Secure Marriage Podcast

What do you do if your husband or wife simply ignores you whenever they’re upset? Is there a way to get them to engage so you can get things resolved? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’re exploring your options to see what’s best for your relationship.

When you’re not feeling good physically, it’s nice to go to a doctor and have them tell you exactly what’s wrong with you. The same thing applies when your relationship is struggling.  In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll show you how you can determine if your marriage is sick or healthy. Music by orangery and Katzen_Tupas from Pixabay

So. You want to make your marriage better. There’s a lot of places you could start, but what’s going to get you the biggest bang-for-your-buck? This is exactly what we’ll show you on today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. Music by PianoAmor and JuliusH from Pixabay

Sometimes it’s the little things about your spouse that just drive you nuts. The things they do aren’t wrong, inappropriate, or immoral, but for some reason, they get under your skin and start to rub you the wrong way. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’re working through the variety of feelings that can show up and, more importantly, how to respond in a healthy and loving...

Does your spouse expect a reward every time you ask them to do something helpful for you? Does it feel like you’re having to keep score and always losing?  In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll look at the toxic dynamic of quid-pro-quo and how to get out of the contractual mindset in your marriage. Music by FreeGroove and Alex_MakeMusic from Pixabay

Did you know a large portion of the conflict in your marriage comes from your personal stuff before you were married? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll learn why it’s critical to become the healthiest version of yourself so you can have the happiest marriage possible. Music by The_Mountain from Pixabay

On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, Shannon and I once again share how we actually use the Secure Marriage tools in our everyday lives and how they help us get through our fights and feel emotionally connected. Music by NaturesEye and Music_For_Videos  from Pixabay

Okay. You know you’re ready to get help for your marriage, but you don’t know what type of counseling you should be doing. Should you find a professional counselor? Is Pastoral counseling just as good? What if we can’t afford counseling? On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll walk you through what to look for in couples counseling and how to make this important decision. Music by...

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re sharing more personal stories of how Shannon and I get connected after having small (and sometimes large) fights. Music by Evgeny_Bardyuzha and Ashot-Danielyan-Composer from Pixabay

Learning to compromise in a marriage isn’t always easy, especially when it’s around the topic of having more kids. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll talk about the points of conflict when it comes to having more kiddos. Music by Lexin_Music and orangery from Pixabay

Sometimes your spouse isn’t ready to go to couples counseling when you are. Should you wait, or can doing counseling by yourself still be helpful for your marriage? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll give you the pros and cons of doing counseling by yourself. Music by The_Mountain and SergeQuadrado from Pixabay

How does a mature, healthy man look and act? Do the men of today look different than the men of the last few generations, especially as it relates to marriage and relationships? We’re attempting to address this potentially sticky issue on today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. We hope you find it thought provoking. Music by Lexin_Music and JuliusH from Pixabay

Recognizing and responding to emotional calls (or bids) is considered one of the key elements of a successful relationship. Unfortunately, not all husbands have been trained to see these opportunities when they come along. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at why this is so hard for some men and what you can do if you recognize you need to be doing a better job for y...

For many people, being able to identify and verbally articulate their feelings feels like an impossible task. When overwhelmed, they simply freeze up and can’t think. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll look at why this happens and what you can do to start getting more connected with your emotional brain. Music by Daddy’s Music, and Ashot-Danielyan-Composer from Pixabay

What is the fastest and most effective way to deal with your past hurts and hangups? Do you have to do years and years of therapy? Do you have to spend thousands of dollars hoping to find the “thing” that’s going to make you feel better? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll tell you the ONE thing that’s been proven to be the most effective at creating real and lasting change.

What if you’ve tried everything you can think of to make your husband feel loved and appreciated and he still feels like you’re not trying hard enough? This is the sticky question we’re wrestling with on today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.

Have you tried everything you can think of to get connected to your husband, only to walk away feeling hopeless and discouraged? There may be a deeper issue going on that you’ve never learned about… until now. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll teach you about this “thing” that so many disconnected marriages miss, and what you can do to start making things better. Here’...

Well, we made it! Shannon and I just got back from our first-ever Secure Marriage Cruise to the Mexican Riviera. In between sitting by the pool, zip lining, and having amazing food, we had a great time helping our cruise guests learn how to have a happier marriage.  Today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast is a quick interview with everyone that attended. We’re sure you’ll enjoy.

Different sexual drives don’t have to ruin your relationship. Problems arise when you stop trying to understand—or actually stop caring about—the needs and feelings of your spouse. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we look at the most essential part of marriage (which is not actually sex).

Even though communication is important in any happy marriage, it’s actually the bi-product of something much more important. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll tell you what that thing is and what you can do to work on creating it in your relationship.

There are very clear signs when your relationship has crossed over from a bad relationship to an abusive relationship. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at those markers and what you need to do if you find yourself in this painful situation.

You’ve probably heard that marriage is hard, and the people who say that aren’t wrong. But, believe it or not, having a happy and fulfilling marriage isn’t THAT hard. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’re going to tell you the one simple thing ANY couple can do that will guarantee them having a happy, secure marriage.

If you just found out your husband or wife has had an affair, your brain immediately kicks into hyper-survival mode. In that state, it’s easy to make decisions that seem like a good idea at the time but, in fact, end up making things worse. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll clearly lay out what NOT to do and offer several positive alternatives during this difficult time.

Only a handful of couples know how to use this magic tool that makes fights and conflict pretty much non-existent in their relationship. If you want to be let into the secret, just listen to this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.

Shannon and I didn’t know how to have a good marriage when we first got married. But over time, we learned the essential skills to be able to say, “We don’t have a perfect marriage, but we do have a secure marriage.” In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we let you in on the steps we took that make it possible for us to be happily married, even after 30 years together.