like you're juggling too many balls and something's bound to drop? That's exactly where I found myself recently, trying to balance motherhood, business launches, and personal commitments—until I realized the power of pressing pause. Life doesn't always unfold according to our carefully crafted schedules. Sometimes, our 14-week-old decides to have a rough week precisel...

Ever notice how we celebrate birthdays with unbridled joy as children, then somehow shift to brushing them off as adults? At 35, I'm reclaiming the magic of celebration and sharing the life wisdom that's transformed my perspective along the way. Barbados Retreat Waitlist  Self(ish) Sisterhood Waitlist  Join the Self(ish) Sisterhood : $33/month or $333/year. Thank you for listening to Sel...

What if the limits you feel most constrained by are actually self-imposed? What if following your heart—even when your logical mind resists—is the key to unlocking your truest confidence? Recording with my 12-week-old baby sleeping on my chest, I found myself questioning whether I could successfully multitask motherhood and podcasting. This small moment perfectly mirrors the larger struggle many o...

Surrendering to life's seasons requires a special kind of courage that often feels counterintuitive, especially for those of us who crave control. Through my journey of early motherhood, I've discovered something profound: when I finally let go of rigid expectations and embrace the natural flow of baby's timeline, everything feels more magical. This episode explores the unexpected g...

Have you ever noticed those magical synchronicities that show up just when you need reassurance that you're on the right path? From angel numbers to meaningful animal encounters to technology seemingly communicating with you (like my rainbow light turning on by itself!), these moments remind us that we're being guided, even when life feels uncertain. This episode explores the profound po...

Life's transitions often leave us dangling in "the in-between" – those disorienting periods where we no longer fit our old identity but haven't fully stepped into our new one. Whether you're navigating postpartum changes, career shifts, relationship transformations, or any significant life event, these middle spaces can feel both uncomfortable and sacred. But what if the i...

Have you ever felt different, like you don't quite fit the mold society created? What if that "weirdness" is actually your superpower? Drawing inspiration from the movie Wicked, this episode explores how embracing what makes us unique—our personal "green"—can transform our lives and impact the world around us. Fresh from watching Wicked, I've been reflecting on Elphab...

Struggling with constantly comparing yourself to others? You're not alone. In this raw and vulnerable episode, I open up about my own battle with comparison during the postpartum period, and how it's affecting my confidence even as someone who teaches confidence for a living! This episode is your reminder that you are enough. You're doing amazing things, even if you can't see i...

Six weeks into motherhood, I've discovered something surprising: the hard part wasn't birth day—it's every day that follows. Not because it's terrible (though sometimes it is), but because it demands a complete reinvention of who you are and how you move through the world. Whether you're a parent or not, maybe you're also in a season where you can't control much....

Are you ready to crack open the conversation about finances and step into your power? In today’s episode, we tackle the often-taboo topic of money and self-confidence with financial therapist Lindsey Konchar. Together, we explore the weight of financial shame that many women carry and how breaking the silence can lead to empowerment and growth.  Lindsay shares her inspiring journey toward becoming...

Jess and Ashley dive into their friendship and the unpredictable journey of life changes in this episode. They discuss navigating new roles, the challenge of maintaining friendships, the impact of social media, and the aspirations of starting a fun, light-hearted podcast together.  • Exploration of current life transitions and challenges  • Discussion on the evolution of friendships as we age  • I...

What happens when the life path you’ve meticulously planned takes an unexpected turn? Join me and my good friend Megan Seibel as we share a heartfelt and candid journey through significant life changes and unexpected discoveries. From our first encounter at an empowerment event where I boldly declared not wanting to become a mom, to embracing motherhood and all its challenges, this episode explore...