Secure Marriage Podcast

Warning: This episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast was not part of our regularly scheduled programming and contains strong opinions that may offend some husbands. As always, it’s our hope and desire to bring truth to painful situations so husbands, wives, and couples can learn how to have healthier and happier marriages. If the husband I’ve described in this episode sounds like you and you...

If 2023 is the year you’re going to make some changes in your relationship, we’ve made it easy to become a better spouse and enjoy a happier marriage. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll give you some ideas and let you know what we’re doing to make our marriage better in 2023.

As many of you know, Shannon is a Highly Sensitive Person. When I first suggested that she might be an HSP, she did NOT take the news well. Since then, we’ve both come to understand and accept what it means to be an HSP and how it affects our relationship. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we talk about the best way to have this conversation with your wife if you suspect she may b...

Do you ask your wife, “What do you want to do?” a lot? Chances are, you’re asking this because you don’t want to make a decision that disappoints her. The problem is, when you ask this question TOO much, you end up putting all the emotional weight and responsibility on your wife, which disappoints her. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll show you a better way to show your wife...

We recently received an email saying the Secure Marriage Podcast talks more about husbands trying to meet the needs of their wives and not enough about the wife learning how to meet the needs of the husband. So, in today’s episode, we attempt to balance the scales. We hope you enjoy.

Husbands, you can’t fix a marriage you’ve been neglecting in three days. When a wife is at the end of her rope and threatening to leave because of years of disappointment and loneliness, there are very specific things you need to do to not make things worse. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll walk you through what those things are and how to avoid this situation in the first...

Nobody likes tests. And if it feels like your spouse is testing you all the time or trying to catch you doing something wrong, it can start to erode trust and connection. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll give you three tools or perspectives you can use if it feels like your spouse is testing you all the time.

It can be hard to do kind and loving things for your husband or wife when the warm, lovey feelings aren’t there. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll help you understand how you can have a healthy and loving marriage even when it’s hard.

If you’re in the military, or business requires you to be gone from home for extended periods of time, it can be hard to have a healthy and vibrant marriage.  In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’re answering the questions of a young couple who have spent months apart because of military service.

If you’re a wife with kids, a job, chores, a dog, and a husband—all of which need your time and attention, how do you prioritize and meet everyone’s needs? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll tell you how to get you and your husband on the same page so you don’t have to face this difficult decision by yourself.

What do you do when your wife won’t stop attacking you despite every effort to de-escalate the situation? Is there something you can do or is the situation hopeless? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’re going to show you the wisest, and safest, path out of this difficult situation.

Even though relationships are complex, there’s one thing that’s been proven to be the most important if you want to have a happy and long lasting relationship. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll tell you what that thing is and give you some of the research to back it up. We hope you enjoy.

If you’re married, you’re going to have fights. But if you use the tools we’re going to teach you in today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll be able to resolve those fights in less than 20 minutes.

What do you do if you want another child, but your husband doesn’t and wants to get a vasectomy? Where is the compromise? This is the difficult question we’re tackling in today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. Even though this is not an easy topic, there is a clear way to have this hard conversation and remain emotionally connected to each other.

So… you’ve just shared your honest opinion with your spouse, and instead of them saying, “Thanks for sharing” it leads to a huge fight. They feel hurt and attacked by your ideas, and you feel dismissed and rejected. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I will tell you why this keeps happening to you and, more importantly, what you both need to do to stop it from happening...

You probably know what it feels like when you’re in a bad relationship, but can you clearly answer what it looks like to be in a good relationship? Is there an objective standard that you should be striving for? We think the answer is ‘ABSOLUTELY’ and in today’s episode of the Secure Marriage podcast we’ll take you, step-by-step, through the six things that will help you have a happy relationship.

As your relationship moves through time, the feelings of “love” start to change. If those changes feel like you’re losing something or things are getting worse, you may start to consider making some bad decisions. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re talking about how to respond when the emotional feelings of love start to wane.

If it feels like your spouse is hiding things from you, it’s tempting to try and find “proof” of their wrongdoing. While this seems like a good idea at the time, it is a symptom of bigger problems in the marriage. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’re exploring the core issues of mistrust and hurtful behaviors. We hope you find it helpful.

Taking responsibility, apologizing, and validating your spouse’s feelings are supposed to make things better, right? So what happens when you do that and your spouse sees this as an opportunity to lash out and attack you more? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll discuss why this tends to happen and the practical steps you need to take to change this toxic dynamic.

If you feel taken advantage of because your spouse expects you to do all the chores, you’re going to want to listen to today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. In this episode, you learn two ways to make the chores feel “fair” and you’ll stop fighting about who does what.

For years (okay… for centuries), there’s been a debate on the purpose of marriage. Should it be for your own happiness or should it be for the happiness of your spouse and children. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll answer this age-old question once and for all so you can enjoy your marriage no matter how long you’ve been married.

Does your husband embarrass you whenever he expresses his strong feelings? Do you wish he would be more conscientious of how his behaviors are affecting others? On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we talk about how to navigate talking with your spouse without sounding critical or complaining.

Every relationship has its ups and downs. How you move through them will either build more connection or lead to more conflict.  In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll give you some ideas on how to navigate these rough waters safely.

If your spouse has betrayed your trust by having an affair, you’re probably doing everything you can think of to survive? The anger, hurt, confusion, and loss probably feels overwhelming and you’re not sure if your marriage is going to survive. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll explore what both people have to do if their marriage is going to become happy and whole again.

Most couples are trying to stay “independent” and failing. They have this flawed belief that they can get married and still live their life as if they are single. When you choose to get married, you are saying, “I now have to take someone else’s thoughts and feelings into account with every decision I make”. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at the core attitudes you...