Secure Marriage Podcast

Okay men… you wife wants to feel special. She wants to know that you think about her, that you love her, and that you actually want to spend time with her. She wants to be celebrated as your spouse so she knows she’s cherished and apprecaited. If you’ve never been taught how to do that, that can sound a little overwhelming. Where do you begin? What do you do? In this episode of t...

If you’ve been married for any amount of time, you know that fights are gonna happen. But did you know that it’s possible to fight WITHOUT being defensive? Even more importantly, did you know you can fight in such a way that you don’t trigger your spouse’s defensive brain? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’ll show you exactly how it’s d...

When your marriage is struggling, it’s easy to focus on the faults of your husband or wife. You believe that if they would change, then you’d finally be happy. While this makes sense, it’s usually a waste of time since you can’t make them change. Instead, what are you doing to make your marriage better? This is the important question we’re tackling in today’s ep...

How do you talk about your husband or wife when they’re not around? Kindly? Harshly? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll help you understand why you should always defend your spouse in public and, if you ever need to correct them, why you should do that in private.

Back in the dark ages (like 1995) marriages never had to argue over technology. Now, couples fight over too much time on video games, social media, and time on their phones. If you’ve felt frustrated because your husband or wife would rather spend time on their phone instead of with you, then this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast is just for you.

Working on your marriage should never be boring. Sitting for long hours listening to some guy telling you what’s wrong with your relationship sounds about as fun as taking the SAT’s again. (I’ve actually been that guy at one time.) Since Shannon and I want fixing your marriage to be fun, exciting, and truly memorable, we’ve decided to do our first Marriage Cruise. If this s...

Admitting to your wife you were wrong is never easy. Yet, this is the unfortunate experience I’ve found myself in this last week. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you get to take a walk with us as we process just how important it is to be able to admit when you’re wrong and how this humbling experience can actually strengthen your relationship.

A lot of husbands (and some wives) have never understood the connection between emotional and physical intimacy. They are genuinely confused (and frustrated) when their spouse isn’t in “the mood” after a long day of arguing and tension. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage podcast we’re looking at why emotional connection is so important to a healthy sex life and...

Like we’ve said many times… “We don’t have a perfect marriage, but we do have a secure marriage.” This last week is proof of that. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re talking about the fight we had last week and the steps we took to get is resolved as quickly as possible and get connected again. We hope you enjoy.

Every husband or wife has that “thing” they’d like to see changed in their spouse, believing it will make their life easier and happier. While this is perfectly normal, you can make your marriage miserable if you go about it the wrong way. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at a few ways you could sabotage your marriage while trying to change your...

Does your husband or wife have that “thing” that drives you crazy, even though, you’d have to admit (reluctantly) it’s not actually wrong of them to do it? These things can actually become endearing to you, if you learn how to see them in the right light. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at a few things inside our own bags of craz...

Remember when dating was something that was fun and easy? Now, after a few years of being married, you probably don’t do it as often, and it seems to be more of a chore rather than something you look forward to. No matter how long you’ve been married, setting aside time together regularly is super important. If you’ve forgotten why, we’ll be glad to remind you in today&#821...

We talk a lot about the importance of being selfless and serving your husband or wife on a daily basis. But what happens if your spouse uses your sacrificial attitude as an excuse to abuse or take advantage of you? Obviously, we want everyone to be safe. That’s why we thought this insightful question was important enough to do an entire episode about it. We hope you find it helpful.

Friendship with your husband or wife is good. Compatibility with your spouse is nice. Physical attraction is exciting. But bonding with your spouse is essential. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at why this somewhat mysterious experience is so elusive for many couples and what you can do to start working on it in your marriage.

When stress creeps into a marriage, one person usually pushes for connection while the other person usually withdraws, hoping to stay safe by not rocking the boat. This is called the Anxious/Avoidant cycle and it’s common for almost every relationship out there. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re looking at the consequences of this emotional dance and how yo...

Do you know what your spouse has given up because he or she decided to be married to you? I know… it’s a weird question, but, it’s an important one. And, it’s the question I asked Shannon the other day while out on a walk. Her answer was very insightful and showed me an area of my life that I need to continue working on in order to make her life a little better. We hope you...

For decades, women have been stereotyped (often unfairly) as moody and grumpy during their time-of-the-month. And yet, there’s always a little truth in sarcasm. In this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re taking a light-hearted, look at this very real dynamic in our relationship.

Has your wife ever said, “You don’t understand me” or, ” You just don’t care? If that’s you (and it probably is if you’ve been married longer than 15 minutes), then you need to learn the strange and mysterious art of empathy. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re answering a question from a guy that’s about to be marrie...

For marriage to work, you have to listen to the needs of your spouse and be willing to give up some of the things you want. But what do you do if your husband would rather do things he likes by himself instead of choosing to be together? In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast we’ll look at the options you have in this frustrating situation.

Lying. If it’s done once, it’s easier to forgive. If it becomes a pattern, it will destroy trust and any chance of intimacy in your relationship. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we’re dealing with this painful subject and offering a healthy way of addressing the issue with your husband.

Fighting is never easy. But apologizing is even harder. Admitting you’re wrong, listening to the feelings of your spouse, empathizing, caring… all of these are tough to do on a daily basis. True to form, in this episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, you’ll listen in to Shannon and I discussing our latest fight and why it was so hard for me to say, “Sorry” as quickly...

Let’s be honest… your spouse probably isn’t happy and pleasant to be around 24/7. If your spouse happens to be someone who is “moody” or emotionally draining, then you’re going to want to listen to today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast. In it, we share how we’ve worked through that season in our marriage what you can start doing today to mak...

If your marriage has been struggling for awhile, you may not know the first steps you need to take to make things better. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we look at how to start rebuilding trust and improve communication so you can start down the road to reconciliation.

Few things are as painful as being married to a husband who insists nothing’s wrong and he doesn’t need to change even though he acts in hurtful and offensive ways on a daily basis. The feelings of helplessness and hopelessness can become overwhelming and discouraging. In today’s episode of the Secure Marriage Podcast, we take a hard look at the options that you have before you,...

Sometimes the person you marry isn’t always welcomed into the family. There may be snide comments, back-handed insults, or even overtly insulting behavior. When you’re torn between your family and your spouse, who do you choose? With the holiday’s coming up, this is a timely topic to touch on. We hope you’ll find some thought-provoking ideas in today’s episode of the...