Say The Things

Does it feel like no one hears what you are saying and your words are not initiating change? Listen to the 7 steps to improve your persuasive communication.   Quotes and Links "If you can't convince them, confuse them."   Harry S. Truman   "You have to get around and listen to what people are saying.   Dewey learned that in '48.   He didn't listen, he just talked - and he didn't say much either."...

We have all know the phrases "the power of yes" or "the power of no" and we often respond to invitations with "maybe".   Listen in as I discuss why use use "maybe" and how we can be clearer in our communication and still allow the flexibility of "maybe".       "There is no communication that is so simple that it cannot be misunderstood."― Luigina Sgarro

Allowing life to happen isn't something that comes naturally to many of us.   Today I discuss what we can control and four questions to ask ourselves to let go of our should, would, coulds and allow life to unfold.     Episode Resources and Links Allow by Danna Faulds https://www.shaunaniequist.com https://tinybuddha.com/blog/4-questions-let-go-allow-life-to-happen/

We seem to be a lot of angry people.  Is anger what we are actually feeling or are we hiding behind other emotions and expressing anger because it's safe?  Today we discuss what may be behind our anger and ways to discuss these emotions with people we have relationships with.  

This episode kicks off Season 2.   Words are a powerful force.  Many of us have little to no training in communication and our relationships show it.   Let's spend intentional time this year and consider how we can use our words to be a powerful positive force in our lives and the lives of the people we know and love. Episode Quotes and Links:   https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ "Word...

This week marks the two year anniversary of this podcast.   I share with you what's been happening in my life behind the scenes over the last two years.     Episode links and resources "Sometimes you plodded through life with nothing changing from one month to the next no matter how much you yearned for a revolution to erupt beneath your feet. And sometimes your whole world imploded and rebuilt it...

We want to be seen, heard and understood.   Are we displaying information thinking we are being seen and really only being noticed?   Today is a quick rant about the difference between being noticed and being seen.     Episode Links and Quotes https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ "Don't confused getting noticed with being seen." Tanya Geisler

We hve more access to the public cries for what is wrong in the world, in our country.   Advocate is a positive term, many advocates I've witnessed are not.   Listen to today's episode for a few ways to become a positive advocate for the things that move you.   Episode Quotes and Links "No voice is too soft when that voice speaks for others." Janna Cachola   https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_...

We often being hard to hear or say conversations with "I'm not trying to be" and then are whatever we just said; whether it be rude, offensive, mean.  Offering criticism isn't easy.  Listen to a few ways to offer criticism in a positive way.  Episode Quotes and Links: "The prase 'don't take this the wrong way' has a zero percent success rate." May 26, 2022 Life Hacks Calendar https://www.instagram...

Not every behavior needs a diagnosis or title from the DSM-5. I see and hear people calling every selfish person a narcissist.   Join me today as I discuss a few differences between selfish, self-centered, self-absorbed and narcissists.   Episode links and resources: https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ "There's a reason narcissist don't learn from mistakes and that's because they never...

Let's be honest… If I'm being honest… I'm not lying… Do you hear or speak those words and question the honesty of the other words of the conversation?   Join me for a quick 'just for thought' episode about why we and others use the phrases "Let's be honest, If I'm being honest…" Episode links:  https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ Let Me Clear My Throat https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-J...

We have been discussing ways to implement more of you, your heart and mind into your relationships buy finding and using your voice.   Today is a quick review.   Episode Quotes, Links and Resources: https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ "The only way to find your voice is to use it." ~Jen Mueller Top Gun: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jeK7NQnulbM Pretty Woman (not the exact one I wanted...

We often tell stories of the words we say, what about the things we don't say?   Difficult conversations are difficult.   Listen to some strategies to help you find and use your voice in difficult spaces.   Episode Links & Resources   https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ "All the things we don't say, all the words we swallow, and it makes nothing but trouble." Anna Quindlen     Difficult...

How do we speak up about pain and hurt from the past?   Listen in to four ways to take an active role in handling past hurts in your relationships.     Episode links and resources: https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ https://safire-rose.com/books-and-media/poetry/she-let-go https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WyF8RHM1OCg https://www.instagram.com/p/CcTfp_tvcg_/

Have you ever found yourself caught in conflict and can't find a resolution?   This episode gives you insight into what percentage of our arguments have actual solutions.   You learn about the three types of problems and I provide a new way to approach conflict to turn it into conversation.   https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/   Episode Quotes and Resources:     "The way you reach peop...

A cover song is a new recording or performance of a song by an artist other then the original composer.   There are no original thoughts and words.   This episode is about ways to use other people's words that have met you where you are to gain confidence in finding and using your voice.   https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/   Episode Quotes and Resources: "Cover versions, that's my for...

We all give and receive apologies.  We know bad ones, do we know how to offer good ones?   Today I discuss   six components of a successful apology words that ruins an apology how to apologize for past mistakes. Episode Quotes and Resources:   Never forget the nine most important words of any family -   I love you. You are beautiful. Please forgive me. ~H. Jackson Brown Jr.   Never ruin an apology...

Silence has it's place in our relationships.   What about the silence that is more like a cancer growing and distancing us from intimacy in our relationships.   Listen how we can apply the lyrics written by Paul Simon to our lives each and every day.   Have the courage to disturb the sound of silence.         https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/   Sound of Silence: Simon & Garfunkel http...

Today, I discuss the pros and cons of conformity, ways to be aware of it in your life.   Does conforming have a positive or negative effect on us?   Episode Quote & Resources: https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ "The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.   If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened.   But no price is to...

The words we speak, thoughts and reactions we   have; they come from what lives in our heart.   When we have anger, bitterness, judgement, resentment, comparison and envy in our heart it leaks into our words and out into the world.   The world has enough of that, let's learn to people that Say The Things from a place of light, love, forgiveness and curiosity instead.   Listen for ways to heal your...

We are a few weeks into the new year.   How open are we to today's experiences and opportunities if we are burdened with the trials of yesterday or last year? Listen to become aware of how we carry yesterday into today.   Episode Quotes, Links and Resources:  "Why do you stay in a prison when the door is so wide open?"   ~ Rumi Right Now: Van Halen   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLQawHJ38Sc New...

There are different approaches to reflecting on the past.   Today's episode shares a few perspectives and 5 things I learned in 2021.    https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/   Episode Quotes:   "Never look back unless you're planning to go that way." Henry David Thoreau   "I'll look back on this and smile because it was life and I decided to live it." ~Unknown   "There's a voice that doe...

Resistance, we may avoid it; it feels like a struggle.  What if we have it wrong?  Resistance is a necessary stage in personal growth.  Without it, we don't achieve true acceptance.   Listen in as I offer some insight to what I've discovered about resistance that may help us get more comfortable and propel us forward in personal growth. Show Links, References and Quotes:  "Resistance to reality is...

Accepting and receiving help can be uncomfortable.   Today's episode covers six reasons accepting help is hard and offers a few suggestions on how to get comfortable receiving help.     Thank you, Lindsay for this message and thank you for loving and caring for me like you do.     Links and Quotes:   https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/   "In the end, though, maybe we must all give up tr...