Secret Habit: Porn Recovery for Christian Men

Most men don't struggle because they lack motivation. They struggle because they lack a clear, repeatable process. After thousands of coaching sessions with Christian men, I've become convinced that lasting freedom doesn't come from collecting more recovery tools—it comes from following a simple system you can trust. In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series , I bring everythin...

Most Christians believe Jesus heals. But many have never experienced His presence in the places they still carry pain. In this fourth episode of the Freedom Foundations Series focused on the Inner boy, Shawn explores what it looks like to invite Jesus into the stories, wounds, and formative experiences that continue to shape your struggle today. This isn't about chasing emotional experiences or im...

Most Christians know they're supposed to renew their minds . But very few have ever been shown how . In this powerful guided episode of the Freedom Foundations Series , Shawn walks through the practical process of leading the wounded places of your heart out of what feels true and into the truth of the Gospel. This isn't positive thinking. This isn't behavior management. This is Christ...

Most men are in a hurry to change. Very few take the time to understand themselves. But before you can lead the boy within, you must first learn about him. In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series , Shawn guides you through one of the most powerful reflection exercises in his coaching process. Together you'll begin uncovering: • The emotions you learned to suppress • The beliefs you f...

Most men spend years trying to change their behavior while never stopping to understand the story behind it. What if your struggle isn't random? What if the anxiety, shame, triggers, and patterns you experience today are connected to lessons you learned years ago? In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series , Shawn introduces one of the most transformative steps in his coaching framework...

Many men hear words like childhood trauma and immediately think: "Nothing that bad happened to me." "My parents did the best they could" "Its my fault im this way" But what if healing isn't about focusing on what happened to you? What if it's about understanding what formed in you because of it? In this episode, Shawn explores the concept of Formative Wounds a...

Many men think they need to work harder and do more good things... What they actually need is a better framework. In this episode, Shawn introduces the Red Zone and Green Zone - a practical tool that has helped countless men move from confusion and overwhelm into clarity and confidence. You'll learn why awareness always comes before change, how to identify what's happening beneath the surf...

Most men think they want porn. But what if that's not actually true? What if porn has simply become a substitute for something your heart has been searching for all along? In this episode, Shawn unpacks one of the most important concepts in recovery: the Hungry Heart. You'll discover why so many men continue returning to porn even when they genuinely want freedom, and how understanding you...

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on what they're doing. Very few stop to explore what's happening underneath it. The reality is that every behavior is connected to something deeper. Thoughts. Emotions. Longings. Fears. Stress. Heart hunger. In this episode, Shawn introduces one of the most important concepts in recovery: your inner world. You'll learn why so many men feel disconn...

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on avoiding temptation, but rarely stop to ask what their triggers may actually be revealing. In this episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn unpacks the deeper meaning behind porn triggers, emotional patterns, and why so many men stay stuck in surface-level recovery approaches. This conversation explores why temptation often isn’t random...

Most men trying to quit porn are working incredibly hard, but still feel exhausted, confused, and stuck in the same cycles. In this first episode of the Freedom Foundations Series, Shawn unpacks one of the biggest problems in modern porn recovery: Men are being taught to work harder without understanding the real issue underneath their struggle. This episode explores why so many men lose hope in r...

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on avoiding triggers. However, underneath the struggle is often something much deeper... a hungry heart that still doesn’t know how to receive healthy connection, regulation, and care. In this episode, Shawn unpacks the Green Zone and explores what it actually looks like to respond to your heart hunger instead of escaping it. This conversation div...

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on stopping the behavior… but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper: a dysregulated inner world full of suppressed emotions, negative thoughts, and unmet heart hunger. In this episode, Shawn unpacks the Red Zone and explores what it actually looks like to understand the deeper patterns driving your porn struggle. This conversation...

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often a much deeper story involving emotional wounds, unmet heart hunger, shame, confusion, and misunderstood sexuality. In this powerful conversation, Shawn sits down with Drew Boa - founder of Husband Material and author of Outgrow Porn, to unpack a radically different approach to porn recovery rooted...

Most men trying to quit porn aren’t lacking discipline. They’re overwhelmed, disconnected from their inner world, and applying solutions to a problem they don’t fully understand. In this episode, I share more about the transition happening inside my coaching and the way I help guys. I do a deeper dive on what I’ve learned after spending over 2,000 coaching hours helping men pursue freedom from por...

Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper: A hungry heart longing to be filled by God instead of numbed through escape. In this episode, Shawn and Helena unpack humility, surrender, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus meet the deeper places of your heart. Using Andrew Murray’s book Humility: The Beauty of Hol...

“I’ve tried to quit, so why do I keep going back?” In this episode, I'll break down why your struggle with porn isn’t actually about discipline or motivation — and what’s really going on underneath it. You’ll learn: why behavior isn’t the real problem what your “inner world” actually is (in a simple way) how disconnection drives the cycle and why understanding your heart hunger changes everyth...

Most men think porn recovery is mainly about discipline. Trying harder. Staying accountable. Fighting urges. But what if the real issue goes deeper than behavior? 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episode, we talk about the hungry heart . And why real freedom starts by understanding what’s actually happening underneath your struggle with porn. We unpack: where so many...

You’re making progress… so why does it feel like a lot to handle? In this episode, I'll unpack why quitting porn can feel overwhelming, even when you’re doing better. You’ll learn: why this doesn’t mean you’re failing what’s actually happening in your inner world (emotions, thoughts, longings) the difference between the Red Zone and the Green Zone (regulating and getting sober) and the simple...

Most men are journaling, but they’re still stuck. In this episode, we break down why journaling often doesn’t lead to real change, and what actually does. If you’ve ever tried to “be more aware,” write out your feelings, or stay consistent with journaling but still find yourself falling back into porn, this episode will help you see why. We walk through a different approach to journaling, one that...

Why do you keep going back to porn — even when you really want to stop? If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of trying to quit porn, relapsing, and starting over, this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on. This isn’t just a lack of discipline. And it’s not random. Your porn habits are revealing something deeper. 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episo...

I believe 100% that we must take every thought captive, renew the mind, replace lies with truth... all of that But what if we're missing the fuel to all of that happening? I am SICK of guys spending time, money and energy on things that dont work. They try so so hard to quit porn, stop masturbating, discipline themselves to stop lusting, but nothing ever seems to work UNTIL NOW In this episode...

Your longings are the compass of your heart, start focusing on the these and you will go in the right direction In this episode, Shawn will discuss: - How to effectively say NO to porn (not by willpower) - Why just saying no to porn doesn't work + what actually works - Getting to the real heart issue behind your addiction to porn - Healing trauma and resolving your wounds - Clear steps to reco...

Last week I was working 1:1 with a client to help him pinpoint some wounds from his past. The challenge? He  didn’t know what happened  to cause the wounds. He knew something was there — he has struggles today to prove it — but he just couldn’t pinpoint what happened. And honestly? I see this  all the time. Guys want to really dial in the trauma story. It makes sense… we want clarity. But let me r...

Suppressing emotions is at the heart of what drives people to escape reality - we call this fantasy... What if you could face reality with your Saviour? What if you had a grasp on your internal battles and let God fight for you? One of the greatest weapons against suppression is journalling. And one of the greatest weapons against distance from God is a heart that wants to be known This episode wa...