Self(ish) Confidence

Change can be exciting, but the part nobody warns you about is the identity whiplash. One day you’re handling life like you always have, and the next you’re in a new season, new schedule, new body, new priorities, and you’re still expecting the “old you” to keep up. I’m talking about the real impact of life transitions and why you don’t need to become someone brand new to grow, you need to remembe...

Summer doesn’t wait, and neither should your joy. I’m Jess, and I’m talking to the woman who loves a checklist but keeps putting her own fun at the bottom of it, the “I’ll relax after the dishes” mindset that quietly steals the best parts of the season. You’ll hear me unpack the difference between planning by time and planning by energy, plus practical, realistic ways to build an epic summer witho...

“I would never do that” can feel like a boundary, but sometimes it’s a wall. Today we get honest about the weird moment when you look back at your past self and laugh because you did the exact thing you swore you’d never do and it actually made your life better. I’m sharing my own never say never turns, plus the mindset shift that helped me stop treating every decision like a locked door. Then we...

The fastest way to spot a confidence dip is not in what you say, it’s in what you do next: the overexplaining, the defensiveness, the mental replay of a one-minute interaction that suddenly feels like a life review. If that sounds familiar, you’re going to feel seen here. We unpack the sneaky signs your self-confidence is slipping and why it often happens during big life transitions. I share what’...

Your attention is getting pulled in a hundred directions, and it’s not because you’re lazy or “bad at discipline.” It’s because modern life is designed to distract you and if you’re parenting, building a business, working a job, or just trying to feel like yourself again, those distractions can quietly eat the year you swore would be different. I’m sharing a real-life reset: how I think about show...

Someone hears your dream and suddenly it feels risky, unrealistic, or “too much.” That moment can look like advice, concern, or even excitement, but underneath it is often the same thing: projection. We’re talking about what happens when other people’s fears and “shoulds” get placed onto your choices, and how quickly that can shrink your confidence if you don’t have protection around your ideas. W...

Mom guilt tells us we have to pick a lane: be fully present at home or fully committed to the dream. I’m fresh back from our Barbados Selfish Retreat, and I’m here to tell you what it actually looked like to host a week-long women’s retreat as a mom and come out the other side more grounded, more clear, and honestly more convinced that “having both” is possible. Barbados isn’t just a pretty backdr...

Comparison has a sneaky way of dressing up like motivation, then leaving you with that heavy “I’m not doing enough” feeling. While I’m in full pre-retreat mode packing for Barbados (organized chaos and a suitcase that’s barely under 50 pounds), I wanted to sit down with you for a quick, honest reset on the comparison game and why it keeps showing up even when life is going well. We talk about what...

 If you’ve been doing the juggling act of motherhood, work, relationships, and big dreams, you know the “enoughness” spiral. We talk about that shaky energy head-on, and how societal pressure quietly convinces women there’s one correct timeline and one acceptable way to live. When your path looks unconventional, the world can make you feel like an outsider, even when you’re simply telling the trut...

A lot of people want to “use their voice” until the moment their voice can be judged. Today, I sit down with Halifax radio host and storyteller Melody Rose to talk about what confidence really looks like when you’re vulnerable, thin-skinned, and still committed to saying the honest thing on a microphone. Along the way, Melody shares the behind-the-scenes reality of public feedback, why openness ca...

Some weekends don’t just feel fun, they snap you back into yourself. After the Fredericton Women Show and the She Leads women’s panel, I walked away with that buzzing reminder that confidence grows faster when you’re surrounded by women who actually want you to win. I’m sharing behind-the-scenes from the quick road trip, the magic of meeting “internet friends” in real life, and the contrast betwee...

You know that moment when someone shares an opinion and your stomach drops because you can feel the judgment coming? I wanted to talk about the skill that changes everything: becoming unfuckwithable, not in a rude way, but in an unshakable way where you stay rooted in who you are even when people disagree. If you’ve been dimming your personality, filtering your thoughts, or trying to be “easy” for...

