Secluded Thoughts

Once you start getting clear on what the best version of yourself looks like you start detaching from your current reality and acting in alignment - even if you don't notice it. You'll start feeling out of place in your current environment and in doing the same things you've always done. It's going to get really and uncomfortable - and even worst when the people in your circle star...

This is the hardest episode I've ever had to make - and believe me I didn't want to make it. But I felt called to. This is for all the victims of sexual abuse/assault who have been silent for far too long and suffering in silence. Leave a comment on Youtube:  https://youtu.be/t9e9IF4TjVQ TO GET CLARITY ON YOUR IDEAL LIFE: https://secludedthoughts.com/journals LET'S STAY CONNECTED! Tik...

One day it hit me out of nowhere that I couldn't have been the only person that was wronged in ALL my prior relationships.. so I started thinking.. and realized that I was more toxic than I realized. What about you? Are you guilty of these things too? Especially my fellow Pisces folks. This is a clip from Episode #3 - You might be more toxic than you think.   TO GET CLARITY ON YOUR IDEAL LIFE:...

Your circle will either make you or break you. Many of us are walking around bearing the weight of relationships that are draining us just because it's our family, or "day ones," or even your significant other. But just because you created relationships with these people (or in your family's case.. you were born into it) doesn't mean that all of these relationships are meant to...

Everyone talks about trusting God and putting God first but no one tells you what that's REALLY like. The truth is, learning to trust God is hard. And trying to put God first is even harder. This is what it has been like for me. What about you? Leave a comment on Youtube:  https://youtu.be/YVhhiDLm6FM TO GET CLARITY ON YOUR IDEAL LIFE: https://secludedthoughts.com/journals LET'S STAY CONN...

You set the bar so low to avoid disappointment but you still think it's their fault when you get hurt? You never expected much from them to begin with. Or what about all the people you tried to fix and then complained they were draining you? Orrr what about the fact that you want a genuine connection but also keep people at arms length so they can't get too close to you. What are you hopin...

If you never opened up or had any intentions of opening up to someone is it really all on them if things didn't work out? You never even gave them a chance. This is a clip from Episode 3 - You might be more toxic than you think.   TO GET CLARITY ON YOUR IDEAL LIFE: https://secludedthoughts.com/journals LET'S STAY CONNECTED! TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@secludedthoughts Youtube: https://...

There’s nothing wrong with taking a nap or binge watching your favorite show on Netflix… except when you do it when you KNOW you should be working on your goals. Let’s address this today. Leave a comment on Youtube: https://youtu.be/lHTFmrUkNb4 Tiktok mentioned: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTdtGTekW/?k=1 TO GET CLARITY ON YOUR IDEAL LIFE: https://secludedthoughts.com/journals LET'S STAY CONNECTE...

You are the way you are because of what you've been through. You created this mean alter ego and put up all these walls to prevent yourself from getting hurt again. You just want to protect yourself, right? Cool - but it doesn't give you the right to hurt others. TO GET CLARITY ON YOUR IDEAL LIFE: https://secludedthoughts.com/journals Leave a comment on Youtube:  https://youtu.be/E7i-E-zlf...

What are your excuses doing for you? Do you realize that if you had behind them and use them as crutches you will wake up a year or 10 years from now STILL miserable? Do you even have anyone holding you accountable? You're probably used to being coddled and being in an environment that allows you to make those excuses and operate at maybe 30% of your potential but this ends today. I will never...

If you don't know what your purpose is yet you probably feel lost and hopeless and like you're just drifting in life. Like "why am I here?" "what am I supposed to do with my life?" "why don't I know what I want to do?" "how can I be so ambitious but have no where to direct it?!!" Trust me, I feel you. I've been there. I've never been one of those...

Do you celebrate your wins (big or small)? Or do you just give yourself a little pat on the back and move on to your next big goal? Because chances are if you do that (like me) you're probably rarely satisfied with what you do because you don't take enough time to be grateful. Stop worrying about the future because there's a lot to be thankful for today. You can only control today. Men...

