Say The Things

How do we see ourselves, do we know the adjectives we use to describe ourselves or do they change with our mood?   Self-concept matters.   We discuss three aspects of self-concept, how the way we see ourselves is influenced and some ways to determine yours if it's been a while since you've thought about who you are.   Quotes: "Each of us, whether we realize it or not, has a self-image.   We see ou...

2021 as arrived.   2020 gave us a lot, was scarcity mindset one of the take-aways?   Let's dare to dream of what more looks like, find space and time for living and loving a life we want.   Shift from scarcity to abundance.     Ralph Waldo Emerson quotes: "We become what we think about all day long."     "What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside o...

"Silence is a virtue".   What does that mean?   Silence feels like tortue, what is the value?   Listen and explore some of the benefits silence has for our brain and stress levels.     The Weaver and the Loom.   Go In and In:   Poems From the Heart of Yoga by Danna Faulds   Brain, Structure and Function - 2013 significance of silence on mice.     Marianne Williamson says "When we answer the call o...

2020 has highlighted the need to celebrate and be intentional with acknowledging accomplishing milestones big and small.  Some celebrate the small things with ease, others dive into holidays with festive hearts.  Where do you fall?  Who in your life lives and celebrates with ease?   Quotes: "When we give ourself treats, we feel energized and cared for; and contented, which boosts our self-command...

We are nearing the first day of winter, a season that's fairly polarizing.  What is the purpose of winter, what can we learn from nature?  If you practice yoga, what is the purpose of savasana?  How do we feel about rest and restoration, not for others and not sometimes; but for ourselves, regularly.  Join me as we discuss the purpose of rest and surrender in our lives, do we really understand it?...

Life is full of opportunity to withdraw or engage.   Are your responses intentional or reflexive on the effort you put into your commitments and relationships? Learn to be curious on what makes us want to disengage in life, activities, responsibilities and relationships.   "The pose begins when you want to get out of it."   ~Baron Baptiste Carol Dweck: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success "Steve...

Self-compassion, showing kindness to oneself.   How are we doing with this?   My inner critic has quieted, but there's little kindness and I watch the lack of softness for myself play out in front of me.   Today, we discuss self-compassion and ways to add it to our day.   Research based off Dr. Kristin Neff -   self-compassion.org   https://self-compassion.org/the-three-elements-of-self-compassion...

There are so many benefits to gratitude.   Today we discuss research from Robert Emmons about myths of gratitude.   The benefit of developing a practice of gratitude and 8 ways to be more grateful.   https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/profile/Robert_Emmons Intro story is a Chinese Proverb alerting us to be cautious labeling events blessing or a curse.   What seems like a blessing may be a curse.   W...

Song : Ants Marching - Dave Matthews   Quotes: "It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently."   Tony Robbins   "By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail." ~Benjamin Franklin   "The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule but to schedule your priorities." ― Stephen Covey   "Successful people are simply those with successful habits." Brian...

Fear keeps us from sharing our truth.   Learn three areas of life to share our emotions.  Practice mindfulness and emotional intelligence to share our feelings. Emotional word list for adults and kids: https://tomdrummond.com/app/uploads/2019/11/Emotion-Feelings.pdf https://hope4hurtingkids.com/emotions/understanding-emotions/emotions-chart/?subscribe=error#blog_subscription-2 Indigo Girls, Closer...

Emotional intelligence is the ability to connect easily with emotions and make informed decisions to build a meaningful life.   Learn 5 components of EQ and 7 characteristics of emotionally intelligent adults.   https://www.6seconds.org/2017/05/15/emotion-feeling-mood/ http://www.danielgoleman.info/purchase/ O.A.R. Shattered https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qa5Mawz92xU

Everyone is busy, let's call it what it is.   Join in and learn tips to be intentional with our time to eliminate revenge bedtime procrastination.   Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ Dog tastebuds - akc.org Mary Carver - https://marycarver.com Bedtime procrastination study https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2014.00611/full

A week in Colorado initiated curiosity of how crows can teach us about intentional communication.   What are three types of communication to focus on to communicate clearly to lessen arguments?   Men are Like Waffles -- Women are Like Spaghetti (Bill & Pam Farrel) "People who can't communication think everything is an argument."   ~unknown Quoted lyrics from Vanilla Ice and Snoop Dogg

Answer three question to be confident and intentional requesting help.  Simple ways to offer your best help. References:   Helen Keller said "alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much." Definitions from M-w.com Pretty Woman The Movie Help!   The Beatles

Who do we let see 'beneath our beautiful'?   Look at the masks we wear, when did we first put them on.   Learn to set them aside for authentic relationships and accept our vulnerability is our superpower.   Labrynth - Beneath Your Beautiful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqIxCtEveG8 Brene Brown Daring Greatly: https://brenebrown.com Excerpt from Chapter 2: Debunking Vulnerability Myths Myth #1: V...

Not every day does a favorite dance song double as great advice for living.   Who would have thought I would be using lyrics from Ice Ice Baby as inspiration for a podcast?   One of the lyrics I say regularly and didn't put in here is 'quick to the point, to the point no fakin', which I use as motivation when a story goes rogue.   You are welcome for the bonus material.   http://www.vanillaice.com...

One of the things I thought would get easier with age: friendship.   This episode is an introduction to friendship series.   What are the kinds of information we share, the stages of friendship and how to move through the stages to develop meaningful friendships.   References: Tyler Knott Gregson @tylerknott Brené Brown @brenebrown   Want to connect with me on social media? Find me on IG @NicoleHa...

We are of nature, there are rhythms and cadences nature show us and we can learn as we become aware. Learn to let go   Embrace the darkness Conserve your energy Be willing to fall Embrace transitions "Letting go does not mean you stop caring.   It means you stop trying to force others to." Mandy Hale "Don't let go too soon, but don't hang on too long."   Mitch Albom - Tuesdays with Morrie

Apologies can be difficult, can we make it easier?    Join me as we uncover apology confusion and why some people 'do it wrong.  Learn the anatomy of an apology to say the things and mend relationships.  

Creating space for words to be said, thoughts and emotions to be processed for ourselves and our friends takes minimal effort with many benefits.   Listen in as we define holding space, discuss ways to hold space and a few examples of it playing out.   Be aware of our actions and words, understand how you can easily help bring healing or hurt.  

Shauna Niequist's Bittersweet , introduced the foreign concept has now become a way of life.   My "Things I Don't Do List" has equal value to my "To Do List" and goals and dreams; all work together.   Is choosing to walk away the same as quitting?   Listen in, make intentional choices, say the things to make space in your life.  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHx4BlF6V2o  Matt Nathanson: Come On Get Higher https://www.5lovelanguages.com - 5 Love Languages https://www.16personalities.com - Personality Test http://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ - Highly Sensitive   Enneagram - there are a lot of tests out there - I read a few books and descriptions and worked my way to my number.   https://howwelove.com/love-styl...

A look at Forgiveness - what it is, what it isn't and how we choose to forgive.

Intentionally discover how to say the things to deepen relationships, further connectivity, and to be true to yourself.