Say The Things

In this special 100th episode, you are invited to an intimate glimpse into my life, sharing personal reflections on the delicate balance between comfort and growth. I share  challenges of managing physical and emoational parts of life, marriage and parenting. We end with musings on finding equilibrium and stability amidst life's uncertainties, this episode is a gentle reminder of the intricate con...

Welcome to "Say the Things." In this episode, we discuss the art of listening, exploring its various forms and how they enhance our connections. We uncover the benefits of improved listening and emphasize the importance of persisting in this practice, even when it feels one-sided. Join me as we unravel the power of attentive and empathetic listening, fostering deeper understanding and meaningful e...

In today's episode, we're exploring the various types of relational communication that play a pivotal role in building meaningful connections. Whether you're in a long-term relationship or seeking to enrich your friendships, understanding these communication styles will empower you to strengthen your bonds. Join me on this journey to unlock the secrets of effective communication. https://www.insta...

Welcome to another episode of Say The Things, dedicated to helping you navigate the complexities of connection and communication. In this episode, we discuss some psychology behind why we sometimes hold back in expressing our thoughts and feelings. Understanding these psychological factors is the first step toward more authentic and enriching relationships. Join us as we discuss psychological reas...

In this podcast episode, we quietly celebrate the fourth anniversary of our journey, despite missing the actual date due to a commitment to our summer series. The podcast originated from a place of loneliness, seeking more in life than the confines of home. Life, as discussed, isn't just black and white but embraces the "and" philosophy, acknowledging the coexistence of conflicting emotions. The u...

In the final episode of our series on relational communication, we discuss the vital role of nonverbal communication, which accounts for 70 to 90 percent of our messages. Let's be self-aware of our body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice during conversations.   The episode also encourages observing both positive and negative nonverbal cues in others to enhance interpersonal relationsh...

Welcome back to "Say the Things." In this installment of our summer series on the top 7 issues in Relational Communication, we're delving into the topic of being clear and concise with our words. Our communication has a profound impact on the quality of our relationships and interactions. Join us as we explore the importance of clarity, how to achieve it, and the challenges that can arise when our...

Creating, implementing and maintaining boundaries is only part of successful boundaries.   Don't skip the step of communication.   Listen to when and how to communication boundaries.   Episode Quotes and Links "Stop asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it."   ~Anonymous "Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have." ~Anonymous "Give yourse...

Making assumptions is one of the top seven disconnects in our interpersonal relationships.   Listen for a few tips and tricks to keep you from making assumptions and helping communication in your relationships become clearer.     Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ "When you speak openly and honestly, you won't have to make assumptions.   The day you stop making assu...

Resolving conflict varies in each situation with each person.   Listen for skills to implement into your life to help resolution become the norm. Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ "To solve a problem you have to recognize your share of the responsibility.   If you only blame the others, you will never solve it."   Unknown

Expressing emotions in productive ways can be tricky.   Listen to an easy 4 step process to keep communication in your most important relationships healthy.  Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ "Unexpressed emotions will never die.   They are buried alive and will come forth later, in uglier ways." Sigmund Freud Emotions Charts:  https://www.amazon.com/Laminated-Feel...

This summer we are covering the Top Seven Issues in Relational Communication.   Today we discuss active listening, listening to understand.   Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ "The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood.   The best way to understand people is to listen to them." Ralph G Nichols Quotes from Apple TV Ted Lasso

Summer allows more time with family and friends than most other time of the year.   This summer we will cover the Top Seven Issues in Relational Communication.   Each episode will cover one of the seven issues.   Episode quotes and links: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ "You don't have to cheat to lose someone.   You can lose someone from a lack of communication, attention and disrespect....

Last episode we learned about Invisible Labor. Today we discuss how and when to communicate areas you want or need help and reasons your conversation may not be met with ease.   Everyone has invisible labor, most of what happens inside the home is taken by the females.   Have the conversations, improve the balance of work inside the home.   https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/

Invisible work, the thinking that goes into managing work, family and households.   This phrase entered my world a few months ago and I've been doing some research to bring this to you.   This is part one of a two - maybe three part series.   Today we define and start understand what invisible labor is.   Next episode we will discuss how to communicate invisible labor to those in our house.   Epis...

We have spoken words that have cost us. Have you ever considered the cost of silence?   The cost of not sharing the important, necessary words of your heart to those around you?   Listen for phrases you can make your own to open the door to conversation you have held silent.   Episode Links and Quotes Freedom is not free - from The Korean War Veterans Memorial, Washington DC https://www.instagram....

To show up and be present for others is one of the greatest gifts we can offer.   Showing up for ourself is equally important.   Learn to implement a few easy ways to build a more trusting relationship with yourself.   Episode Links and Quotes: https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ " Maybe life isn't about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it's about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it....

I am here- a few weeks ago I was listening to a podcast (I cannot recall which one) and the guest was sharing that's the way a friend greets others.  I've lets those words roll around in my mind and spent time practicing that concept since I heard it.  What does it mean and how can we say "I am here" or our own version of it to welcome ourselves and those we are with into present, real conversatio...

Grief is a part of all life, we cannot escape it.   Communicating to people we love in their grief is challenging. We want our words to bring comfort, we need to get comfortable being uncomfortable and show up with love and words that connect or maybe silence is the answer.  Listen for ideas of what to say and what not to in these uncomfortable moments.     Episode Quotes and Links:   https://www....

"The Story" by Brandi Carlisle inspired this episode.  We have read or heard stories that helped us, guided us, changed us.  The story helps when it's shared.  Your story doesn't mean anything if you don't share it.  Go share your story.   Episode Quotes and Links "Your life is your story.   Write well.   Edit often." Unknown "Share your story with someone.   You never know how one sentence of you...

Music is said to be the window to our soul. Listen to three ways we can bring music into commuication whether it be a new acquaintace, a relationship that's stagnant or to deepen and connect in new ways.   Episode Quotes and Links https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/ "Music doesn't get in. Music is already in. Music simply uncovers what is there, makes you feel emotions that you didn't necessa...

Relationships are built on communication.   We are creatures of habit and our conversations tend to follow habits formed by our thoughts.   We can begin to have automatic responses to conversations or topics that create cycles of confrontation.   Learn the fundamentals of  Cognitive Restructuring or Cognitive Reframing as a 4-step process of mindfulness to break the cycle for intentional, producti...

New Year, New You is a phrase that's often said to begin the year, or we set resolutions or choose a word or phrase of the year to focus on to improve during the year.  Do we consider setting communcation goals?  Is there a relationship you would like to see communication improve this year?  Listen for ideas to improve relational communication in 2023.   https://www.instagram.com/nicole_bachle/  

2022 is wrapping up.   Listen to three questions to consider when reflecting on 2022 and to set intentions for 2023.   Wishing you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.     Episode Quote & Link: Look Back by Mar Healy http://marhealy.com/2019/03/09/look-back/

Trust is essential in healthy relationships.   Today we discuss ways to allow relationships that have been damaged by lies to heal when we learn to trust.   Note: This is about trusting healthy people again, there are people that are not trustworthy or healthy. Episode Quotes and Resources: "There is a surrendering to your story and then a knowing that you don't have to stay in your story." Colett...