Secluded Thoughts

Your circle will either make you or break you. Many of us are walking around bearing the weight of relationships that are draining us just because it's our family, or "day ones," or even your significant other. But just because you created relationships with these people (or in your family's case.. you were born into it) doesn't mean that all of these relationships are meant to...

Your intuition ALWAYS warns you about people and certain situations but most of us tend to ignore it. We're often so bombarded with the expectations of other people and society that we chose to live our lives according to these external influences versus focusing on how we feel about things and what our intuition is trying to tell us. But what you ignore in the beginning will almost always be...

Many of us have convinced ourselves that "busy" is good and it means you're making progress but you're not. You might be doing a lot but feeling like you're not really accomplishing anything. That's because you're spreading yourself too thin. You have a million different ideas on what to do with your life and your next business idea etc and you're trying to do all o...

Do you know the REAL you? Most of us may feel like we're drifting in life and time is passing us by because we're not sure who we are and why we're here. We let social media tell us how we should be living our lives and when our life doesn't look like what we see on social media we feel like failures. But what if what you're envying isn't even what you like?? Have you thoug...

Once you start getting clear on what the best version of yourself looks like you start detaching from your current reality and acting in alignment - even if you don't notice it. You'll start feeling out of place in your current environment and in doing the same things you've always done. It's going to get really and uncomfortable - and even worst when the people in your circle star...

How many times have you sacrificed your peace trying to be there for people who don't want your help? How many times have you tried to steer people in the 'right' direction and they don't take your advice but you still go out of your way to try to guide them? I get it... you think it's noble... but it's not. You can't want more for someone than they want for themselves....

You were NEVER meant to compete with anyone else. And because you're constantly comparing yourself to other people you feel like you're behind in life or that you're a failure. You can't compare your chapter 2 to someone else's chapter 58. Your life is about running your OWN race. Not running with others or running your own but constantly looking at other people on their own pa...

Sis... are you dating on potential again? Or are you in your feelings because someone in your life (family/friend/etc) is not meeting your needs? Are you WAITING on someone to change for you? Let's talk about it. Choosing Me Before We by Christina Arylo - https://amzn.to/3FsPMQT Subscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughts - www.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube Website: secludedthoughts.com   Follow me...

Y'all today I have A WORD for you. People are ALWAYS going to give you "advice" and suggestions - whether it's welcomed or unsolicited but you have to learn to be able to discern what is for you and what isn't. And sometimes it's sound advice - it worked for them. But that doesn't mean it's going to work for you. Sometimes you are just called to do something differe...

One of the best things I've ever heard someone say is that your environment will always trump your willpower. If you want to get fit and live a healthy lifestyle but you keep hanging around people who eat fast food you will give in more times than not. If you want to invest your money but you keep hanging around people who carelessly spend yours you will do the same. If you want to change your...

There's so much pressure to feel like you need to have your life together by a certain age but it's just not realistic. A lot of us go down one path and think we're locked in for life because of the amount of time we invested in that career but the truth is no one is holding a gun to your head forcing you to keep doing something that's making you unhappy. YOUTUBE LINK:  https://you...

There's a reason why bad things keep happening to you. There's a reason why you feel like you don't have control over your life. There's a reason why you're miserable and say things like "if it's not one thing it's another." The reason is your perspective on accountability vs blame. If you play the blame game you develop a victim mentality which leaves your life...

Most of us aspire to become the best version of ourselves but there are some things about the process of leveling up that no one tells you about. The uncomfortable parts that really determine how bad you want to be THAT GIRL / the best version of yourself. In this episode I'll share my experience with the uncomfortable parts about becoming the best version of myself. Watch this episode on Yout...

Have you ever been in love? Or are you only familiar to a lighter version of love? Or have you been settling? Do you know what it's like to make someone your whole world? And do you know what it's like to then lose that person? In this episode, I'll tell you about my experience. Let me know about yours by leaving a comment on youtube: https://youtu.be/cMiR76LxDZo Subscribe on Youtube:...

Being strong all of the time or feeling like you have to be strong all the time can sometimes feel like you're in solitary confinement or just being isolated. You may have people around you who care but because you have all these walls up and you're scared of being vulnerable because you don't want to get hurt, you never really form genuine connections with people. You have these surfa...

In part 1 I kept it on the surface.. in part 2 we REALLY dive into what it means to feel your emotions to the fullest extent whether good or painful instead of having these half a** experiences because you're afraid of getting hurt. When you're being treated well or you're having a good moment, don't sabotage it. And when you've just experienced something painful, don't avo...

Sis.. we need to talk about how you keep suppressing your emotions. You know.. avoiding getting too happy because you're afraid to be disappointed or avoiding feeling your pain because it's too much to bear. Suppressing your emotions causes you to live a mediocre life. The question is, is it worth it? Tune in to part one to see what kind of effects this has on you. WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https:...

We often hear people talking about the fear of failure and a bunch of other fears but what about the fear of being seen? What about those of us struggling to put ourselves out there because we love staying in our comfort zone and don't want to be put on a pedestal or give up our privacy? If you struggle with the fear of being seen, let's chat. This is a safe space! LET'S STAY CONNECTED...

This will be the last episode of the season.... but is the show over? What did I learn from this podcasting experience? How has it changed me? Why am I ending the season? What's next? Tune in to find out! Subscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughts www.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube Website: secludedthoughts.com   Follow me on Instagram: @secluded.thoughts Direct Link: https://www.instagram.com/secl...

Social media creates a different kind of peer pressure. There's constant pressure to do things a certain way and look up to certain influencers. But there's value in being you. Tune in to chat about why you shouldn't let social media define you. If you like this episode make sure you stay connected: SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube W...

Chances are there's a lot of pent up resentment in your heart for many people who have hurt you and caused you a lot of pain. And you may look in the mirror and not recognize yourself because you're a different person - the pain changed you. You have walls up now to protect yourself from future pain and disappointment. But what if I told you there was a way to free your soul from all of th...

Are you holding on to trauma bonds??? Do you have people in your life that you once bonded over your struggle with… but you’re now feeling a shift in energy around them because you’ve decided to heal and move on with your life? Let’s talk about it.   LET'S STAY CONNECTED: SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube Show notes: secludedthoughts.com/trau...

How do you know if you're really lonely or just alone? You might be single or by yourself but that doesn't make you lonely. And if you are or have ever been lonely you know how much it SUCKS. So let's talk about what you can do if you're feeling lonely and how to make the best out of your alone time. LET'S STAY CONNECTED! SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL FOR VIDEO EPISODES!: www...

They say blood is thicker than water. But what do you do when that blood is suffocating you or hindering your growth? How do you deal with toxic family members whom you’re expected to stick by even when they drain you and take so much out of you? Tune in to get some tips on how to deal with these toxic relationships so you can move on and live your best life without cutting ties with your family....

We ALL struggle with self doubt and imposter syndrome - even the most successful people. But the difference is they push through and do things afraid. If you want to be successful in anything you do that requires you to step outside of your comfort zone, you’re going to have to learn how to do this too.  In this episode I’ll give you two things you can do to help overcome your self doubt and manif...