While you're working on manifesting your dream life be careful not to talk yourself out of thinking you deserve it just because you're struggling to develop your discipline, maintain better habits, or when your productivity drops because something takes a toll on your mental health. You still deserve the best. The Tiktok about Trauma drive can be found here . SHOP JOURNALS:  https://seclud...

You hear me mention God here and there but did you know I used to be a die hard atheist/agnostic when I was younger? I went about trying to figure life out on my on and decided to retire that way of life because it almost retired me. I don't consider myself a perfect or traditional Christian and I don't really care much for religion. I had to remix the traditional idea of Christianity to h...

Some people are committed to misunderstanding you and if you take the time to constantly defend and explain yourself you'll delay your blessings. Here's what I learned when one of my biggest fears with starting a podcast happened last week. SHOP JOURNALS: https://secludedthoughts.com/journals LET’S STAY CONNECTED! Subscribe on Youtube: Secluded Thoughts www.secludedthoughts.com/Youtube Tik...

We all know you can DRESS for a formal or special event but what does your everyday look say about you? Why do you feel like you should look/smell good or put effort into your appearance only when you're around others? Sis, we're not bums so let's stop acting like it. I say this with pure intentions <3 Get 15 free journal prompts: https://secludedthoughts.com/freebie SHOP JOURNALS:...

You were feeling stagnant in your life and you decided you want a change and then you managed to push passed your fears, procrastination and perfectionism and you finally started working on yourself and embarked on a new journey. But now that you've put in the work and you get to this new level you're struggling and can't really understand why... Why should it be hard and feel kind of...

This episode is dedicated to everyone who has been disappointed by people who constantly give you their word or make promises to you and never follow through. And don't worry, there's a part of this episode dedicated to letting them know how they're actually doing more wrong to THEMSELVES than to you. If you're like me and you've constantly had people agree to help you or even...

In this episode I talk about how God started isolating me and working on me in 4 areas of my life - drinking, friendships, dating, and confidence/self love. I'm sharing this for anyone who feels like they're going through a period of isolation and they're having a hard time relating to what used to be familiar. When I started going through it I didn't know who to turn to and I didn...

This episode is dedicated to everyone who has an idea to something and it's been weighing heavy on their heart - whether it's a business, creating content, etc. As a retired perfectionist myself I get it... you want to get everything right before you officially start. You THINK everything is going to go according to plan but it's actually not. Here's what's really going to happ...

The secret or missing piece to unlocking the life you desire is not in a course or book or in a new skill... it's in BECOMING the type of person that deserves that life. Most of us (including myself) spend so much time working on our strategy for achieving our goals and we never focus on looking within to see what traumas we need to heal, qualities/character traits we need to develop, and what...

After living my life based on the expectations of others and in fear of what others may think of me for soooo long I took a big risk last year and started my podcast in an attempt to be true to myself. I battled with the thought of it for 3 months before publishing my first episode and even then I tried to do it anonymously for months and didn't end up sharing it on my Instagram until 8 months...

This week my body shut down and gave me an ultimatum - it forced me to rest. I feel like I've always been preoccupied with something for most of my life. And I've often felt guilty when I try to rest - if I'm even able to. And in the process of me being forced to rest I learned some very important things. Let's talk about it. Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/vfKmCGEd-VQ SHOP JOUR...

When I realized you don't just wake up with the qualities and traits that you prayed for I was SHOCKED. I realized that the way you develop certain things that you pray for like patience, good communication skills or healthy relationships, etc, is actually not the way you probably thought. And if you don't realize it now you'll waste a lot of time in the process. So let's talk abou...

You're not always going to feel like doing something but you STILL have to do it! It's not about the thing - it's about the bad habit you'll develop that will make you slack off. In this week's episode I'm going to be transparent on how I've been struggling with consistency lately and I've been slacking off on some things I've been meaning to do simply because I...