Secure Marriage Podcast

🎉 Celebrate with us on our monumental 300th episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast! Join Shannon and I in this special episode as we reflect on the most memorable moments, groundbreaking revelations, and heartwarming testimonials that have made our journey together so extraordinary. Tune in as we raise a toast to love, trust, and unbreakable bonds, and set the stage for an even brighter future fi...

On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage podcast, Shannon and I try to answer the question “ Why is it so hard to listen to your spouse when they’re upset at you ” and stumble upon the super simple, yet often uncomfortable, exercise that answers that questions for every couple, no matter where you’re at in your relationship.

When you become aware of something that needs to change in your life, it’s not always easy knowing how to get started. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re talking about all the psychological obstacles and limiting beliefs you have to overcome in order to change. 

It’s not easy to be emotionally vulnerable in front of your wife (or pretty much anyone). For a lot of husbands, the need to come across as strong and capable all the time is a non-negotiable. But how does it affect your marriage? That’s the questions we’re answering on today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.

(A little FYI… Last week, we released a different episode with this week’s title. (Doh!!) While I have some words with our podcast editor, you can go back and listen to the episode title “Why You Should Show Love To Your Spouse, Even When You Don’t Feel Like It”, and we’ll do our best to avoid these silly mistakes in the future. Now, back to our regularly scheduled pr...

Showing love to your spouse is an important part of a healthy and happy marriage—even when you don’t feel like it. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll talk about why making an effort to show your spouse how much you care will always make a big difference in your relationship.

Over the last week, I haven’t been a kind and loving husband. The times I’ve been wrong, I’ve responded with defensiveness, harshness, and offensive behavior. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, I take the time to own up to my bad attitude and apologize to my Beautiful Bride.

Does it feel like your husband spends more time on his phone than with you? Are you starting to get resentful and frustrated because you’re feeling lonely and neglected? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll show you how to start winning your husband back so you both can feel close and connected once again.

Are you able to anticipate what your husband’s or wife’s needs before they need it? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll talk about how to share a deep connection with each other so that you can meet the needs of each other without feeling resentment or frustration.

One of the biggest complaints we hear from couples is “My spouse expects me to do everything.” or “My spouse doesn’t contribute anything to the relationship.”  In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll introduce you to an idea that can make these feelings of frustration and resentment melt away so both of you end up having a happier marriage.

It’s terrifying if your husband or wife continually blows up in anger. You never know what’s going to set them off and you’re always walking on eggshells. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll look at the best way to start dealing with unresolved anger issues and how you can go from fear and trepidation to deep emotional connection with each other.

If you’ve ever discovered your spouse has cheated on you, you’re immediately hit with a flood of emotions and questions. The biggest question is usually “WHY?” “Why did they do it?” “What’s wrong with me?” “What does that other person have that I don’t have?” In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll answer these questions and give you a deeper understanding of what leads up to peop...

In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re tapping into some of the wisdom from your favorite mustachioed “football” coach and how he and his fellow Richmond characters can actually help you have a happier and more intimate relationship with your husband or wife.

So, you want to work on making your marriage better, but the idea of sitting in some hotel ballroom for two days sounds about as fun as doing your taxes. That’s why you and your spouse should join us for 8 days on board the luxurious Harmony of the Seas cruise ship seeing unforgettable places, eating amazing food, and learning how to have a deeply loving relationship.

You know how we’re constantly saying, “We don’t have a perfect marriage, but we do have a Secure Marriage.” Well, in today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll let you listen in on a fight we had over the weekend and, more importantly, how we resolved it and got reconnected. (This episode is a little different from our normal format but we think you’ll find it informative.)

Being emotionally vulnerable isn’t always easy for men (duh). What makes it harder is when a husband makes an awkward attempt at sharing their feelings and are met with criticism and critique. It reinforces the “this-was-a-bad-idea” part of their brain. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking how wives can make it easier for their husbands to open up to them.

Your survival brain says, “I want to make sure I get all my needs met first.” So what happens when two people, both with legitimate needs, are in the same room? Who’s supposed to give up their needs to serve the other? That’s the question we’re going to answer on today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Hurt people hurt people”. Unfortunately, the words your spouse throws at you in the midst of their pain can leave permanent wounds. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll look at how those situations develop in marriage and what you can do to start healing from those verbal attacks.

Do you want to get some outside help for your marriage, but your husband doesn’t want to “air our dirty laundry” to some stranger? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll look at why some people are highly resistant to seeking help, even though their marriage is falling apart.

You’ve heard the terms “love & respect” thrown around for years now, but chances are you don’t actually understand what they really mean when it comes to marriage and relationships. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll break down what each term really means and how it applies to your relationship. P.S. You’ll also get to hear us work through a minor conflict we bumped...

Are you an Unconventional Couple? If you are, then you probably have a happier marriage than most couples out there. Why? Listen to today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast to find out.

Does it feel like you made a huge mistake by getting married? Wish you could have a do-over? On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll look at the mindset you need to have if you’re going to have a happy and long-lasting relationship.

Marriage is based on being vulnerable and transparent with each other. The minute lies, secrets, or jealousy creeps into your relationship, trust starts to erode. If you want to learn how to safeguard your marriage, listen to today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast.

Many older women are afraid their husband may be tempted to leave them for a younger woman. This doubt and insecurity can become overwhelming and incredibly discouraging. On today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll look at the things a husband can do to reduce this fear in their wives as well as the things the wife can do to start to build some self confidence.

Trauma can complicate the normal times of stress and conflict in a marriage. Understanding these unique dynamics is essential if your marriage is going to survive long term. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll give you some practical tips and tricks to help improve communication and conflict resolution with your spouse.