Your brain isn’t broken, it’s overloaded. I’m sitting down with a cup of tea and naming the thing so many of us feel but rarely say out loud: life is loud, busy, and weirdly serious, and we’ll do almost anything to avoid an empty moment. If you’ve ever found yourself “productively” organizing junk, scrolling Threads a little too long, or filling every pause with content, you’re in good company. I...

You can be wildly capable and still be running on 0%. That’s the tension we’re naming today: how so many of us show up for work, partners, kids, friends, and family without hesitation, while our own needs get whatever crumbs are left. When life feels like chaos, change, and constant responsibility, self-care doesn’t just slip, it disappears, and we start calling it “normal.”  I’m sharing a groundi...

Ever feel the air shift and know something is about to change? That’s where we are as we hit our 300th episode—a milestone built on messy first takes, wobbly courage, and a relentless promise to show up even when it’s scary. I trace the arc from a whisper in 2021 to a life I couldn’t have sketched back then: leaving a first business, closing a dream editor role, stepping onto stages, hosting retre...

When life gets loud, confidence needs a home. We start with a chair, a candle, and a cup of tea—and end with a blueprint for handling chaos with more ease. After a week that knocked our whole household down with the flu, I share how a simple room refresh turned into a creative reawakening and why building a space that feels like you can change how you show up, even on the hard days. If you’ve been...

Ever feel like your brain won’t stick to one task, your to-do list breeds at night, and every decision carries the weight of a parenting manual? Same. Jess sits down to unpack the first year of motherhood with candor and humor: why trusting your intuition beats crowdsourced panic, how a “second baby mindset” lowers stress on the very first kid, and the simple truth that rest isn’t a reward—it’s st...

The world feels loud, the energy is weird, and anxiety is riding shotgun. We open the mic anyway and get real about what self-belief looks like when life is messy, opinions are everywhere, and you’re still figuring out who you are after big changes. A spark from a bold halftime performance kicks things off, but the heart of this conversation lives in the ordinary: showing up when no one’s clapping...

The world feels heavy, the snow won’t quit, and emotions sit closer to the surface than usual—so we decided to name it, feel it, and turn it into momentum. We trace a powerful arc from the year of the snake to the year of the horse, unpacking why this transition can stir grief, restlessness, and a craving for renewal. Instead of forcing positivity, we get honest about the last six years, the hope...

We get honest about the modern routine: wake to a small screen, work on a medium screen, unwind with a big screen, and fall asleep with the small one again. I share why I stopped obsessing over my child’s screen time and started measuring my own. We explore the real costs—anxiety, comparison, memory slip, and that itchy feeling of never quite being here—as well as the real gifts technology brings...

What if your resolutions don’t stick because you’re starting at the wrong time? We press pause on the January 1 rush and walk through the Human Design New Year, a gentler pivot point that begins when the sun enters Gate 41. That shift gives us room to reflect on what felt off last year, release what no longer fits, and set intentions that match our actual energy instead of someone else’s timeline....

Ready for a new year that doesn’t demand a sprint from day one? We’re starting 2026 with honesty, a warm cup of chai, and a clear reminder that winter is for roots. The holidays were full, the house is still a mess, and yet the path forward can feel calm and strong when we stop forcing hustle and start trusting the season we’re in. We reflect on a year of shedding—friendships, roles, routines—and...

A cup of tea, a quiet house, and one piercing thought: new people only know the version of us they meet today. From there, we follow a warm, honest path through identity shifts, seasonal energy changes, and the subtle grief of putting old selves on pedestals. I share why December feels lighter than the fog of October and November, how a nine year invites endings, and why shedding—like the snake—ca...

Ever feel like December turns your brain into a traffic jam of to-dos, emotions, and expectations? Jess opens the door to a quieter, kinder holiday—one shaped by real trees, paint-by-number nights, and a craft-strewn desk that used to be all business. This is a heartfelt exploration of confidence during seasons of change, from the high of a big speaking event to the full-body pause of new motherho...

When everything feels heavy and a chapter closes in plain sight, it’s easy to confuse an ending with a verdict. Jess opens up about identity shifts, public judgment, and why a normal season of change can feel unbearable when the internet turns every moment into a headline. From canceling plans to protect loved ones to reimagining a community offering, she traces the quiet decisions that make space...