Say The Things

Settling, we do it for our own reasons.   There are times to settle and times to soar.   Consider a few ideas of ways to change from settle to living the life you want.     Things to consider: 1.   Where are you settling? 2.   What do you want? 3.   How can you plan to succeed?       Episode Quotes:   "To my fellow women:   Please don't settle.   Not in a job you hate, not in a town where you don'...

Ted Lasso is the topic of today's episode.   My love of the writing, cast members and dynamics is huge.   One outstanding trait of the characters, they all say the things.   They say the things and   listen to one another.   They hear each other and it's wonderfully uplifting thing to observe; even if it is fiction.   The interaction and communication is attainable in our lives.     Things to cons...

  We say an average of 10,000 words every day, yet there are many things left unsaid.   What happens when we quit sharing with those closest to us words that matter?   We sweep what matters under the rug.   Listen to things I've swept under the rug, suggestions for approaching how to bring to light words we hid and the cost of sweeping the words of our heart under the rug.     Resources and links:...

A few months ago while talking to my brother he said the phrase "Everyone thinks they are better than the stats on the back of their player card."   We are quick to judge others and give ourselves a break in this area.   Self-awareness can be a tricky beast.   How would your behavior change if your actual performance in relationships was reported like the statistics of a baseball player?     Focus...

Ever felt lonely and wanted a way out?   Lonely for me was a lack of connection, feeling unheard and unseen.   Listen in for a brief explanation of loneliness.   Learn a few ways we can use active listening to combat loneliness.     Resources & Quotes https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ "I promise you, there is something worse out there than being sad—and that is being alone and being s...

We want to be seen, heard and understood, yet it is difficult to let or put our guard down.   We must learn to live a life with people that's unguarded.   Note: Not everyone is safe to be unguarded, employ healthy boundaries.     Three Things I've Learned and Practiced: 1. Give what you want in relationships. 2. Have hard conversations (yes, say the things) 3. Accept help   Episode Quotes and Link...

Are you tired of being tired?   Today I discuss the difference between sleep and rest.   Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD and author of Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Renew Your Sanity, provided me much needed insight to move beyond exhaustion.   IN THIS EPISODE: Discover the 7 Types of Rest Ways to rest to overcome exhaustion and fatigue Tips to implement rest into your life https://w...

Research shows 80% of our thoughts are negative.   How does the cycle of negative thoughts keep us held in a place of being unaware of the beauty of life around us?   There will always be storms in life, do we focus more on the force of the storm, the death grip on our umbrella or do we take time from doing and struggling to see beyond the umbrella, the beauty that exists because of the storm?   C...

Decisions are all around us.   Do we make the decisions we need to make as we need to make them allowing life to unfold or do charge ahead not fully aware of our needs and direction?   Consider taking a breath, softening, allowing space for imperfection.   Connect with me @NicoleHagman_writes on IG "It only take a reminder to breathe, a moment to be still, and just like that, something in me settl...

Validation is the act of helping someone feel heard and understood. It's a powerful relationship tool, we all need.   Validation can boost joy and excitement, end arguments and conflict, build connection, calm fears, squelched concerns.   Listen to get an understand of what validation is, isn't , what is invalidation.   Let's say the things that build healthier, stronger relationships.   Episode Q...

Hope, a universal term with two meanings.   How do we frequently use 'hope'?   Listen as we discuss reason for hope, types of hope, and 7 downsides of hope and what hope needs.     Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/   Episode Links & Resources: "Those who know how close the connection is between the state of mind of a man—his courage and hope, or lack of t...

Show Notes: When people in our lives are struggling, we offer advice to help, or we have walked similar paths and share what worked for us. We love to give advice and hate to receive it.   What is the disconnect? How do we making offering advice advantageous to our relationships?   Let's learn to say the things in ways people accept and deepen relationships. 4 Types of Advice Reasons to no longer...

