Self Control

Constant anxiety about the future, or guilt about the past, distracts us from living in the present. If this goes on long enough, we lose track of who we are and what we want. Or worse... We never get to know who we are, and we don't live the life we deserve. Taking ownership of our life begins in the mind. If you want more out of life, and you want to stop this frantic, uncertain way of living, y...

Anxiety about your future, and guilt about your past, are two major reasons for discomfort in the present. We think our self into negativity daily. So if you are working on mindfulness, and becoming more aware of your thoughts, you can now begin to keep a record of these behaviours. It's one thing to be aware of our negative thoughts, and the times we lose focus and become distracted, but are you...

How much of your anxiety is caused by what you have to do later today? Are you overwhelmed by life? Do the simplest things begin to pile up and it all feels impossible? What about guilt or shame from the past? Harsh words that were said. Important tasks procrastinated again. Those feelings are valid, but is RIGHT NOW the right time to be thinking about all these monsters from other dimensions? Eve...

Social anxiety sucks. We want to be popular, we want to be liked... Hell, we just want a friend or two! Could mindfulness be your friend as you work to become more of a people person? I still struggle from time to time in social situations but these 3 steps help when I feel overwhelmed. Give them a shot and let me know how it goes! ----- This episode is the third in a series of 3 Mindfulness Miles...

It is very easy to go through life DISTRACTED. TikTok, Facebook, Netflix, Podcasts... Constant music, constant videos, un-ending noise! What if all that time spent living life with one eye, or one ear, on the phone was slowly draining you? Who you are, what you do, what you want... You've never fully understood those things because you were distracted all the time. Distracted by media, by technolo...

Do you reach for your phone within a few minutes of waking up? How does that make you feel? Blasting your tired eyes with bright white light. Filling your mind with other people's thoughts and bad news. Does that seem like a great way to begin another precious day on planet earth? If you would like to begin your day in a way that serves YOU... In a way that makes you feel calm, and able, and ready...

Any challenge in your life can be solved with the help of mindfulness. But how exactly?

If you have been listening to our recent episodes on mindfulness, you may feel overwhelmed by just how out-of-control and distracting your own thoughts can be. You are not alone. Talking about mindfulness has forced me to confront the fact that I am constantly thinking about the past or the future, and distracting myself when I should be focussed. So what can we do? What can we do when we realize...

The first of many Mindfulness Minutes. Bonus episodes for you with the reminder to stay mindful during your day. Enjoy!

"We are what we repeatedly do," wrote American historian Will Durant (paraphrasing Aristotle). And so if you repeatedly find yourself falling into stress, anxiety, worry, or any other negative emotion when you'd rather be... living your life, it may be time to ask: Am I really living? The truth is, much of our time on this earth is spent doing the little things like commuting to work, eating, or c...

Mindfulness is a tool that anyone can use at anytime to feel better immediately. Not bad, right? But what's the catch? You need to be willing to define it and use it all the time! In this episode, I will share with you my current definition of mindfulness and give you 3 questions to ask yourself if you are feeling stressed out, hopeless or uncertain about life. Make sure you are following this pod...

Not only was I a heavy marijuana user for many years, I also used pornography for even longer than that! Sometimes I think it's a miracle I ever made it out of my parents' basement. And I am not here to preach to you about your life choices. But! I want to let you know a secret that I have discovered since quitting both porn and weed... Each time you reach for the pipe, the cigarettes, the cellpho...

It can be very hard to accept that YOU are the one holding yourself back in life. The silver lining is that YOU also have the power to get out of your own way! In this episode I want to share with you the 3 ways I was holding myself back in life especially during the time I was a heavy weed smoker. Whether or not you use marijuana, if you feel like you could be getting more out of life, do not ign...

We've all heard it: attention is currency. Well, it's time you started paying yourself! Our ability to focus, and to control our attention, is one of our strongest tools and greatest gifts. With the power of visualizing, and reframing your current problems, you can unlock this great power to achieve your goals. As an added bonus- this can also help with impulse control and managing bad habits. In...

Is your New Year's resolution starting to seem a little difficult? Perhaps there's a goal you want to achieve that seems too far away, Or even a bad habit you just can't break... How are we supposed to know just what to do? There's no instruction manual for our life! Where do we find the confidence to take the right steps? In today's episode, I'll give you two important key words to work with: CLA...

Are you spending a lot of time on social media or watching the news? Do you believe it's important to know "what's going on"? While that may be alright in small doses, the horrors of the outside world do not shrink or get better just because YOU choose to focus on them. So it may be necessary to ask yourself: is this the kind of information I really need to consume? In today's episode, Patrick wil...

At this time of year, you may be thinking about how you can improve in some area of your life going forward. I am here to tell you that you can achieve what you want in life. And this is not just me being nice so you'll listen to my podcast. I have discovered that what I really want out of life can start to take shape when I do this one basic thing... FOCUS on it! This may seem simple, but there i...

We all have moments where we struggle to interact with other people. Not speaking up, not keeping a conversation alive, not being present or engaged... And we lose out on meaningful experiences as a result! If this has become a habit, or a way of life for you, at what point will you say "enough is enough?" Isn't it time other people realized that you do have good ideas and that you're someone wort...

As someone who does a podcast called "Self Control," I could certainly use a little work on my own self-control from time to time. If you're like me, you really only become aware of your self control or self discipline when it's lacking or when it's a challenge. Addiction, bad habits, emotional outbursts, mindless consumption... And then we snap back to reality and wonder how and why did I just lo...

For those of us in the Northern part of the world, the wintertime can be very hard on our mental and physical health. Fewer hours of sunlight and colder temperatures mean less time spent outdoors and more time spent in darkness. It's no wonder many of us find the holiday season to be depressing and difficult. So are you ready to do something about it this year? Or just keep shuffling through this...

Some people seem to effortlessly have high self-confidence. How do they do it? Who cares? If you want to improve your self-esteem and raise your self-confidence, the first thing to do is to stop looking at other people. Self-confidence is the ultimate "you problem," and so you cannot look outside yourself for the answer. You need a "you solution"! Thankfully for you, this episode will provide you...

If you have come to the realization that something(s) in your life need work--whether it's bad habits holding you back, or a lack of self-confidence, or maybe you don't know who you are... Congratulations. You have made the most difficult step: awareness. And it's very common to go looking on the internet for solutions. But this podcast will not offer you the solutions YOU THINK you want. This pod...

What does the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel teach us about living a better life? A lot, as it turns out. Whether you are a person of faith, 100% atheist, or even if spirituality is not something you think about, this little story about God and Man has an important moral for YOU. In this episode, Patrick will share with you the first step he had to take to begin building a better life for himself....

Social media is here to stay, whether we like it or not. The question is: are you using it, or is it using you? A lot of what you see on your favourite platforms is designed to give you an emotional response and make you share this content with others. And sadly, once you are hooked on this emotional response--whether it's fear, anger, or sadness-- it can be hard to break away from the scrolling a...

Marijuana is an incredibly popular substance, but who knew its users would defend it so strongly? In this episode, Patrick responds to some of the negative comments on his latest viral clip. He'll also take this opportunity to remind you what this show is REALLY all about. More importantly, if you are looking to quit a bad habit such as marijuana, he'll give you two simple questions to ask yoursel...