Savage Marriage with Phil and Priscilla

We all have a narrative of our sexuality, and it's been impacted severely by the culture we live in. As a result, we are all somewhat sexually broken. Join us on this episode as we discuss how to reclaim God's design for your sexuality. It's a delicate subject, because underneath this question for many couples is pain and fear, and no one wants to go through hurt or disappointment agai...

One of the most frequent questions we receive is "Will I ever be able to trust him/her again?" It's a delicate subject, because underneath this question is pain and fear, and no one wants to go through the trauma of betrayal, hurt or disappointments again. Of course, we had to also deal with this question in our marriage, and in this episode we share with you what God showed us. So,...

During a conference, we once asked everyone how many people had same-sex attraction as some part of their history, either from childhood, the porn they watched or a relationship they pursued. Over half the people raised their hand. Today, 22% of Gen Z identify as LGBTQ. Even with this level of cultural prevalence, many Christians struggle with how they view people with same-sex attraction, and wha...

When we first heard Niki Speed's story, it was instrumental in helping us believe nothing was too big for God, including same-sex attraction and the trauma of our past. Today, we're so pleased to introduce Niki Speed, who is married to Paul Speed, the Founder of Whatever it Takes Ministries. We've served with them for many years at weekend intensives with Whatever it Takes Ministries,...

We've found that most marriages are chasing intimacy but looking in all the wrong places. We sure did, and it never created a relationship that met the deep needs of our souls. What we eventually discovered was that spiritual intimacy needed to be the foundation of our relationship, and that spiritual intimacy would lead to emotional intimacy. These two things, working together, then created a fou...

After experiencing God's healing in our marriage, we wanted to share with others what He had done for us. It gave purpose to our pain, and every opportunity we had to share reminded us of what God had done. But this meant that we had to sometimes share very personal details of our journey. As we did this, we gave other couples "permission" to transparently share their stories. This m...

After going through the pain of betrayal, many couples struggle with whether, when and how to reengage again sexually. In fact, some studies suggest that 20-30% of all couples live in a sexless marriage. Is it really possible to create new feelings of sexual desire and intimacy after suffering the pain of betrayal? Or to create sexual intimacy that never existed before? Join us as we read Chapter...

In Part 1 of Rey and Jane's story, Jane described how she forgave Rey for a 10-year relationship he had with her sister. Rey described how it was so hard for him to accept Jane's forgiveness, believing that forgiveness was only for people who were better than him. Today, you're going to hear how this path of mercy, grace and forgiveness took them toward becoming battle partners. It&#39...

We first heard Rey and Jane Alvarenga's story 7 years ago, and it was instrumental in helping us believe that God could rescue our marriage, no matter how big the pit was that we had dug. Today, we're so pleased to introduce Rey and Jane to you. We've served with them for the past five years at weekend intensives with Whatever it Takes Ministries, and they are real, raw and share trans...

When you hear the word "temptation", what feelings do you have? Sin? Failure? Frustration? All these feelings are normal, because few people know how to escape from temptation. Join us for this podcast, where we share with you the game changers in our marriage that have allowed us to understand that temptation is a testing, but doesn't need to necessarily lead to sin. If temptation h...

After going through the pain of betrayal, many couples settle for just getting back to a functional marriage, but not one that's emotionally intimate. Is it really possible to recover feelings of emotional connection? Or to create emotional intimacy that never existed before? Join us as we read Chapter 10 of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage, Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction ....

We'd always believed that emotional and sexual intimacy were the keys to a great marriage. But when our marriage broke down after 28 years, we wondered what happened. Was it possible that there was more to marriage than emotional and sexual intimacy, and we had missed it all these years? Join us as we read Chapter 9 of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage, Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual A...

We had a lot of ground together after Phil "came clean" seven years ago. Our 28 year marriage was functional, but we still felt like roommates, always wanting more, but settling for less. And we thought everyone else was in the same boat. But seven years ago, we discovered three things that have made all the difference, and we believe these three things can take you from feeling like roo...

Have you ever struggled with intruding thoughts that seen to take you hostage, dictating how you will think, feel and act? Well, we sure did! Join us as we read Chapter 8 of our award winning book, Savage Marriage, Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction . You'll see that not every thought in your mind is yours! We encourage you to share this podcast with a friend and subscribe so you don&#...

We receive lots of feedback on our book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction , and sometimes there are some strong emotional responses, like when someone says their spouse threw our book across the room or out the window. So, what do we say when we hear reactions like this? We say, Hallelujah! At least what's been on the inside is coming out! The first step toward recov...

We're releasing the audio version of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage: Triumph Over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction , chapter by chapter, every few weeks on this podcast! If you're someone who'd rather listen to the story than read it (complete with all our emotions on full display), this podcast is for you! In Chapter 7, "Freedom from Shame," Phil and Priscilla learn th...

We're releasing the audio version of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage: Triumph Over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction , chapter by chapter, every few weeks on this podcast! If you're someone who'd rather listen to the story than read it (complete with all our emotions on full display), this podcast is for you! In Chapter 6, "Confessing Secret Sins", Phil and Priscilla deta...

We're releasing the audio version of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage: Triumph Over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction , chapter by chapter, every few weeks on this podcast! If you're someone who'd rather listen to the story than read it (complete with all our emotions on full display), this podcast is for you! In Chapter 5, Phil describes how he attends 4 Days 2 Freedom and learns h...

While talking about porn has become mainstream in many churches, using the "M" word - masturbation - hasn't. Even mentioning it seems to evoke feelings of shame, with many people choosing less offensive words, like "solo sex" or "self-pleasuring". But masturbation has real effects on our body, soul, and spirit, and realizing freedom from the associated idol of lus...

We're releasing the audio version of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage: Triumph Over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction , chapter by chapter, every few weeks on this podcast! If you're someone who'd rather listen to the story than read it (complete with all our emotions on full display), this podcast is for you! In Chapter 4, Priscilla describes how her healing began at 4 Days 2 Hope,...

We're releasing the audio version of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage: Triumph Over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction , chapter by chapter, every few weeks on this podcast! If you're someone who'd rather listen to the story than read it (complete with all our emotions on full display), this podcast is for you! In Chapter 3, Phil and Priscilla describe how Phil "came clean'&...

"Date Night" has become almost a required step for every couple to have a successful marriage, promising emotional bliss for couples who'll stay committed to one night a week alone. And when date night doesn't work, some couples throw in more sex, following programs like the "30-day Sex Challenge". Yet, we meet many couples whose marriages are struggling, while they&#39...

We're releasing our audio version of our award-winning book, Savage Marriage Triumph Over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction , chapter by chapter, every few weeks on this podcast! If you're someone who'd rather listen to the story than read it (complete with all our emotions on full display), this podcast is for you! In Chapter 2, Phil and Priscilla describe how Phil's sin continued to...

We're releasing our audio book chapter by chapter, every few weeks on this podcast! If you're someone who'd rather listen to the story than read it (complete with all our emotions on full display), this podcast is for you! Share it with a friend, and subscribe so you don't miss an episode. You'll be glad you did! And if you don't want to wait for all the chapters to be rele...

If you are a husband, you may have been intimated with the idea that husbands are the "head" of the wife. If you are a wife, you may have been appalled with how your husband has wanted to sometimes rule over you, like you didn't really have a voice or significance. But do you really know what the Bible means when it says the husband is the head of the wife? Well, we didn't! In fa...