Self-Helpless

Delanie Fischer is joined by author, former women's rights lawyer, and host of The UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, Kara Loewentheil. Kara shares how our socialization as women impacts everything — our relationship with productivity, the anxiety and impostor syndrome we experience, and our self-worth. Get ready to question your conditioning, challenge societal expectations, and become more of who you ar...

Delanie Fischer is sharing 5 of her favorite tips for optimizing a small space. Whether you're simplifying, decluttering, or downsizing because you want to, you have to, or a mix of both, these simple, quick, and affordable solutions will assist with your brainstorming for storage options, repurposing, fun upgrades, and more! You can join our Patreon community here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhel...

Delanie Fischer is joined by podcaster, author, and first-ever recurring guest host of The Self-Helpless Podcast, Em Schulz! Ever wondered if that strong feeling you had was your gut instinct, or a trauma response that led to self-sabotage? Delanie and Em discuss common behaviors of self-sabotage, signs and physical symptoms of gut instinct, as well as share a variety of personal experiences aroun...

Delanie Fischer is joined by co-authors of "Defiant Dreams: The Journey of an Afghan Girl Who Risked Everything for Education," Sola Mahfouz and Malaina Kapoor. What would you do if your education, autonomy, and freedom was stripped from you in an instant? Activists and friends, Sola and Malaina, share Sola's story of self-educating behind closed doors in the face of devastating threats, finding r...

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by licensed therapist, Anna Aslanian, to discuss how to identify, and work through, feelings of jealousy in our relationships. Anna shares why jealousy comes up, what it’s telling us, and how to approach it. Plus: + The 2 root causes of jealousy + Which unlikely behavior is linked with this emotion + 3 simple tips for processing feelings You can join our Patreo...

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Jessica Frew, co-host of The Husband In Law Podcast -- where she shares stories of marriage, infidelity, coming out, remarriage, and co-parenting alongside her co-hosts, Steve (her gay ex-husband) and Matt (her current husband). Yes, you read that right. Jessica shares about her first marriage, which included discovering that her then-husband is gay, the pai...

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by licensed clinical psychologist and leading expert on narcissism, Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Dr. Ramani shares guidance for identifying and healing from narcissistic relationships, including the first steps for leaving or reestablishing boundaries, health issues that may arise due to enduring this kind of toxicity, how long you should stay single after a narcissis...

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Codependency and Addiction Expert and Author of “Codependent Attachment Personality Patterns,” Heidi Rain. Heidi describes the different styles of codependent attachments, the relationship between addiction and codependency — including codependency being an addiction in itself, why holding onto control doesn’t work (and how to relinquish it), and what we nee...

This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by her cousin and professional softball player, Sam Fischer. Sam shares how she feels about leaving her dream job, what she's considering for her next career move, the biggest challenges, blessings, and sacrifices she's experienced, and what's aided her longevity over 10+ years as a professional athlete. Failure, starting over, grief, recognition, and identity...

This week, we have a stacked compilation episode for you filled with life-changing relationship advice from some of our brilliant past guests. NYT bestselling author, Greg Behrendt, Relationship Therapist from Married At First Sight, Dr. Viviana Coles, Sexologist, Goody Howard, Comedian, Ken Garr, Communication Expert from Married At First Sight, Rachel DeAlto, Licensed Therapist, Kati Morton, Cer...

12 ADHD Life Hacks With Em Schulz  This week, Delanie Fischer is joined by Em Schulz, New York Times bestselling author and co-host of the hit paranormal and true crime podcast, And That's Why We Drink. Em shares about their personal experience with ADHD, the feelings that can coincide with receiving this diagnosis as an adult, and fantastic hacks for jumpstarting motivation, getting chores done w...

This week, we have a jam-packed compilation episode for you filled with delicious nuggets of wisdom from some of our incredible past guests. Tan France, Brian Regan, Whitney Cummings, Michael Buble,' Pete Holmes, Preacher Lawson, Nikki Glaser, Freddie Prinze Jr., Gad Elmaleh, and Mike Birbiglia are sharing their favorite quotes, books, philosophies, pivotal moments, and self-care practices. Plus:...