How often do you find yourself sharing intimate details with seemingly perfect strangers?   Someone to Talk To by Mario Luis Small asks who we trust with our most personal information.   Three reasons we may talk to strangers over those closest to us:   1.   Closest relationships can be most complex 2.   Seeking shared experience 3.   We need to talk - now.     Why trusting strangers feels comfort...

We are told 'do not be afraid'.  We know most fear is negative and over exaggerated.   What can we learn about fear to honor it, assess it to have a healthy understanding and relationship with it?     Understanding how fear works in our mind and body and strategies to have a healthy relationship with fear.  Use fear to propel us into living not postpone our life.   Quotes from this episode: "Never...

Anger is an emotion we have all sensed, our expression of it differs.   Do you erupt or stuff?   How can anger be an ally.       "I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name was grief."   ~unknown   " You can't handle the truth! Son, we live in a world that has walls, and those walls have to be guarded by men with guns. Who's gonna do it? You?" A Few Good Men   https://www.sci...

Our face expresses emotions we are often reluctant to share.   Scientific research is proving unprocessed emotions are the root of almost all physical illness.   There are two type of thinking or processing;   Internal or External.   Determine your processing style, ways to communicate to loved ones your processing needs and ways to be proactive to process your emotions best way for you.     Find...

We communicate every day.   Are we strengthening our relationships or hurting them?   Learn: 4 Types of Communicators Characteristics of Unhealthy Communication   Characteristics of Healthy Communication   We often don't know what healthy is until we know what it isn't.     Episode Quotes and Resources:   "A chain is as strong as the weakest link" ` unknown     "a thread usually breaks from where...

Nature is waking up, spring is here.   What in your heart, mind, soul, spirit is awakening?   Today I provide 9 ways to know you are waking up.     Episode quotes & resources: 'The daily practice of letting go of who we thing we are supposed to be and embracing who we are.   Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect.   ~Brené Brown   "Radical consistency comes from the fo...

Spring is often 'everyone's favorite season'.   What can we learn from transforming from rest to new growth?   Today's episode we will discuss what spring offers and the stages of transformation.    Episode quotes and resources: "If ever you were to admire the spring-blooming trees; May you see much more than flowers and rustling green leaves. May you start to see the history.   Roots tied deep-in...

Stories exist in every culture through all of time.   What is your story?   What is your comfort level with sharing your story?   Listen as we find out why our stories are important, why we should share ours, and what stops us from sharing.   Your story matters, reach out to me on Instagram (link below) if you want help or want to share your story with me.   https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_...

Episode Quotes: "To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." ~ Oscar Wilde   "There are two types of relationships, imperfect and toxic." ~my wise brother   "We are often told to love people unconditionally, but sometimes we need to get rid of people unconditionally." ~unknown   "You've got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, know when to run."  ...

It's the time of year we make time to celebrate love.   We freely speak of all the things we love, it is really love?   Are we being clear with the people in our life what we mean when we say we "love" something or someone?     Random References:     https://www.fluentin3months.com/words-for-love/   "Looking for love in all the wrong places, no fine girls just ugly faces." Young MC   Night at the...

We live in a culture of hustle and accomplish, the way we can do all the things is to multitask.   What is multitasking?   What is the harm in doing multiple things at once, and what is the alternative?     Connect with me during the week on Instagram: @NicoleHagman_Writes   Episode Resources:     "What looks like multitasking is really switching back and forth between multiple tasks, which reduce...

Do you have people in your life that approach tasks, work, chores completely different from you? Some people seem to get lost in the process, process people and others are happy when the task is complete, end-result people .   Which one are you?   What's the difference?   What are some pros and cons of both?     Connect with me during the week on Instagram @NicoleHagman_Writes

Ever start the day full of yes, hope, activities, dreams and creativity and then barely make it though the day not accomplishing a fraction of what you hoped?   Are you a victim of decision fatigue and don't even know it's existence?   This episode discusses decision fatigue, how to recognize it, and ways to overcome it.   Parole Story based on William Palmer in California.     Resources mentioned...