Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals® from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor "It Happened To Me" is a feature of the Save Your Sanity podcast. Guests tell their real life stories of life with Hijackals. Whether they loved on, lived with one, left one, or were raised by one, you'll relate to their experiences, and hear how they found ways to move positively...

Today's Save Your Sanity Podcast: Help for Handling Hijackals® from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor Have you ever wanted to stay home from work to avoid someone , or to not have to deal with conflict s? You are not alone. Stress in the workplace caused by unresolved conflicts takes a large toll on everyone. It's exhausting. Dr. Shaler discusses conflict in the workplace , and why...

Boundaries are what keep us feeling safe, secure, protected, in control of our own lives. When you give up your boundaries because you are in relationship with a person who does not respect them, you leave yourself open to a world of potential pain. In this segment, we discuss how and why we end up giving up boundaries, and what we need to do to reset and STICK to them. Want to work with Dr. Shale...

Sometimes, you get so used to being talked at, and talked to, in disrespectful, dismissive ways that you don't actually think of it as verbal abuse. Then, you tend to think that either it's just the way some folks are, or, you somehow deserve it. No. No one deserves verbal abuse . So, let's look at what verbal abuse really is , and how it sounds. I share some startling statistics about verbal abus...

A member asked about what to do because her mother was constantly finding fault with her. #Hijackal parents constantly either find fault or turn a blind eye to fault. One or the other, usually. I offer some insights on how to view this fault-finding, and how to respond. Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \  I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND W...

I'm asked so many times, "Am I going against spiritual principles to keep myself safe from my abusive spouse?" So, I wanted to answer that in an episode for you, to share my thoughts on this matter. Some people are paralyzed by their indecision about staying or going . They have an eternal argument in their minds about "what's right" and how to reconcile their spiritual beliefs with the abuse they...

Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \  I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT! If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships, join my Support Circle now. Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program +...

LOVE-BOMBING! When a #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult, toxic person--wants to impress you and win you over, s/he will use love-bombing. That means s/he will be everything you ever wanted and more. Promise everything you ever wanted and more. Love-bombing is too good to be true. And, you know what they say about things that are too good to be true? They aren't! Learn to recognize the signs of lo...

Big question. Knowing the answer takes a whole lot of thinking…unless, of course, there is physical or sexual abuse. Then, there is only one answer: GO. Go to the police. Go to the court. Go to any lengths you need to protect yourself and your children. GO. For most of you, though, going or staying is not black or white. It’s a whole lot of grey that travels from close to white some days, to too c...

Host, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, discusses boundaries, narcissism, entitlement and sexual predators with Christine Baumgartner, owner of ThePerfectCatch.com Harvey Weinstein might have thought that power made abuse OK. Maybe, he's a sociopath. Certainly, he has narcissistic tendencies. A diagnosis doesn't matter. We know he is an abuser. How does this kind of systemic abuse , verbal abus e, emotional a...

Questions relating to: Filed for divorce - now what? My Hijackal partner is now, magically, doing everything right, everything that I'd begged for for year. Can I trust these changes?? Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \ CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Website:  ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook:  RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter:  Twitter.com/Rh...

Sometimes you're speaking up about something you believe in. Other times, you want to fight and use a topic to make it happen. Can you tell the difference? Don't be "that person" who is always gunning for an argument, or purposefully trying to get a rise out of their partner. That is bad behavior and totally un-loving. Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \ CONNE...

High-conflict people - there's always drama but you can't pin it down. I talk about my term, #Hijackals, for these relentlessly difficult people , these toxic people . It's important to be able to recognize them as soon as possible, whether you've been with one for ten years or ten hours! Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help and learn the other signs that signal a high-conflict person....

Anger is a challenging feeling AND something you can manage. In ANY relationship, it's super-important to be capable of recognizing and managing your anger while still acknowledging your feelings and getting to the real source of the issue. Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Website:  ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook:&nbsp...

Blame can be destructive to your relationships. If you find yourself blaming your partner, listen to this podcast episode with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler. Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \ CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Website:  ForRelationshipHelp.com Facebook:  RelationshipHelpDoctor Twitter:  Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler LinkedIn:  LinkedIn...

Listeners can submit questions. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD answers many common questions in these videos. Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 -------------------------------------------------------------- I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT! L earn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationshi...

SAVE YOUR SANITY: HELP FOR HANDLING HIJACKALS® with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor IS NAME-CALLING EVER OK? EVEN IN AN ARGUMENT? You lose it. You're angry, out of control, and maybe, even a little out of your mind. You want to win. You want to be heard. You want to be acknowledged. You want to feel validated. So, some words you hate hearing from others come bellowing out of you...

Anger can impact your relationships in negative ways. Every now and again, everyone experiences anger, but it's what you do with it that matters. You can express anger in ways that are healthy . Or, you can express anger in ways that are damaging to all concerne d. In this short episode, I am talking about a few key ways to think about anger and aggression...and, make better choices! Want to work...

My friend and colleague, Robert Imbriale , interviewed me recently about what it means to be trapped by a #Hijacka l. We had a great talk as Robert had some fundamental questions, and insightful questions, about being in a relationship with a #narcissis t or someone with narcissistic tendencies, and behaviors. Are you feeling always blamed ? Are your thoughts feelings dismissed? You may be dealing...

Feel like something is lurking in the subtext of your communication with your partner? Is a breakup on the horizon? Is it appropriate? Is it your choice? Or, is a #Hijackal always using breaking up as a threat to keep you in uncertainty ? Decipher the cues and listen to this week's episode of Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Want...

Did you do something that you were blamed for? Did someone else do something you were blamed for? Are you just blamed for everything going wrong in a #Hijackal's universe? Big differences! Learn some skills for dealing with blame that's aimed at you incorrectly. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler discusses the blame game. Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 -------------------...