Savage Marriage with Phil and Priscilla

Accountability groups have been around for decades and seem to represent the essential pedigree for a good Christian man wanting to show others he's serious about his walk with God. But what happens when men in these groups continue to experience unwanted sexual behavior, sometimes for years, with no apparent improvement? And what about their wives, who are trusting that this band of brothers...

Did you know that about two-thirds of Christian men and about one-third of Christian women say they have an ongoing struggle with porn? Did you know that only about 7% of churches offer any type of support resources in this area for their congregations? Join Phil and Priscilla, as they talk with their guest, Sam Black, Director of Recovery Education at Covenant Eyes, and author of "The Healin...

When marriages are in crisis, the question of which counselor to use, or whether you should change counselors, is a tough one. It's full of emotion, and sometimes a lot of history. Join Phil and Priscilla today as they unpack this thorny issue and share with you questions that you should be asking about your counselor...and also about yourselves. Phil and Priscilla's book,  Savage Marriage...

Nothing is more discouraging than facing a relapse after you've experienced freedom. But a lot of people experience relapse, and it isn't the end of their story. In fact, God wants to show you His plan for overcoming not only the disappointment of relapse, but also for living in freedom afterward. Yes, the cycle of relapse can make you want to give up, but God can show you a path forward,...

Every troubled marriage needs a turning point, where all the hurt, pain and secrets come to light so that God can heal and restore what remains. For many, that day is when their spouse reveals their secrets and shame. But "coming clean" can be much more than just a disclosure of offenses. It can be a throwing off a life of hiding to embrace a new life of transparency. Join Priscilla and...

Is sex a need?  There are very few questions that will generate as much emotion...and impact...in your marriage as this one. Join Phil and Priscilla today as they explain the importance of seeing this question from God's point of view, and how they processed it in their own recovery. Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction, is now available on Am...

Has someone offended you, and you just can't seem to forgive them?  Do you cringe every time you think of them as the pain of what they did wrings out your heart? These feelings aren't unusual. We all have to deal with forgiving people who don't seem to deserve it, or who don't even apologize. Join Phil and Priscilla today as they talk about the real power to forgive any offense, not matter h...

Has someone ever told you that your apology just wasn't good enough? Unfortunately, most people learned how to apologize on the playground growing up, when someone told them to "Just say you're sorry, Johnny!" It didn't work then, and it doesn't work now.  Powerful apologies have the ability to touch the wound of the person you've offended and move you toward reconciliation. Join Phil and Pri...

We've seen couples conquer mountains in their marriages - really difficult situations, like betrayal, wounds from their past, and addictions. But after all these battles have been won, it's not unusual that one thing still remains, and it's the hardest thing to change.  Join us on this episode, and we'll discuss what it is...and how to change it! Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Tr...

When was the last time you cried? Did you know that your tears are so precious to God that He collects then in a bottle? (Psalm 56:8)  Join us today as we talk about the power of your tears, how they show the cleansing and transformation going on inside of you, and how they also have the power to affect others.  Phil and Priscilla's book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual...

Are you going through recovery and reconciliation and wondering how long it will take? We know that the pain and trauma of your past can be suffocating, and that just getting through each day can feel overwhelming. We experienced the same feelings 5 1/2 years ago. Today, join us as we talk about the keys to our reconciliation...and what we're still working on. Be encouraged - God wants you to be w...

Have you ever been frustrated because your spouse ignores the boundaries you've set for them? Have you ever wondered what you're doing wrong, and why boundaries just don't seem to work in your marriage?  Join Phil and Priscilla as they discuss five key principles for using boundaries effectively in your marriage. Used properly, boundaries can put your marriage in a position to flourish. For m...

Many marriages and families suffer from an overcontrolling spouse. Where does overcontrol come from, and what can you do if you live with someone who's overcontrolling?  Join Phil and Priscilla as they share how they addressed their own tendencies to overcontrol. It's time to let go...and let God heal the fears and pride that fuel the overcontrol in your relationship. Phil and Priscilla's boo...

Are you stuck in the middle of an offense with your spouse and just can't figure out a way forward? Join Phil and Priscilla as they talk about one of the keys to getting on the path to reconciliation.  Phil and Priscilla's new book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction is now available on Amazon.com . We encourage you to buy a copy for yourself, and for a friend who may...

Many parents struggle with what to tell their kids about sex. How early should they start? Should Mom, or Dad, or both share? Should they share their own failures and problems around sex? Join Phil and Priscilla, and their daughter Sarah, as they unpack keys for healthy and spiritually rich communication with kids about sex. Phil and Priscilla's new book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and...

Experiencing real freedom from behaviors and thoughts that weigh down your soul is possible, even though many people don't believe it because their personal experience tells them they are destined to have repeated cycles of failure. On this episode, Phil Fretwell and Paul Speed, co-founder of Whatever it Takes Ministries, discuss the keys to living a life of real freedom in your soul. For more inf...

Experiencing real freedom from behaviors and thoughts that weigh down your soul is possible, even though many people don't believe it because of their personal experience with repeated cycles of failure. On this episode, Phil Fretwell and Paul Speed, co-founder of Whatever it Takes Ministries, discuss the keys to living a life of real freedom.  For more information on how you can attend Whate...

Many people live their lives in a prison of triggers, always trying to manage, avoid or deny what they're feeling when they experience something that reminds them of emotional pain from the past. Rather than managing triggers, Phil and Priscilla discuss how you can walk free from them by honestly discussing, evaluating, and getting rid of things that can keep you from enjoying your everyday life.&...

God is with us wherever we go, but somehow we think this doesn't mean the bedroom! Have you and your spouse ever considered inviting the Holy Spirit into your intimate moments? When John 16:13 says the Holy Spirit will lead you into "all the truth," this means all - even truth about your sex life! Join Phil and Priscilla as they transparently unpack what it means to enjoy spirit-led sexual intimac...

The intimacy in your marriage will never be more than your transparency. Join Phil and Priscilla Fretwell as they talk about how they became HOT (Honest, Open, and Transparent) every day with each other, their family and their friends. 

Previous relationships can rob you of experiencing true intimacy with your spouse. Join Phil and Priscilla as they share how to identify these intimacy robbers, and get rid of them, so that you and your spouse can be free to create beautiful new memories of one another.

Sexual baggage from previous relationships or things that you've done can be a real problem in your marriage. These memories can steal moments of true intimacy that are meant only for you and your spouse. Join Phil and Priscilla as they discuss how to get rid of your sexual baggage so you can develop true intimacy with your spouse. Like us on Facebook ! Follow us on Instagram ! Chec...

Phil and Priscilla read chapter one of their new book, Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction , available now on Amazon.com . Ten years into their marriage, they dealt with disappointment and despair when Priscilla discovered Phil was using porn, not knowing this was only the beginning of the real trauma and grief they would experience eighteen years later. Like us on Facebook...