This week is a tearjerker as it’s Kelsey’s last episode as a co-host of The Self-Helpless Podcast. We’re sharing stories about the beginning times, the huge life and career transitions that we’ve experienced while recording the podcast for almost 7 years, how this experience has impacted us, and what’s next for everyone. Self-Helpless will live on, but let’s give Kelsey a proper send-off! For excl...

We’re talking about the scary feelings that come along with entrepreneurship, and what helps us manage them. The pros and cons of being your own boss, the pressure of being responsible for the livelihood of a team, how the hell to create some predictability amidst a sea of uncertainty, and combatting compulsive working are all things we cover in this episode. Plus, what do you do when you’re tired...

This week, we’re sharing some personal experiences with antidepressants, depression, and burnout including the challenges of loving work that’s negatively impacting your health, prolonged grief, situational depression, the importance of rest and play, and all the feelings that arise when considering, and experimenting with, antidepressants. *This episode contains some sensitive information, please...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are sharing their biggest takeaways from their guests and topics this past year, including simple concepts that have helped them dial down their perfectionism, process grief differently, and take their literal dreams more seriously -- as well as their favorite quote of the year! Also, a recent woo-woo experience and an unexpected trip in an ambulance. For exclusive...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are traveling back in time to give their younger selves some advice. Everything from what would’ve set them up financially over the last decade, habits they wish they adopted earlier that had an enormous impact on their mental and physical health, the information that would’ve transformed their relationships, and ya know, how to avoid split ends and pyramid schemes....

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are sharing their favorite hacks that make the daily demands of life more manageable -- including hot tips for untangling hair knots and cutting animals' nails, how to save a bunch of money on home decor, what you need in order to travel with more ease, mindset wizardry that stops anxiety spirals, and most importantly, tons of guidance for how we can all support Kel...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are joined by comedian, Beth Stelling, to chat about finding fulfilling hobbies as an adult. They discuss going back to stuff they enjoyed as a kid, trying brand new things that they suck at, and all of the feelings that can come with introducing, or reintroducing, a hobby into your life -- including joy, excitement, frustration, grief, and impostor syndrome. If you...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are sharing their biggest lessons from the past year. Everything from how they spend time with loved ones, changes in spending habits, healing from codependency, the importance of hobbies, and what can birth from the loss of identity. Plus, their highlights and lowlights from 2023. This year has been extra adult-y for them, how about you?? For exclusive rewards and...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Krista St-Germain, Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. Krista opens up about the loss of her husband, the range of grief she’s experienced since, and the simple shifts that can help us process and heal. She also shares why we need to rethink the 5 stages of grief, what sh...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by sex therapist and licensed psychologist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Dr. Kate educates us on all things enmeshment trauma -- how it can impact our romantic relationships, the types of partners we’re drawn to, our familial relationships and friendships, as well as how it shapes our identity, self-worth, and perspective on love and boundaries. Whether you're j...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Former Deputy Sheriff, Joy Farrow, and Technologist and Domestic Violence Survivor, Laura Frombach, to discuss street-smart safety and defensive living. They share practical tips for a variety of scenarios -- online dating, rideshares, traveling on your own, being home alone, and more. Plus, a variety of affordable safety tools and technology options,...

Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are talking situationships -- signs you’re in one, pros and cons, tips for defining the relationship (if you want to), and offering up their variety of personal experience with these kinds of relationships from all ends of the situationship spectrum, including how friends with benefits turned into a marriage for one of them. Whether your situationship is working gre...

Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing the concept of a quarter-life crisis, and how they’re definitely amidst one (they thought they were passed this sh*t!?). They're sharing how this experience differs to what they went through in their 20s, what feels eerily similar, and the things that actually help them stabilize during times of uncertainty. They also audit some major life categories...